If we want to teach our children how to speak, we need to set a good example for them ourselves.
What should I say when I meet something?
1. hurry, speak slowly;
2. Major events, clearly stated;
3. Small things, said humorously;
4. If you are not sure, be cautious;
5. Don't talk nonsense about things that didn't happen;
6. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do;
7. Hurtful words can't be said;
8. Hate things, not people;
9. Happy things depend on the occasion.
Family members, especially parents, clamor for persuasion and education, make a hullabaloo about mandatory education, and talk like quarrels in daily life, which can easily cause children to completely ignore you, and then parents can do nothing.
If children who do wrong are often reprimanded loudly, it will not only have no effect, but also have an adverse impact on their personality development and mental health.
Please try to educate in a low voice at this time.
(1) A deep voice can make people more rational and calm, and also relax children's psychological defense against rebellion, which is conducive to communication.
Criticizing children in a low voice can not only concentrate their hearing, but also pre-empt them from using high notes.
(3) A deep voice can drive away anger. Parents are the teachers who have taught for the longest time in their children's lives, and what adults say and do has the greatest influence on their children.
How to practice low voice education?
1, criticizing the child for lowering his tone.
Parents reprimanded loudly, children rebelled loudly, and both sides became more and more excited. The effectiveness of communication can be said to be zero, and finally both sides lose.
2. Use the right tone and wording
? For example: I love you, but I don't object to your behavior.
3. Explain your expectations to them.
Tell me. For example, take your child to the supermarket, tell him not to tamper with the goods, and warn him of the consequences if he violates them. You should carry it out from beginning to end, don't threaten loudly.
4. Don't hurt children's self-esteem.
As far as the matter is concerned, don't vent your feelings for your child at will, and don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem.
The above is the original report.
Personal experience
My mother is a typical way of loudly scolding education. Although she can't stand the education of beating and cursing, it has brought me a bad influence. I am still patient with my children, but I still can't help but express it loudly to my partners and colleagues. I didn't mean to criticize or blame anyone, but it sounded like a quarrel.
? Action guide:
"When I educate the next generation, I should learn to educate in a low voice, pay attention to my pronunciation, intonation and words, fully respect his needs, and tell him instead of ordering him. Give a certain range of love and freedom, and build his self-confidence.
When you get along with people around you, you should also pay attention to observing your emotions and expressions and always practice non-violent communication.