I am afraid that children will get "bad" habits when playing with friends, and parents will keep their children in captivity at home; Let children go crazy, parents worry that their children lack discipline and are too savage and uneducated. Parents are worried about the concept of "captive" or "stocking".

In the traditional concept of moral education, it seems that a good boy is a good boy, and a good boy is obeying the rules; Don't be the first, don't be the last ... so, many parents can't wait to put their children under their noses and watch them for 24 hours. However, education experts point out that children who grow up in this environment lack self-confidence and courage, and lack education in efforts and setbacks.

"captive" love, choose neighbors to live.

Gao and his wife are working families. Because of their busy work, they have no time to take care of their children. Babies are taken care of by nannies most of the time. Nanny takes children to the yard to play with a group of friends every day. The child is two years old, which is the age when he likes to imitate. Gradually, parents found that their children were infected with bad habits such as spitting and kicking people. "No one at home teaches children these things, and they must have learned badly outside." The couple reacted quickly: let the nanny "circle" the children at home.

In ancient Meng Mu, people lived with their neighbors, but now their parents are even worse. Experts believe that the key to this situation is that parents should spend more time with their children and tell them right and wrong. Children always learn bad habits in collective life, but this does not stop them from being with other peers. Sometimes children learn to spit and so on. Just to attract attention, but not necessarily "learning badly". Parents don't emphasize it, but it's okay.

Some early education institutions also pointed out that another manifestation of "captivity" is doting. Parents treat their children as their darling, and they can't let them suffer a little "injustice", and they are obedient to their children's requirements. As a result, some parents go to fight with their neighbors in order to vent their anger on their children; Children don't want to participate in the activities organized by the school, so parents write "sick leave notes" to their children ... A group of selfish little emperors and bullies have grown up.

"Stocking" is not "laissez-faire"

Does "stocking" really make children "bohemian" as parents worry? A father's godson experience makes people think. He tried to teach his son to read when he was two years old. He teaches him several words a day, and he can remember them all. But children don't know the purpose of learning to read, so they give up this "teaching plan". So, he began to let his children go out into the wild. Every holiday, he sent them back to their hometown in the northeast to "go wild", fight wild, make snowmen, throw mud, do whatever they like, and even learned the dialect of swearing in the countryside. Now the child goes to school, and it is not bad at school. He doesn't fight or curse, and he is still a child prodigy who loves to learn.

In fact, "stocking" is not uneducated. Some parents regard "stocking" as "laissez-faire" Parents who are busy with work, career or part-time jobs all day provide only the protection of their children's life and are indifferent to their inner world ... Education experts believe that in modern society, closed and isolated "captivity" should be avoided as much as possible in the family, and the style of unrestrained and laissez-faire should also be abandoned.

Close to nature, scientific "domestication"

Early education experts believe that the "task" of preschool children should be to play. "Capturing" or "stocking" is not conducive to children's physical and mental growth. The key is to cultivate their awareness of the rules of the game, which can be targeted step by step.

Experts believe that children should have their own peer groups since childhood, and should not just become "playthings" and accessories of adults; Parents should "tame" their children scientifically like smart coaches in order to create a real "swift horse".

In fact, some experts have put forward a new type of family education, that is, nature education, which is to let children get close to nature, get in touch with society, broaden their horizons, cultivate sentiment, exercise, temper their strong character, cultivate their love for nature and human beings, and let children gradually understand many principles of being a man.

Another one: netizens share the changes after the children are released.

First, I am brave. It used to be difficult for him to tell stories to children. He used to be coy, but now he can tell stories to children vividly. Also take the initiative to sing to children.

Second, be helpful. His kindergarten class is Montessori experimental class. As we all know, Montessori education is a mixed-age system, and there are children of different ages in a class. He helps his young classmates wash their hands every day. After a nap, he helped his younger classmates get dressed and help the teacher fold the quilt. He used to be unwilling to bring candy to the children from home.

Third, be polite. The teacher told me that in kindergarten, he would take the initiative to say hello when he met teachers from other classes. When the teacher is squatting, he will help the teacher move the chair and say, "Please sit down, teacher!" " "

Fourth, focus on things. He is absorbed in watching TV, doing his homework or playing with toys. Even when he was doing his homework, he didn't seem to hear the TV ringing beside him. The teacher also responded that he was the most attentive one in the class and always followed the teacher (they are studying preschool courses now), but he often couldn't sit still before.

Fifth, living habits have improved. He never defecated in kindergarten before, but he insisted on going home, which led to abnormal defecation. Now this problem does not exist.

Sixth, independence. He goes to kindergarten by bike every day. It's a kilometer's journey from my home to the kindergarten, and he has to cross a main road 50 to 60 meters wide. He can already go by himself. I can also trust him to go to the supermarket seven or eight hundred meters away to shop independently.