"Ritual sense" is indeed a very important thing for children, but we don't need to exaggerate the importance of certain things in children's lives-it is indeed important, but it can never be called "the best".

There is never a fixed standard for the "best" things, nor should there be a fixed standard, because there are too many "important" things for children's education, even if the "sense of ceremony" itself is too formal, it is not necessarily good. Moreover, it is not enough for children to have a sense of ceremony from childhood, so the statement of "best" is a bit exaggerated.

More precisely, it is important to emphasize the sense of ceremony in the exam, but it is not the only thing.

When we discuss this problem, we should explain "why is it important?" And "how?" Instead of giving people the illusion that everything is solved as long as there is a sense of ceremony.

In addition, this issue should not be directly opposed to "preaching".

Preaching is a necessary and inevitable problem.

In the process of children's growth, they need our preaching on many things too much, and all this is related to their safety, their physical and mental health and their three views. ...

We often say that parents are role models for children, and even children can learn a lot from what we say and do.

For example, we can respect the old and love the young in our daily life. Even if we don't tell our children that we should respect the old and love the young, they will establish this cognition because of the influence of their parents.

For example, we always try to find solutions to difficulties and setbacks instead of making excuses, so the influence on children must be positive.

But behavior alone can't solve the problem, and there is no necessary preaching.

This is just like we often say that we should give children more positive education, such as appreciation education and encouragement education, but this does not mean that punishment is unnecessary.

"Duo" and "Don't" are two completely different concepts.

Because solving problems in different situations and different severity will never be as simple as we think.

But as I said, I agree with the importance of a sense of ceremony.

One author wrote a passage about the sense of ritual: "Life needs a sense of ritual, which has nothing to do with sitcoms, but about your love for life and your sensitivity to happiness. Leave some time for people who love each other. Life is not always interesting, but people with a sense of ceremony can always activate love. "

We just need to read the first sentence here.

But this does not mean that the latter sentence is meaningless. In fact, it is of great educational significance for children that parents can manage their own marriages well. I don't think anyone will question this. And if the life between husband and wife can be more ceremonial, it will undoubtedly greatly increase the happiness index.

I only pay attention to the first sentence, because it can directly affect children-it is very meaningful and necessary to make children love life and improve their happiness.

We see that many children are not only studying, but also criticized by teachers or parents, and even bullying among some classmates may occur. ...

Life is full of pressure and burden for them, but adults often tell them arrogantly: "It's all for your own good!" " "

So many children hate learning more and more, life more and more, and everything they have to face every day. ...

Extreme children even choose to give up life directly.

No love for life, no passion for life. ...

Can such children be happy? Can they grow up healthily?

So it is obviously very meaningful to give children some sense of ritual in life, don't you think?