We often misunderstand the fundamental meaning of education from the beginning.
Why should we have children? Why do we create life? Not only to carry on the family line, but also to participate in a new life, a new life completely guided by you.
But you have to remember that guiding a new life is from the perspective of a mentor, not controlling life. He will have his own ideas and opinions in the future. These are all things you have to go through, but your investment task can only be guidance, whether it is beating or scolding. You can only express your attitude and let him choose whether he wants to follow it or not. Instead of manipulating him to live the life you want him to live.
After all, he is not a robot. He has the right to choose the life he wants.
Don't use it again? I'm doing this for your own good, so I can tie people up.
In fact, only children know whether their parents are good or not, which is the same as modesty. Just because you feel good doesn't mean the child feels good. Of course, what you are referring to here is not necessarily the content of education, but perhaps the way of education.
The same educational content may lead to different educational methods.
The reason why Kong Rong praised pears by later generations is because Kong Rong gave them to others voluntarily, not because his parents forced him. ? Sister wants to eat, too Why don't you give this to her? ? That child is younger than you. We should let him go. Most parents may think that there is no problem with this kind of education. This is the only way he is polite, and it is also the way to teach children manners.
But did it ever occur to you that the elder sister might not want to eat it? Have you ever thought that no matter how young the child is, her own child is the first to be wronged? This educational method is really a crash course in teaching children manners. But did you miss anything? When you deal with these things, you don't consider the children's emotions at all.
When you want to teach your child manners, you also teach him how to compromise himself, how to help others, and how to suppress his emotions. When he meets something he likes, others will give him their love if he likes it. Is this good or bad? That depends on whether you think the result is good or not. Maybe when you compete for the manager in the future, others will beg, say sorry, say that you are so kind, and the position of the manager belongs to others.
Du Jiang and Huo Siyan have noticed this. They don't suppress their own emotions at all. They will also ask their children's opinions in advance about Kong Rong's letting pears. Since they don't want to, forget it and respect your opinion. But afterwards, I will tell you a story about Kong Rong Jean Pear. The role of the tutor played a great role at this time.
I am willing to spend money on education, because I know I will definitely earn it back in the future. But the money in the future can't repay the education that suits my children best at this moment. ? There are many powerful pushers behind every child, and so are you.