1. Family love each other is the best emotional education for children.
Because of the nature of my job, I prefer to watch family education TV programs. It is always difficult to understand the inner world of the protagonist before contacting the tiger mother and cat father. Now that I have my own children, look back. Isn't this TV play the epitome of our daily life?
Grandparents' connivance, father's perfunctory and mother's strict requirements made the little girl at a loss. Young, she had to cope with the different demands of adults. Finally, in an argument, her angry mother threw her father out of the car. The children who witnessed all this were depressed for fear of their parents quarreling. Fortunately, everyone's starting point is good, that is, to love their children unconditionally. Because of love, they put aside their bad feelings and opened their hearts. Finally, they realize that there may be something wrong with the way of love. They adapt to each other and help each other. After a difficult road to recovery, the children finally called their mother. Seeing this, my eyes are full of tears. I deeply felt how important it is for children to love each other in the family, especially between husband and wife.
Everyone expresses love in different ways, so we often interfere with children in the name of loving them for their own good. The inconsistency between family members' educational concepts and behaviors leads to children being at a loss. In order to cater to her family, she had to play different roles in different demands, which eventually led to psychological collapse.
Everyone's psychological energy is limited. Children are eager to love and be loved, and they are eager for the harmony and warmth of the family. Isn't it the child who gets hurt the most every time he quarrels? Whenever we are immersed in an argument, we yell, slam the door, throw our mobile phones, and go on the rampage ... Have you ever seen a child's frightened expression and shivering body?
There is a male student in our class. He used to be excellent, simple and kind, lovely and enterprising. But now I don't do my homework, and my grades are countdown, which makes people sigh! The reason is the inconsistency of education between parents. Grandpa thinks his family is a relocated family. With this grandson, life in the future will not be too difficult. Just learn a diploma from the last school. Dad is away on business for a long time. He usually expresses his views on children's education among parents. At first glance, he felt that he was a very responsible father. As a result, when he asked the child, the child said that his father had never checked his homework and rarely asked him. Mothers try to teach their children well, but they can't display their ideas because of grandpa's participation. In a composition, the child revealed his true thoughts through his own words. He was distressed, but he was helpless. He can only look at his relatives because he often quarrels. He can only listen to the mutual accusations between relatives. He can only accept the criticism and anger of his relatives for his retrogression. It's a pity to see such a clever child slipping away from the excellent ranks! It was all for the children, but the actual situation backfired.
It is inevitable that different generations of family members have different parenting concepts. We can sit down and have a serious talk. For the sake of children's bright future, we can reach an agreement on principled issues, understand and tolerate each other on minor issues, create a good family life environment, and jointly improve children's parenting level, so that children can truly feel that you are thinking of him, let them be surrounded by your correct love, and let them laugh in the sun.
Every child is eager for progress, and he really has potential.
"At the beginning of life, human nature is good." Everyone uses his life to pursue a better self. Everyone is eager for progress, and everyone hopes that today's self is cuter than yesterday, and tomorrow's self is better than today.
Yes, children have different foundations, so their grades are different, but how can those children who have been working hard be unmoved?
I'm glad that every student in our class is actively and seriously handing in homework. Every time I am criticized, my child stands beside me. I heard him take a deep breath when I picked up his notebook. After I corrected my homework, I praised him softly, "Your handwriting is beautiful and correct. The writing speed today is a little faster than yesterday. The teacher is really happy for your progress. " As soon as his voice fell, there was cheers. He jumped up and showed off his achievements to his classmates.
When I was in the third grade, Feng Zhanyue said to me, "Teacher Zhang, I know that my study is worse than others. I'm not as clever as others, but when others write once, I write twice. One day, I will surpass them. " He kept his word. Although his grades are still not in the forefront, I am deeply impressed by this little boy. I didn't expect such a big energy field in his timid body. I want to believe that he will create his own world.
When Class 2 and Class 3 were not merged, I took Class 2 science class. Stone gives me a headache, because he walks around in class and talks casually, which makes me unable to attend class normally. But I know this is a clever boy. As long as we guide him correctly, he will become our ideal. Now I am in the fourth grade, and I have the honor to be his Chinese teacher. Gradually, from the beginning of class to now, he can control his own words at will, ensuring a good learning atmosphere in Chinese class. He likes to be a team leader, and after the exam, he will ask me if I have made progress, which makes me feel that he actually cares about his grades, and he cares about whether he can be proved after his efforts! He is eager for progress and affirmation. I know that as long as he is willing to calm down and study hard, he will not be worse than others.
