The parent-child relationship is not good, and the children will not listen to anything their parents say. Parents spend less time with their children and are indifferent to their feelings. If they want to change their children, preaching and suggestions will not have a good effect, and children will still go their own way.
The premise of establishing a good relationship with others is respect and recognition. In this way, we are willing to cooperate and interact with each other. If people we hate ask us to do something, we can easily refuse, and we will block out some information in our hearts to minimize the overlap.
If parents want to guide their children to establish a good parent-child relationship with their children, it is particularly important for our parents to pay attention to their children. Only when children are willing can they listen, accept and cooperate. Because parents have an emotional foundation, their understanding and appreciation will increase, and naturally there will be more good interactions. So what should our parents do if they establish a good parent-child relationship with their children?
Listen carefully, so listening is love. Listen to the child patiently with your ears and a focused heart. When we put down our judgment and listen quietly, with the child's story, his inner feelings will be released a lot. Even if we don't say a word, that kind of concentration and intention gives the child a lot of understanding and support, making the child feel different from the past. Respect and attention, children will trust their parents with our high-quality listening, like parents to establish communication on the basis of listening, and children will open their hearts and speak freely. The channels of communication will be unimpeded, and a good parent-child relationship will naturally be established.
Recognize and appreciate children's progress, any child has advantages. Only on the basis of accepting children can we recognize and appreciate them, discover their little progress, then appreciate their independence and rejoice at every progress, especially the subtle progress. If we can describe and appreciate them in detail and give them appropriate encouragement, children will be willing to do better under positive incentives.
? Decentralize appropriately, let children choose freely, let them feel that they can make their own decisions, let them have control, and let them be responsible for their own choices. Children can gradually develop their own ability to analyze, judge and distinguish things. Children's initiative, enthusiasm and pleasure will also be mobilized, life will be fresh, and they will have motivation and interest in doing things, so as to achieve twice the result with half the effort. Spend happy time with children. Children like to play when they are young. Playing is their nature and their job. In the process of playing, children can discover their sociality, increase opportunities to communicate with others, exercise their communication skills, learn to accept failure and experience success. Parents actively participate in games with children, so that children feel valued, and children learn to abide by principles and know how to respect others.
Parents are children's mentors and friends when children are in trouble. When children are unhappy and encounter difficulties, their emotions will be affected. Parents should be keenly aware of children's emotional changes, accept children's negative emotions, patiently appease children's injured hearts, and make children feel safe. Only when parents are calm and considerate of their children's feelings can children feel a safe harbor and accept the challenges brought by growth. Then, they can resist pressure or face challenges.
? Learn from parents, then with the birth of children, the identity of parents will naturally form. Only when parents study hard can children make progress every day. We should strengthen our faith, change ourselves and change the world. With the efforts of parents, children will also perceive and bring about changes in their children. The best gift for children is spiritual.
Only when parents study hard can children make progress every day. Family education is the practice of husband and wife, which will benefit children and eventually lead them out of a healthy, happy and happy life.