1, parents can't actually force their children to do what they want. Every time parents hit their children, they will feel threatened and have fear, which will lead to a backlog of worries, anxiety and anger.

2. When I was young, I didn't have the strength to fight back. It's not that the child gave in, but that the child knows that his ability is limited. With the growth of self-awareness, children who are often beaten and scolded will have a rebellious attitude towards adults, and may imitate the behavior of adults to forcibly solve some of his problems. This is not what parents want to see.

3. How do parents feel when they see their children fight back? There may be anxiety, helplessness, anger and so on. The emotions, anxiety, sadness, helplessness, anger and so on hidden behind these mentality are also in the children's hearts.

In the face of children's mistakes, parents should see clearly their emotions and intentions. Sometimes children do wrong things not because they are bad, but because they want to tell their parents that I need to pay attention. When other efforts are ignored, children will change their expressions. Parents can notice what they have done wrong. Of course, this is a hypothesis. Every child has different reasons, so parents need to observe and understand their children.