Educating children requires both praise and punishment, as well as mastering skills and learning methods. This will get twice the result with half the effort.
Eight scientific methods to criticize children:
1. Let the children explain:
Listen to one side dark, listen to one side bright. You shouldn't listen to one side's accusations, but let the children explain themselves.
Parents remain neutral and objectively evaluate whether the child has done something wrong and why.
2. Learn to empathize:
Parents should put themselves in their shoes, understand the purpose of their children's doing so, and find the starting point of criticism.
Let children put themselves in others' shoes. "Suppose you are that person, how would you feel? Is this right? "
3. First, self-criticism:
Before criticizing children, parents should make self-criticism, lower their posture and quickly narrow the distance with their children.
Parents' self-criticism can also help children learn to reflect on themselves.
4. Only for things, not for people:
When a child does something wrong or bad, the parents' first reaction is not to scold, but to guide.
Let the children understand why they can't do this and what the consequences will be.
5. Teach children to correct their mistakes:
We should not criticize blindly, but let children realize their mistakes through scientific methods and find ways to correct them.
Giving children another lesson with criticism is the meaning of criticism.
6. Choose the right time:
You can't criticize a child before he gets up, goes to bed, eats, or is sick, which will directly affect his physical and mental health.
It's best to sit down and talk to your child calmly. Parents can make demands on their children, and children can also make suggestions to parents.
7. Take a friendly attitude:
Criticize and scold children, and parents should not vent their emotions on their children. They should briefly point out their mistakes and then educate them.
Don't turn over old scores easily, so that children can resist admitting mistakes and disobeying discipline.
8. Respect children's self-esteem:
Don't criticize the child in front of outsiders, let alone beat and scold him in front of classmates and teachers.
Not only adults but also children need to be respected. The child's heart is more fragile and sensitive than we thought.
Many parents have struggled with a question: Do you want to discipline your children?
Take care of it, lest the child cry; Anyway, I'm afraid the child won't learn well.
However, excellent children are mostly the result of quality education, while problem children is mostly the product of problem families.
Educating children well is the most important career for parents in this life.