Many mothers are too busy to take care of their children, so they may ask grandparents to take care of their children.
However, this original "reassuring" choice turned out to be less beautiful than expected.
The author is an ambitious man.
The first thing to talk about is a fire incident in Tik Tok some time ago.
The sudden outbreak of the epidemic led to the need for health codes in and out of the mall, and this story happened in the mall.
We can see that the mother-in-law in the video is making a scene with the mall security guard because she doesn't want to show her health code. My mother-in-law's daughter-in-law will only stand by and play with her mobile phone, and she doesn't want to interfere in her mother-in-law's affairs at all.
Of course, an unreasonable mother-in-law like this, in fact, the family can't do anything about her.
The most surprising thing happened. The little girl in the video seems to be going to the toilet. She went to see her grandmother first and then her mother, and found that no one could take care of her at all. Then she took off her pants in the mall and peed in public.
The focus of the comments was on the little girl, and I was particularly surprised that this happened.
So, what kind of results will "intergenerational education" lead to?
We can see that in many parks, grandparents are playing with their children, which basically belongs to the form of free-range. The proportion of grandparents is significantly higher than that of adults. In Xiong Haizi, there are more boys. They bully other children, steal other people's toys and occupy other people's territory.
We can also see a little boy throwing a parabolic object in the sky and pressing the button in the elevator in many news stories. Even if his grandmother is by his side, she is the one who protects his grandson.
Little girls are different.
I once saw such a scene when I was walking in the park: grandma was playing with a girl in the park, and grandma was chatting happily with other grandmothers. Suddenly, the little girl obviously wanted to go to the toilet, but there was a sense of difference between men and women at a young age. She wanted to find a toilet, but her grandmother told her fiercely, "You can just solve it in the grass next to her." Nobody saw it. Let's go. "
But I'm a bystander.
But the little girl clung to her pants, and grandma took her arm impatiently and took her home.
All these cases tell us that the children brought out by grandparents may lose their sense of self-esteem, or feel inferior or overconfident.
Grandparents will also take care of their children in many indigenous ways. I also found through online search that there are countless such cases. What I see most is the feeding problem.
We can see that there are many videos on Tik Tok to teach parents how to get rid of their children's bad habits of picky eaters. But there will always be one or two videos interspersed in these videos. For example, the good habit of children returning to their hometown during summer vacation or winter vacation and then eating in the city is completely gone.
I'm not saying that bad habits will be formed in rural areas, but the education methods of grandparents may have fallen behind the development of this era.
Grandparents prefer their children.
We can see that the child in the video just returned to his hometown for a week and didn't eat well.
What we see most at relatives' dinners is also the scene of a group of elderly grandparents chasing their children to feed. Many grandmothers even chew things up and feed them to their children, which is actually very unsanitary. Many young parents will also reject grandparents' behavior, but it will often lead to the escalation of family conflicts.
Another child is ill. Can he really cover himself with a quilt and blanket?
The answer is: no.
In fact, children can't wear too many clothes when they are young, especially when they have a fever, which can easily lead to suffocation and death. However, grandparents believe that you must cover a lot of quilts, wear a lot of clothes, and sweat to get better.
The biggest problem of intergenerational education is probably that there is a great error between the two generations in educating their children, and with this increasing error, the two generations will continue to have conflicts, which is not conducive to the harmony of a family.
With the progress of science, grandparents' thinking can't keep up with the development of science, and even adopt their own "indigenous methods" to directly "spit out" the uselessness of science.
Young parents are more advanced in educating their children, and choosing to take care of their children by themselves can also enhance the relationship with their children and make family relations more harmonious.
The reason why parents choose intergenerational education is that they are too busy at work.
This happens to many families.
Young parents want to ask hourly workers or nannies to take care of their children, but grandparents feel questioned. Their most common sentence is: "Does the nanny have biological grandparents?" Is it better for children to be taken care of by their grandparents? "
In fact, there are many cases that show that the nanny industry is mixed, good will be good, and bad will be bad.
Almost every once in a while, you can see the abuse of children by nannies on the news. In order to make money, the black intermediary doesn't even have a physical examination for the nanny. Some nannies will have some minor infectious diseases when they enter their employers' homes.
For today's young parents, on the one hand, they should take care of their own work, on the other hand, they should choose to educate their children. This may be the reason why the two-child policy and the three-child policy are constantly opening up, because young people are unwilling to raise the next generation! It's not that they are selfish, but that they can't take care of so many people at all, not to mention that they may have a group of young brothers and sisters to take care of.
But under such circumstances, young parents, especially those born after 1990s, will still choose to take care of their children.
Therefore, I hope the elders of these young parents can understand that they don't have much time to take care of their children. Elders should give small families more time to run in, and there is no need to "brush the gun off" when taking care of children.
A child who stays with his parents will get a good education and corresponding care, and will have a greater chance to grow into an independent and caring child.
The birth of every child is a test for parents, but as the elders said, without this experience, sometimes life is not perfect.
The elders have worked hard all their lives and should enjoy leisure in their later years. We shouldn't let them take care of their children at the age when they should be enjoying themselves, bring us up with a handful of shit and urine, and even pull their children's children when they are old. This should not be their old age!