Wit, like the legendary Alexander the Great, made a decisive decision to cut it off with a sword when encountering an untied knot, and then concentrated all his strength on success and glory step by step. Down-to-earth people can not only see opportunities, but also grasp them. It is difficult for us to give a clear description of this ability to seize opportunities. However, there is no doubt that only with such qualities can we truly become the darling of life and the trendsetter of the times. Napoleon is a good example. He is familiar with all the skills related to fighting, including making ammunition, and there is nothing he doesn't know. Of all the trees, palm trees are the least prone to bending. However, in the dense jungles of South America, thick mulch can't stop it from absorbing sunlight. It is said that it can always find a big tree nearby and hold it up until it sees the sun.
Once, a pastor in Cape Cod, Massachusetts, USA received an invitation from a place to pray for peace and prosperity for the land there. It turns out that this is an ancient local custom, and a priest is invited to pray every April. So the priest accepted the invitation and went to that place as promised. When the priest saw the land, he shook it and said, "What is needed here is fertilizer, not prayer."
There was a farmer whose life was getting worse, so he had to sell half of his farm to a young man who had just made a fortune. Young people are so rich that they are fully capable of buying two farms, which makes farmers envious and can't help but ask, "Do you have any secret of success? Why am I always unlucky? " "You lack wisdom and common sense." The young man answered frankly.
As long as we constantly adjust the perspective of observation and find the best perspective, then we can see a person's true face through this perspective. At this time, we like to put him in the light and see his shortcomings and deficiencies clearly from our specific perspective.
In real life, we may all have seen or experienced such a thing: in school, some students with excellent academic performance are enviable, but when they leave school and enter the society, they are not as good as those students who were originally considered dull and stupid. This is because the excellent students in the school have mastered a lot of book knowledge, but they are often helpless in the face of harsh practical problems, and those relatively stupid students can get ahead because they have a very tenacious and persistent spirit. If you want to succeed, you must work as hard as an ox or a horse. Even those talented and promising people can't ignore small and important details.
Shakespeare is a model of grasping wit and common sense, and his plays are rich in content and all-encompassing. From princes and ministers to farmers, regardless of color, profound or simple thoughts, noble or dirty conduct, clown or dude, all kinds of personalities and passions, everything in his vision can be integrated into his works. Wit is more important than ability.
Some people lack the necessary wisdom and common sense. They can't stand the slightest blow, but some of them really don't deserve our attention. Others follow Don Quixote's example and fight against windmills, desperate to compete with all kinds of journalists and editors who have the privilege of speech. As everyone knows, the power that can almost decide people's life and death is in the hands of these people. Washington is the best example in this regard. One of the important reasons why he has such personality strength is that he can tolerate and restrain all kinds of attacks and ridicule.
Atwood Ward is a famous humorous writer. He discovered the secret with sharp brushwork:
"Virginia is a good place with outstanding people and talented people, but I was humiliated by an editor in a small town in the south of it."
"On that occasion, I went to his newspaper. He received me warmly because we had cooperated in business before. First, he praised my appearance and said that I was gentle and gentlemanly. But for a fair price, I later went to another newspaper to print posters. The editor immediately changed his face when he learned that my works were all deceptive tricks and that I was an old rascal who lied everywhere. This makes me very angry, but I have to keep silent when I think that he can attack me with more vicious words in the newspaper. "
"Here I remind you with my personal experience, whenever dealing with those newspapers, you should be careful, and it is best not to annoy reporters, otherwise he will make your reputation worse, which is exactly what he wants. But you're stuck in the mire and can't wash it clean. Generally speaking, in the editorial team of journalists, excellent people account for the vast majority, but there are also many villains mixed in, so be careful. "
Once, a traveler said to a Jew, "You Jews are smart, witty and good at doing business. You have gained a prominent position in the United States and Europe, and this position seems to be very stable. "
"You're right, some people do well," replied the Jew. "But why do you always mention their business ability?"
"Don't you think business is an ability?"
"ability? No, you are wrong. What a genius. Let me tell you the difference between them in business. You go to a store and sell the goods the owner needs. This is the ability; But if you sell the goods the shopkeeper doesn't need to him, you are a genius. Don't you think we Jews are such geniuses? "
John astor is a great American businessman and a very witty man. On one occasion, his ship was suddenly caught in a storm at sea. At this time, the passengers on board thought something was going to happen and ran to the deck in despair. Only the young Astor still lay quietly in the cabin and put on the most expensive clothes. He thought, even if the ship unfortunately sank, if it can be saved by luck, at least an expensive dress can be saved, and the loss will be reduced. Keep your true colors, and you will have your own personality.
The worst thing about a person is that he can't be himself and keep himself in mind and body.
In this world, you are a brand-new and unique self, so be happy for it!
No matter good or bad, you just need to manage your little garden well, no matter good or bad, you just need to play your instruments well in the orchestra of life.
What does it mean for a person to give up his true colors? It is to imitate others and run behind others' ass, so that people's characteristics are mistaken for what they should pursue, and most of them will not be a big deal. Even if they achieve great things, they have no characteristics. This is a big taboo for those who achieve great things.
Edith Allred of North Carolina, USA, is a very sensitive, shy and chubby girl. Her mother is very old-fashioned She thinks it's stupid to dress too beautifully, and clothes fit too well and break easily. It's better to make them wider. Because of this, Alaide never attends any party, and there is nothing to be happy about. After school, she doesn't take part in any classmates' activities, even sports activities. The reason is that she always feels "different" from others.