Each of us has unlimited potential, and we have only tapped a little bit of it, just as we only saw the tip of the iceberg, but we didn't notice that there was more space underwater. We should believe in children, their upward faith, their indomitable efforts and that they will eventually become better themselves.
3. Children are your mirrors, so you should always take photos.
The famous German philosopher Jaspers said: "Real education is to shake another tree with one tree, push another cloud with one cloud, and awaken another soul with one soul." Real education exists in every word and deed in our life, and children grow up watching our backs.
What kind of expectations and requirements you have for your child determines the direction of your child's efforts. Any success you get can't compare with the failure of educating children!
I can understand that both parents want to give their children a good living environment and study conditions, but their children need you for a certain period of time. You may say that grandparents bring up different children, and they are all excellent, and there is nothing wrong. In fact, many children who lack parents are insecure, and a sense of security is the direct source of happiness for future adults. What's more, raising an excellent child has a long history than leaving a large sum of money to the child directly?
Some parents compare the current school education with the school education in the student days. Tucao's current school teachers are not as responsible as before, and put the blame on parents. I can understand that when you get home from work, you have to compete with your children for a series of learning activities. You are upset, but the social competition is so fierce. Do you dare to relax your children? Why is there such a big difference in grades in the same class and taught by the same teacher? Children's study time at school is limited, with only one or two Chinese classes a day. How can they improve their learning efficiency if they don't prepare and review well at home? If parents don't always know about their children, how can they say they are qualified parents? Compared with the growth of children, it is quite cost-effective to spend time on a round of games! You have to understand that maybe your unconscious complaint about a teacher has been deeply buried in the child's heart. If your child has no respect for the teacher, how can your child believe in the teacher's discipline? What effect does school education have on him? So, please put down your complaints and move forward with positive energy for your children!
Some parents said that poor academic performance does not mean that children are worthless in the future, and there is no need to care too much about grades. Yes, I have to admit that achievements at this time do not represent future achievements. However, your grades can reflect your requirements and children's learning attitude from the side. Only by keeping a serious attitude can we get twice the result with half the effort. My good friend's grades in primary school are a mess. In junior high school, his parents asked him to be admitted to a key high school, or he would terminate his studies! He was a little worried, so he began to work hard, but because of his poor foundation, he had to pay more time and energy than others. He didn't sleep until 12 at night for three years in junior high school. Facts have proved that his efforts are effective. He was admitted to Gaoxin No.1 Middle School before the middle school entrance examination, and later he was admitted to University of Electronic Science and Technology with excellent results. Now he is an excellent supervisor in JD.COM. Yes, he takes his studies seriously, and good grades will certainly pay off! But if he lays a good foundation in primary school, why should he bear such great pressure? I'm not saying that if you demand too much from your child, or scare him, he will know how to study. In fact, this method is not desirable. On the contrary, it will have a certain psychological shadow on children. What I want to express is that with the encouragement and strict requirements of his parents, he knew the direction of his efforts, fully explored his potential and achieved success. Parents' attitude towards learning is the direction of children's progress.
After maternity leave, I took over our class this semester. What surprised me most was Wang Yu. I just started to join this class in the second grade, and I spent a lot of effort on him, but it didn't work. Later, I communicated with Wang Yu's mother again and again, and she used busyness as an excuse, and my disappointment accumulated little by little. Later, I convinced myself to work hard! This semester, I saw a different Wang Yu. He wrote down every new word stroke by stroke, listened carefully in class and was willing to raise his hand to answer questions. Although there is still a gap between his mid-term exam results and other students, personally, his progress should not be underestimated. In my spare time, I look for the source of his progress. I think if I understand the mystery, won't more children benefit? Wang Yu told me that his mother is very strict with him now. She carefully corrects dictation, dictation, reading, preview, review and other homework and asks for correction. He worked hard and completed every study task very seriously. His mother has great hopes for him, and he will try his best not to disappoint her. Every day after school at noon, I watched him carry a heavy schoolbag. He said that he would finish lunch and then do his homework.
This child with limited literacy in Grade Two is now slowly on the right track. As long as he continues to work hard, I think one day he will break through himself and become an example for us to learn!
As parents, we should be clear about our educational goals. What kind of people we want our children to be, we should be such people first; We don't want our children to become what kind of people, let's get rid of our shortcomings first. We practice, children follow, and a good family style is formed.
I want to share more with you, and time is limited. We'll talk next time. The views in this article only represent my own views. Welcome to share your views with me. Let's go hand in hand to build a better tomorrow with our children!