Controlling children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and can't be done. Control should be authoritative: 1 must be authoritative when children may make mistakes and everyone should control them. Let your child know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward.
2. Use positive encouragement to let children establish good self-values.
Parents need to take the initiative to teach most of their values and behaviors to their children. Let children grow up in society. Of course, in this respect, examples speak louder than words, and everyone can be a good example for children. It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Therefore, you can't let your child do what you don't want to do, and you can't do it yourself 1 set and let your child do it 1 set. Only by setting an example and paying attention to the cultivation of children's values and etiquette can we teach the next generation with high morality 1.
3. Establish clear family rules and hold regular family meetings.
Children need to know where the boundaries are, what to do and what not to do. Without rules, children feel insecure. There are no more than five or six family rules. To meet the specific needs of families, they must be stated in affirmative sentences and posted. If you violate the family rules, you should make clear the corresponding punishment measures. 1 Once it is established, it must be resolutely implemented, and the family rules must be adjusted and repaired every 1 period. Hold regular family meetings to let the whole family share the process of life development, promote democracy, respect each other and enjoy the atmosphere of love.
4. Give children a certain range of choices.
As the child grows up, it is very important to give her more and more freedom and power to control her life. We should consciously demand ourselves; Even resist the idea that you want to do everything for your children and give them 1 some freedom. Giving children 1 freedom shows that everyone trusts and respects children, and children will respect and love children more.
Set a good example
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Whether parents' words and deeds are right or wrong, they have a far-reaching impact on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
Environmental edification
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
Criticism and punishment
Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
Arrangements to guide the order of life
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
Practical exercise
The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
Praise and reward
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
Guide extracurricular reading
Guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
Use home TV
When TV enters the family, children can gain a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
Attach importance to the power of example
Almost everyone agrees with one sentence: parents are children's first teachers. Indeed, the power of parents' role models is reflected in all aspects of life, and even the influence on children will last for a lifetime.
The process of children's growth is a process of continuous learning. Every move, word and deed of parents have a subtle influence on children. As parents, never giving up self-growth is the best education for children.
Let children see poetry and distance.
Childhood education is especially important for children. Children in this period are like a blank sheet of paper, with strong plasticity and rapid development of ability, which can be called the golden age of education.
What kind of world parents take their children to see will affect their views on the outside world for a long time. At this time, we can cultivate children's perception of beauty and keen insight into the world through subtle reading or cultivating interest, and then experience the vastness of the world and the richness of life.
Arouse children's curiosity
If you ask me, what is the most important thing for a child? I will answer: a curiosity contains infinite possibilities. Nowadays, with the rapid development of society, black technology refreshes people's cognition almost every day, AI artificial intelligence has penetrated into life, VR technology applications can be seen everywhere, and programming robots have entered many families.
Parents should reawaken their children's curiosity and let them discover a beautiful, interesting and novel world. Take children to science and technology museums and experience centers to feel and remember the charm of cutting-edge technology in these times. Let children always be curious and explore, so that they can always stay ahead of the times.
Children who can "play" have a future.
Ma Yun said in a speech about education in China: Children who can play have a future. The past 200 years have been an era of knowledge and technology, and the future 100 years will be an era of wisdom and experience.
The process of "playing" itself is education. Choosing the right "playmate" will directly transform the seemingly "playing" process of children into an educational process. Taking the time to choose the most suitable "playmate" for children is the best education parents can give their children.