Educational methods of children crying.
1, explaining the reason for crying.
We should fully understand children's requirements and treat them correctly. When the child is sad, angry, wronged or crying, parents should let the child see that you fully understand his mood, so that the child will feel much better when someone understands him and will not continue to cry. When children are willfully crying because they don't meet their own requirements, parents should carefully explore the reasons why children must insist, and don't deny their requirements with their own tolerance or value judgment. We must resolutely deny the unreasonable and excessive demands, and we must not spoil them. At the same time, we must explain to them the reasons why they cannot meet them.
2. Take the method of neglect.
The child was unreasonable and tried to cry to satisfy his rude demands. Parents can take appropriate neglect methods to make children feel that crying can't attract the attention of adults, thus reducing the number of times.
But in this way, parents should first reason with their children. When the children turn a blind eye to the truth, parents will take the cold treatment method to deal with it. Parents should not be moved by "tears" and be soft-hearted for a while, but meet the unreasonable demands put forward by their children, otherwise it will cause their children to be lazy again and again in the future.
3. Learn to control your emotions
Children who cry are particularly sensitive, so they are easily influenced by adults' emotions such as anxiety, tension, anger and depression. Therefore, adults should relax and control their emotions without affecting their children. If the emotion has been revealed, it is best to give the child a simple explanation immediately, so as to prevent the child from constantly guessing and aggravating sensitivity. But don't transfer emotions to children, because children don't have to bear the emotions of their parents.
4. Encourage more and criticize less.
There should be less criticism and more praise for children, such as "It's amazing that you took off your vest yourself" and "Look at the puppy on your clothes, it would be better if it was transferred to the front". Children don't do what adults want to do, but as long as he tries his best, don't criticize him. If a child proudly tells his parents, "I washed my hands myself", parents should not rush to accuse him of "splashing water everywhere", but should encourage him to wash his hands first and then help him wipe the water off.
The reason why children love to cry
Generally speaking, children's crying is mainly divided into two aspects. On the one hand, children are born to cry, on the other hand, they are acquired habits. Some children are naturally impatient and easily troubled by trivial matters. Some children think that crying can solve all problems because of their parents' doting. Therefore, to educate children who love crying, we must first understand the reasons why children love crying.
So, how to educate crying children? Because the reasons why children cry are divided into two categories, the correct way to educate children to cry varies from person to person. First of all, parents should understand their children, don't be disgusted because they cry, try to understand them, gradually cultivate their self-esteem, and let them learn to express their feelings in words instead of crying.
Try to control your emotions when educating crying children. Parents are always children's teachers. Parents should set a good example for their children, encourage them more and scold them less. Pay attention to the way of speaking while educating children. As parents, don't always condescend. Try to distract children when they cry. Over time, the problem of children crying will gradually disappear.
The most destructive educational method for children
1, the child always laughs at him when he says rude words. This will make his vocabulary more and more indecent, and his words will make his popularity half dead
2. When children have conflicts with neighbors, teachers or others, parents will stand by their children unswervingly, which will easily make children think that everything they do is right.
Never give children spiritual and moral education, let him mix into adulthood and let him decide everything by himself.
4, the child made a mistake and didn't point it out, so the child would feel guilty. In this way, when he goes out to steal or is caught for other crimes, he will feel that the whole world is against him, but he has become a victim.
5. Clean up everything the child throws casually, and don't let the child do it himself. In this way, children will form the habit of relaxing and hating work, and they will put the blame on others whenever something happens.
6. No matter whether the books and periodicals are good or bad, let them read them by themselves, regardless of them, and don't interfere, no matter how much rubbish there is in the children's minds.
7. Parents often quarrel and swear, and they don't care if their children are present.
8. How much pocket money the child needs is given right, and no attention is paid to cultivating the child's sense of thrift.