Cai Xiaoxiao, an educator known as a "genius magician", once said, "The child is your own. Don't pay attention, no one will care. "
Parents are the first responsible person of children and the most important teachers in their lives. Even after the children go to school, the important position of parents should be ranked first.
What a child will look like in the future depends on how much parents have paid today and how much effort they have made.
Cai Xiaoxiao was a country doctor when he was young. The family is poor, but he has trained six children into five doctors and one master.
Lu Yu, the host, honored him as "Dr. Dad", Cui Yongyuan asked him for the "secret recipe" of parenting, and Harvard professor asked him for children's classics. His family was rated as "the most beautiful family in the country".
Referring to the "secret recipe" of parenting, Cai Xiao's novel: Children's intelligence is similar, and the correct guidance of parents is the first step to make their children become talents, and the key lies in the primary school stage.
When Cai Xiaoxiao mentioned five experiences of parenting, one of them was "to create a good learning and successful atmosphere for children with love."
In order to get their children into school as soon as possible, they chose several schools and moved many times. After the children entered school, Cai actively communicated with teachers, cooperated with schools, and did a good job in home-school co-education.
Cai Xiaoxiao and his wife almost sacrificed all blind date activities. As soon as night falls, the family will sit around the lamp and read together. In the morning, he will show children English and Japanese programs to cultivate their interest in foreign languages.
Under the guidance of their parents, the six children respect the old and love the young, and have a very good relationship.
Education is not to let children work hard alone, but to let parents run with their children. The foundation of flying is the love and companionship of parents.
Especially since primary school, the new environment, new life circle and new knowledge have made children's brains and bodies start a new round of rapid growth. Parents should spend more energy and time on their children instead of throwing them at teachers.
The establishment of study habits, the arrangement of study time, the development of social skills and the shaping of personality will all advance by leaps and bounds during primary school. /kloc-before the age of 0/2, children can accept it with an open mind and not resist their parents' words. If parents guide them well, these short six years in life can lay a solid foundation for children in the next few decades.
The British philosopher Locke once put forward that "the means of education is not to teach homework, but to cultivate children's good habits from an early age."
Cai Xiaoxiao believes that once a child's bad habits are formed, it is very painful and difficult to get rid of them. So he attaches great importance to children's early education.
In learning, he emphasizes diligence and intelligence, and he and his children constantly optimize their learning methods and ways; Ask children to develop good study habits and finish their homework immediately after returning home; Children are required to have a sense of time and know how to plan their life and study.
He encourages children to read widely and develop their interests in an all-round way.
After children enter the senior grade, learning is actually striving for study habits. Without good study habits and correct learning methods, with more and more subjects and more difficulties, children will only become more and more at a loss.
From the first grade of children, parents can't let themselves go, but encourage their children to listen carefully in class and learn to take notes in books; After returning home, finish your homework quickly and in time, keep your handwriting neat, and review and preview every step; Develop their own dominant disciplines and cultivate their interest in various subjects; Learn to grasp the key points and discard unimportant details.
Grade one or two should standardize children's learning attitude, straighten out their learning methods and establish their learning habits. By the middle and senior grades, even junior and senior high schools, children will feel comfortable.
Cai Xiaoxiao believes that moral sentiment is one of the prerequisites for a person to become a talent, and the earlier he carries out moral cultivation, the better.
He asked children to be determined from an early age and cultivate their mind, tolerance and courage; He led children to read a lot and let them mold their souls from books; He cultivates children's persistent perseverance and sense of responsibility, guides children's initiative everywhere, and keeps children's strong internal driving force in learning.
Don't be afraid of lack of wisdom, lest you don't cultivate morality!
Moral sentiment is a child's soft power, which will affect whether the child's future direction is correct and how far he can go.
However, many parents educate their children after they have bad habits, instead of nip in the bud and try to put an end to them before they have bad habits. This kind of re-education actually takes twice as much time and energy, and requires more cost and even price.
Rousseau, a French philosopher, said: The perception a person receives in the period of innocence and purity will have an indelible impact on his life. Most children's problems are in adolescence, but they are all formed at an early age, that is, 0- 12 years old.
Eriksson's theory of social psychological development points out that from birth to 18 years old, every 3-6 years is a leap period of character growth.
In the six years before entering school, children mainly lived in a small family environment, which was relatively simple. When they entered the school group at the age of six, although their relationship with their parents was still very close, external factors began to intervene constantly. In this rapid growth, children will continue to accept various external shocks. Parents must give guidance and help, actively and orderly help children establish moral education, help children prune branches and leaves, and prepare for becoming towering trees.
After reading a large number of parenting cases, we will find a commonality, that is, parents attach great importance to their children's early education, especially in the six years of 6- 12, because children's adolescence is a watershed in the relationship between children and parents and a huge turning point in their growth.
Before puberty, children are a blank sheet of paper, obedient to their parents and very trusting. But after puberty, children become more and more confident in their abilities and respect their inner thoughts. At this time, any education of parents has become "deaf ears".
Many parents say that their children are too old to be obedient. In fact, this is a sign that children are too obedient.
If parents can help their children to lay a good foundation of study, character and conduct before 12 years old, then even in adolescence, children will not go astray or go astray, and will adjust their state in time to successfully pass the junior high school stage.
Otherwise, it will be easy for chickens to fly and dogs to jump at home
Between 6- 12 years old, that is, during primary school, children are in the stage of absorbing a lot of new knowledge, making new friends and accepting the impact of foreign values. At this stage, the child's everything has not yet taken shape, so parents must seize it and help the child develop good habits and establish a correct three views.
If you lack the overall understanding, planning and specific operation methods in these six years, you will feel confused, and the educational method of blind people touching the elephant will only delay the growth of children.
This pillow parenting book, "Accompany your child through primary school for six years", gives you advice and detailed growth plans for your child's primary school for six years!
Young in grade one, connected to adapt to the new environment; Cultivate interest in learning and establish good habits in the second grade;
In the third grade, I stopped at the edge of the "landslide"; The fourth grade skillfully improves the learning difficulty;
The fifth grade gives consideration to both growth and study; The sixth grade calmly faced junior high school and successfully met adolescence.
The author of this book, Mr. Yu Min, has more than 20 years of first-line teaching experience. She captures the law of children's growth, points out the real growth needs of children from the perspective of children, and helps parents accurately grasp the key points of raising children and solve problems.
Grasp the key direction of 10 in children's growth, from each school year to holiday planning, from learning direction to psychological growth, from character cultivation to moral conduct, and interpret it in detail.
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This book is the guiding light for children's six-year education, so that parents can know what they are doing and have confidence and methods in education. Parents with primary school students are advised to read carefully.