How to educate children to grow up and look at things with a positive attitude?
Parents can't use adult thinking to uglify the beautiful world in their baby's eyes, can't swear in front of their children, and can't take complaining about the world as a mantra. Children's ideas about the world come from their parents. Parents give the concept of negative indifference, and the baby will become negative and indifferent. If children hear some bad things in society outside, ask their parents when they get home. Parents should explain to them that there are some poverty, ugliness and violence in society, but more are truth, goodness and beauty.
Only when parents look at the world with a positive and recognized attitude can children be open-minded and contribute to healthy growth.
Emotional problems will affect the operation of internal organs of the body, and even cause diseases in severe cases. Among the "seven emotions", the emotion conducive to growth is "happiness". Laughing often or keeping a happy mood can promote the secretion of growth hormone and make people grow taller. On the contrary, worry, thinking, sadness, fear and shock are typical emotions that make people depressed. If this mood continues for a long time, the child will definitely not grow up.
Parents are children's first teachers and role models. If parents quarrel and shout every day, the child's character will definitely not be cheerful. Only when the husband and wife are harmonious can the children be happy and the family be harmonious, and the children can be in harmony with other people's photos. Sometimes things that hurt feelings happen between husband and wife. For the sake of children's future, we should be more tolerant and patient with each other.
Educating children begins with praise.
Babies' hearts are as fragile as glass, and even small things can easily make them sad, so every word of parents should be very appropriate. In particular, some scolding words are direct harm to children, and this kind of harm will change children's character when accumulated. "Why can't I do anything well?" "How did I give birth to a child like you?" These words will make children feel desperate, complain and get angry with their parents. Therefore, even if the child makes a mistake, he should be gently criticized and clearly explain the reasons for scolding him. At this time, the child may pout, but he doesn't resent his parents in his heart, because he also knows that he is wrong.
Children's growth is inseparable from praise. They hope to get endless care and praise from their parents. Sometimes children will deliberately use some tricks to attract their parents' attention. At this time, praise can help children eliminate stress, feel happy and constantly surpass themselves, which is the most effective growth catalyst.
Parents should educate their children from an early age, and children's growth cannot be separated from their parents' careful care. In addition, parents should have correct educational ideas, scientific educational methods and strong educational ability. Especially the one-child family, it is the first time to educate children and lacks experience. Therefore, we must learn from the successful experience of others and make our own plan to educate our children.
Cultivate children's self-confidence by encouraging methods
Encouragement is the most important aspect of cultivating children. Every child needs constant encouragement, just as plants need sunshine and rain. Children can't grow up healthily without encouragement. But we often despise the encouragement to children and often forget it. Many people mistakenly believe that children need education and continuous education, while education is more about indoctrination and discipline.
When a child tries to do something without success, we should avoid proving his failure to him by words and actions. We should separate things from people. Failure in doing one thing does not mean that the child is incompetent, but he has not mastered the skills yet. Once he has mastered the skills, he can do things well. If you take an accusing attitude, your child's self-confidence will be hurt. At this time, it is not as simple as mastering skills. Children may never do it. For adults, the first thing to do is not to lose heart and lose confidence.
If you want to encourage children, the most important two points are: first, don't satirize him, so he will be hit to varying degrees; Second, don't praise him too much, lest you have pride. In the process of educating children, we must always take this into account: don't let children lose confidence in themselves. At the same time, we should know how to encourage children's self-confidence.
Let children gain confidence from the joy of success.
The condition of cultivating children's self-confidence is to let children get successful experiences, and too many failed experiences often make children doubt their abilities. Therefore, teachers and parents should put forward tasks and requirements suitable for children's level according to their development characteristics and individual differences, and set a suitable goal for children to accomplish through hard work. They also need to learn one thing successfully to gain self-confidence. Besides, they should pay special attention to children who lack self-confidence. For example, for timid children, we should consciously let them undertake certain tasks at home or in class, and cultivate boldness and self-confidence in the process of completing tasks. Creating a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere, like the sunshine and air on which human beings depend, affects children's physical and mental health and intellectual development all the time.
In addition, we can also help children, give play to their advantages, and cultivate and improve their self-confidence and self-motivation with the help of their own advantages and shortcomings.
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The most famous way to educate children.
1, give children time to play casually, and don't arrange life too regularly.
Thomas Armstrong, an American scholar of children's education, pointed out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid filling their children's time with various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.
2. Teach him to care about others.
Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.
3. Encourage him to do more exercise
Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.
4. laugh often
Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.
5. Creative compliments
When children behave well, don't just say "good." Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today."
However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.
6. Ensure that children eat healthily.
A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.
7. Stimulate his inner artistic talent
Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called "Mozart effect", exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.