Due to fierce social competition and great economic pressure, many fathers are busy with their work, ignoring the education of their families and children, and all of them are on their mothers, which leads to children's rebellion, tense parent-child relationship, children's excessive dependence on their mothers, etc., all of which are the chief culprits for their unsatisfactory grades.
Liu Cheng Lian, a senior family education tutor, said: A wise mother is to return her children's studies and her father's duties to her father. Only when each family takes its place and performs its duties can her children's growth enter a virtuous circle.
From the perspective of family education, Liu Chenglian is a successful student with a score of 100. She raised a daughter with excellent academic performance. She was admitted to both Peking University and Hongkong University on 20 1 1. At present, my daughter has graduated from Peking University and was sent to Vanderbilt University, which enjoys the reputation of "Harvard in the South" in the United States, for further study and master's degree in education.
Some people say it's because her family has good genes. No, even Liu Cheng's daughter's grades in primary school have been average, and junior high school is more serious, and she almost didn't get into high school; High school math scores are the last four times.
Her daughter is an ordinary girl, just like most little girls around you and me. However, due to the correct guidance and education of Liu Chenglian, the stupid bird finally flew first and was admitted to Peking University. What kind of parenting wisdom is behind Liu Cheng Lian?
On 20 13, Liu Chenglian was awarded "Model Parents in China", on 20 14, her family was awarded the first "Scholarly Home" in China on 20 15, and her family was awarded "National Beautiful Family" on 20 15.
The reporter asked her about her education experience. Liu Chenglian bluntly said: It is very important for parents to work together to educate their children. Dad doesn't contribute, and it's useless for mom to work hard. But many dads don't realize this problem and need a wise mother to guide them.
199 1 Liu Chenglian, who grew up in the countryside, graduated from Shanxi University and was assigned to No.1 Middle School in his hometown as a history teacher. He has an "iron rice bowl".
1996 On New Year's Day, by chance, Liu Chenglian accompanied her husband on a business trip to Taiyuan and stayed at the home of a college classmate. This classmate's son is as big as his daughter, but because of different living environments (one in the provincial capital city and the other in a small county), his son is much better than his daughter.
"I graduated from the same university. Why is her son so much better than my daughter? " Liu Chenglian's psychology is very bad. After returning home, I immediately decided to give up my "iron rice bowl" in the county and go to Beijing to drift north.
Her husband didn't agree or object, and finally decided that Liu Cheng should ask for two months' sick leave first, then go to Beijing for two months, and then take her husband and daughter to Beijing when she can get used to it.
"Although I am bitter and tired, I have seen the prosperity of Beijing, and I can't go back to that small county." So, at Liu Chenglian's insistence, she finally persuaded her husband to float to Beijing together, for herself and for her daughter's education.
Liu Cheng Lian said that educating children requires the joint efforts of parents. If at the beginning, my husband didn't support me to drift north and didn't come to Beijing to work hard together, but stayed in the county to accompany my daughter, then the negative impact on her education would be immeasurable.
Liu Chenglian often compares his family to a pole. The easiest way to walk is that mom and dad are at both ends of the pole and the children are in the middle.
If you want your child to walk steadily, the strength given by both parents should be balanced. If you are strong, I will work harder. If you are high, I will do anything.
If one party is too relaxed, it will make the other party very hard, and the two sides will be unbalanced and uncoordinated, which will make the middle child stunted.
Liu Chenglian admits that she and her husband are also "mortals" who grew up eating rice, oil and salt, and they will also quarrel because of differences on children's education. It's good to be my husband. Every time we take turns to give each other a step down, because we know: we are all for the good of our children.
Liu Cheng Lian said: Raising children is like a cart. Husband and wife are the two wheels of this cart. Only by respecting and helping each other can we push the cart of children's education well. Educating children has never been a parent's business.
Fathers should also shoulder the heavy responsibility of family education. The standard of a good father is not just to earn money. If parents want their children to grow up healthily, no one should be absent. Parents have a clear division of labor, so that a family is orderly and warm, which is the best love and education for children.
Liu said that Lian Jia once had a notebook, which was a "family rule", similar to what we said. In the Family Law, there are not only parents' requirements for their daughters, but also daughters' requirements for their parents. take for example
After dinner, put their bowls and chopsticks in the kitchen and wash the dishes twice.
Those who violate the code will not only be punished by money and housework, but also be publicized on the small blackboard at home. For example, it says:
In order to cultivate children's good habits, "family rules" are necessary; Want children to always adhere to the "family rules", can not be separated from the father's participation and support.
Liu said that at the beginning of the family, his father often didn't participate or behaved badly. Once, his daughter said, "I won't accept punishment!" Don't you think dad didn't follow? ! "
This is the power of example! Liu Chenglian urged his father to participate in the children's education, and the children have developed many good habits since then.
There is a saying in Poor Dad Rich Dad: Success means having time to take care of children.
Many fathers always want to earn more money, but they don't know that every time you are absent, it will leave indelible harm to their children's psychology; Fathers always want to give their children the best material conditions, but they don't know that what children need most is your company.
Fathers, in any case, please don't miss the growth of your children. Spend more time with your children, even if it's only half an hour a day.
The failed family education is different; Successful family education is always similar: husband and wife love each other and work together to educate their children.
A clever mother is by no means hands-on, but knows how to retreat from difficulties, return her children's studies to her children, and return her father's responsibilities to her father. This will make you relaxed, your children better and your family more harmonious.
This is also what Liu Chenglian, a senior family education tutor, has always emphasized: parents should work together to educate their children, and both are indispensable. # There's a trick to being a parent #