For those of us in our thirties and forties, we should be familiar with the legend of the condor heroes. As a descendant of heroes, why did Yang Kang, with high IQ, fail, while Guo Jing, with average intelligence, achieved great success? Some people may say that Guo Jing is lucky, and everyone he meets is a master. Is luck really a factor in Guo Jing's success? Although it is a fictional novel, we can learn a lot by comparing two characters.
First, a mother makes a child's character.
Guo Jing's mother, Ping Li, is a standard migrant worker. She has no education and status, and great changes have taken place in her family. However, she does not give in to fate, nor does she flatter herself. She cultivated many advantages of Guo Jing: positive, hardworking, independent, unyielding, self-righteous, loyal, responsible and ethical.
Yang Kang's mother, Bao Xire, is super rich and beautiful. In the present words, she is educated and educated. However, the so-called loving mother failed to cultivate Yang Kang's spirit of suffering, let alone Yang Kang's national righteousness, especially her failure to explain Yang Kang's life in time, which led to a major tragedy in her life. It can be said that Yang Kang's failure is rooted in Bao Xiruo.
Second, the father has made the child's future.
Hong Yan Honglie regards Yang Kang as his own, carefully cultivates him, places high hopes on him, but ends in failure. Why? In today's words, Wan Yan Honglie is equivalent to the director and vice president of a large monopoly state-owned enterprise, and is expected to take over as president, and Yang Kang is his successor. Hong Yan Lee has more talent than wisdom, but less virtue. He is scheming all day, and a group of villains gather around him. Those who are close to Zhu Zhechi and those who are close to Mexico are black. Long-term exposure makes Yang Kang equally talented and immoral. Due to the doting of the prince and his wife, Wang Fu's servants, including Hong Yanlie's guests, indulged Yang Kang so much that Yang Kang became a playboy. In fact, Yang Kang is kind by nature. Therefore, fathers who are rich and powerful and pay attention to raising their children may not be better than the poor.
Guo Jing is a single-parent child. In his life, Temujin, Zhe Bie, the seven eccentrics in the south of the Yangtze River and Ma Su all played the role of temporary fathers, and these people have a common feature-down-to-earth.
Three, life needs four kinds of people: expert guidance, noble help, friend appreciation and villain supervision. What determines these four kinds of people is their own personality.
1. Guo Jing was kind since childhood, worshiped heroes, refused to die, and risked his life to protect Zhe Bie since childhood. Thus, Zhe Bie became the first master in Guo Jing's life, and also his first master. It is this character of Guo Jing that makes Temujin the first noble person in Guo Jing's life. Because of this character, Tuo Lei and Hua Zheng became the best students in Guo Jing's primary and junior high schools.
2. Because of Guo Jing's personality, he is kind-hearted, helps the poor and does not give in to power. He met the most important person in his life, Huang Rong, and Huang Rong became the best college classmate, girlfriend and resource integrator in Guo Jing. Guo Jing's classmates were stupid and not confident, but Huang Rong gave him the greatest appreciation and made Guo Jing gradually confident.
3. People are divided into groups. Ouyang Ke is the most famous university classmate in Yang Kang, and Ouyang Ke is a typical scholar with more knowledge and moral corruption. Look at Mu Nianci, another college classmate and girlfriend in Yang Kang. Mu Nianci is obviously not as clever as Huang Rong in guiding Yang Kang, and it is not inclusive enough. He just emphasized what Yang Kang should do, and lacked real understanding and guidance for Yang Kang.
Fourth, a temporary lead does not mean a permanent lead.
Excellent primary school is not equal to excellent junior high school, excellent junior high school is not equal to excellent high school, and excellent high school is not equal to excellent university. According to the present standards, Yang Kang is an excellent student in primary school and junior high school, and Guo Jing is a hard-working student. Life is a relay race, and integrating educational resources is a major event for parents.
1, Yang Kang's teacher is Qiu Chuji. According to current standards, Yang Kang is equivalent to a top student in the High School Attached to the National People's Congress. The level of teachers is first-class in the country, and the IQ of students is also first-class in the country. The biggest by-product of this kind of education is Yang Kang's arrogance.
2. Teacher Guo Jing is the seven eccentrics in Jiangnan. By present standards, he is equivalent to a hard-working private school teacher. The level of teachers is obviously not as good as that of Qiu Chuji, and the IQ of Guo Jing is obviously not as good as that of Yang Kang. However, the seven eccentrics in the south of the Yangtze River cultivated Guo Jing's spirit of hardship and laid a solid foundation for Guo Jing.
Guo Jing was temporarily backward in primary and secondary schools, but it was a great success in college. According to current standards, his four top teachers: Hong Qigong, equivalent to the president of Zhejiang University; Zhou, equivalent to the president of Tsinghua University; Huang, equivalent to the president of Fudan University; Duan Huangye is equivalent to the president of Peking University.
4. Yang Kangli's university teacher is Mei Chaofeng, equivalent to a first-class professor removed from Fudan University. But there is something wrong with her teaching methods, and more importantly, there is something wrong with her psychology, which will definitely affect Yang Kang. Among the five great masters in China, the only one who can be a teacher of Yang Kang is Ouyang Feng. However, Yang Kang killed the teacher's son, which led to his death. It can be seen that teachers cannot be offended.
Fifth, both internal and external cultivation is the king.
Guo Jing also has a mentor-Ma Yu. In today's words, Ma Yu is equivalent to a famous professor in Tsinghua University. He didn't teach Guo Jing martial arts, but only taught Guo Jing to spend more time practicing internal skills and cultivate Guo Jing's strength from the inside out. If you go to the training class blindly and stir-fry the cold meals at school, it is nothing more than the seven eccentrics in the south of the Yangtze River increasing the requirements for Guo Jing's training time. Is it useful? There must be. But the effect will not be great.
Six, read thousands of books, it is better to read a bad book.
Life is short, and books are an ocean of knowledge. When you enter this ocean and travel every day, you will find that life is so wonderful that it can last for 5 thousand years and span 80 thousand miles. Reading is a kind of happiness. Reading ancient books is traveling with the ancients, while reading famous books is traveling with experts. Reading not only increases our knowledge, but also inspires our wisdom. The ancients said: Take the law. The more classic a book is, the more useful it is. Guo Jing's IQ is not high, but he insists that he has learned the Nine Yin Zhen Classics by heart. In fact, he didn't know what it meant when he recited it! But he finally achieved great success.
Seven, I want to learn, I want to learn, I love to learn.
There are four top teachers in Guo Jing, why can't they reach the level of Zhou? Because Guo Jing is a typical obedient child and a bookworm. He completed the transformation from letting me learn what I want to learn to my love of learning, but he didn't transform it into my love of learning. And Zhou? Is a typical learning madman. What he said: You can skip meals, but you can't practice martial arts. Studying is more important than eating! Confucius said: Knowing is not as good as being good, and being good is not as good as being happy (The Analects of Confucius). Nowadays, children generally have three States: some knowledge is asked by teachers and parents, and he can listen to all or part of it or not; He must teach himself some knowledge; He likes to learn some knowledge. We should actively guide these three states. First of all, we all want to learn, then part of "want me to learn" will be transformed into "I want to learn" and part of "I want to learn" will be transformed into "I love learning", step by step, and gradually improve.
In a word, parents should learn from Guo Jing's mother, Ping Li, and even cultivate Guo Jing, whose family conditions are poor and her qualifications are so dull, into a grandmaster. Are there any children with poor education?
The above is for reference, I hope it will help you, please adopt it.