When she grew up, she married a husband several years older than her, but she still hasn't changed. Her husband's family is stable and confident. She wants to be like them, but she just can't. She tried to imitate them, but she never got what she wanted. Her husband also tried to help her break through herself several times, but it always backfired. She became more and more nervous and irritable, afraid to meet any friends, and even lied as soon as she heard the doorbell! Later, she failed completely. She is afraid that her husband will find out the truth one day, so every time in public, she tries to pretend to be happy, even too much. Finally, she thought of suicide.
But she did not commit suicide in the end, but survived well.
So what changed this woman who almost committed suicide? It's just an accidental sentence. Carnegie continued to preach:
One day, her mother-in-law talked to her about how she educated her children. She said, "No matter what happens, I insist on keeping them true ..." "Keep them true!" These words flashed through Alaide's mind like a light, and she found that all the misfortunes originated from her trapping herself in a mode that did not belong to her.
She changed overnight! She began to be herself. She first studies her personality, recognizes herself and finds out her strengths. She began to learn how to match colors and choose clothes styles to wear her own taste. She also began to make friends and joined a group-although it was only a small group. When they asked her Lord
At the time of the event, she was afraid at first. But every time she comes on stage, she gets more courage. Although it has been a long process-but now she is much happier than in the past.
The story Carnegie told us is actually about the importance of keeping it true.
The problem of maintaining one's true colors is "as old as human history." Dr. James Gordon Kilkay pointed out that "this is a problem for all mankind." Very energetic. The hidden cause of neuropsychological problems is often the inability to maintain oneself. Angelo Patrick has written 13 books and published thousands of articles on children's training in newspapers. He once said, "The worst thing for a person is that he can't be himself and keep himself in mind and body."
But this phenomenon of imitating others is quite serious in Hollywood. Sam wood, a famous Hollywood director, once said that the biggest headache for him is to help young actors overcome this problem: to keep themselves. Each of them wants to be a second-rate Lana Thales or a third-rate clark gable. "The audience has tasted the taste," sam wood kept telling them. "They need something new now."
Sam wood worked in real estate for many years before directing business cards such as Others, Mr. Hips and Battlefield Bells, so he cultivated his personality as a salesman. He believes that some rules of the business world are also fully applicable to the film industry. Imitating others completely is sure to accomplish nothing. "Experience tells me," sam wood said, "that it is safest to try not to use actors who imitate others."
Paul Bern, the personnel director of an oil company, once talked about the biggest mistake made by job seekers. He interviewed more than 6000 people and wrote a book "Six Skills for Job Hunting", so he should be very clear about this problem. He said: "The biggest mistake job seekers make is that they can't keep themselves. They often can't answer questions honestly, just want to say what he thinks you want to hear. " But that's useless, because no one wants to hear something untrue. Hypocrisy
Qian Wei James once said: The average person's mental capacity utilization rate does not exceed 10%, and most people are not sure what talent they have. Compared with what we should have achieved, more than half of us are still awake. We only use a small part of our physical and mental resources. People often live in their own limitations; We have all kinds of resources, but we often can't use them successfully, that is, you and I have so much untapped potential, so why worry that we are not like others. Genetics tells us that you are composed of 24 chromosomes of your parents, and these 48 chromosomes determine your inheritance. There are hundreds of genes on each chromosome, and any gene is enough to change a person's life. You are unique in this world. There has never been anyone like you before, and there will never be anyone like you again.
Even if your parents met and fell in love and gave birth to you, there is only a one in three hundred trillion chance that there will be someone just like you. In other words, even if you have 300 trillion brothers and sisters, they are all different from you. Is this just a guess? Of course not. This is a completely scientific fact. If you don't believe me, read a book about it.
Be yourself! This is also the advice of American composer irving berlin to later composer george gershwin. When Berlin and Gershwin first met, their reputation was excellent, but Gershwin was just an unknown young composer. Berlin appreciated Gershwin's talent and hired him as a music secretary at three times the salary he could earn. However, Berlin also advised Gershwin: "Don't accept this job. If you accept it, you can only become Owen Berlin's second at most. If you can persist, one day, you will become a first-class Gershwin. "
Gershwin accepted the suggestion and gradually became a great composer in contemporary America.
People like Charlie Chaplin and everyone else have learned this lesson, and most people have to pay the price first.
When Chaplin started filming, the director asked him to imitate the famous movie stars at that time. As a result, he accomplished nothing before he began to be himself. Bob hope had a similar experience. He had been singing and dancing for many years before, and it was not until he developed his talents that he really became popular.
When mary mark Brad first went on the radio, she tried to imitate an Irish star, but it was no big deal. It was not until she herself, a country girl from Missouri, became the most popular radio star in new york.
Jerry Ottley has been trying to get rid of his Texan accent, dress up as a city dweller and declare that he is from new york, just to attract people's smiles. Later, he began to pick up the lyre and sing country songs, which established his position as the most popular cowboy in movies and radio.
In this world, you are a brand-new and unique self, so be happy for it! In the final analysis, all clear art is self-expression. You can only sing and draw by yourself. Your experience, environment and heredity make you. No matter good or bad, you just need to manage your little garden well, no matter good or bad, you just need to play your instruments well in the orchestra of life.