First, the method of ideological guidance
Middle school students have basically lost the childishness of primary school students, but they are not mature as adults. They are energetic, curious and motivated. At the same time, because the development of thought is not stereotyped, it has great plasticity. Therefore, when educating children, families should closely connect with children's thoughts and guide education from the aspects of will, morality and law-abiding. Persevere in instilling the view that knowledge is power into children, guide them according to their learning tasks, realistic thoughts, physical health and other characteristics, and do a good job in a targeted manner.
Second, the target incentive method
Goal encouragement in learning is to help children design learning goals according to the principle of "a rising tide lifts all boats", to stimulate their enthusiasm and make them climb to a higher level of knowledge. Therefore, parents should set realistic learning goals according to their children's ideological quality, cultural foundation and endurance. The goals set for children should not only adhere to high standards and strict requirements, but also be achieved through hard work; There should be both annual goals and monthly and weekly short-term goals. While defining the overall goal, we should also set small goals to be completed day by day according to the subjects, realize and break through them in turn, and constantly "refuel" and encourage them to go step by step like going up the stairs. In order to keep the child's goal in the chest. Parents can make a score list, and intuitively reflect the results of their children's exams and tests on the coordinates with curves, so that children and parents can see at a glance. For subjects that fail to meet the standards, parents should make up lessons or ask for help in time.
Third, the image appeal method
Many children are academically gifted, honest, diligent and polite, which is the result of school and social education, but more importantly, good family education and parents' exemplary role have a strong appeal to children's healthy growth. Therefore, as long as parents strengthen the consciousness of "teaching children to serve the country", work hard, study hard, constantly improve their own quality and set a good example for their children, they will certainly bring out your ideal children.
Fourth, the heart-to-heart counseling method
Parents should talk to their children in time about their psychological and ideological problems exposed at different times and for different reasons. In daily life, parents should do "three diligence", that is, be diligent in understanding their children's thoughts in learning; Observe the child's psychological state in learning; Diligent in heart-to-heart, dredge children's thoughts in time. For those who can't keep up with their studies at different stages because of poor physical fitness, we should encourage them more and blame them less to help them "catch up with the team"; For those who are bored because they are not interested in learning subjects, they should be beaten hard and guided more to help enhance their interest; For those who are discouraged by unsatisfactory test results, we should calmly help them analyze the reasons, find the crux and boost their morale; For disputes with classmates and teachers at school that affect learning motivation, we should help patiently and resolve them enthusiastically. In addition, when talking with children, parents should not only tell them how to do it, but also let them understand why they want to do it, convince others by reasoning, and choose the right occasion in the way of talking, so as to achieve better results.
Five, reward and punishment incentive law
On the premise of ideological education, using rewards and criticisms is also an effective way to mobilize students' enthusiasm. Rewards should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards. If the child's test scores are outstanding, on the basis of school rewards, parents can praise him verbally, inform relatives and friends, expand the scope of praise, give priority to buying school supplies and daily necessities, visit parks, play video games (at home) and watch movies. If you don't study hard and do badly in the exam, you will be severely criticized and punished. Make children always have a kind of learning pressure, effectively change the phenomenon of "learning well and learning badly, learning not, learning more and learning less", and create a glorious fashion of seeking knowledge and making progress.
Six, life adjustment method
Strong physique and full spirit are the basic conditions for doing a good job in learning. Parents should pay attention to scientific methods, adjust their children's lives, let their children eat and have fun under limited conditions, and create an environment conducive to giving play to their intellectual advantages. Parents should take advantage of holidays, work and study breaks to organize family sports competitions, story meetings, knowledge contests, outings, etc. to adjust their children's lives. At the same time, according to the child's physiological endurance, we should arrange the study scientifically, so as to relax and have a work and rest, and ensure that the child can devote himself to the study with full enthusiasm and vigorous energy!