As the old saying goes, "No matter how poor you are, you can't have poor children." Many people pursue poor academic qualifications, but it does not mean being stingy. They just don't want their children to form a wan ku character because of their rich family, and parents themselves will not be extravagant, which is understandable. But many parents are too poor to support their children. There are two situations here:

(1) The family obviously has good conditions, but it deliberately pretends to be poor, and the support for the children is poor to the point of being stingy in all aspects, but the parents are not harsh on themselves, which is a double standard.

2 the family is really poor, thinking that poverty is due to raising children. Excessive restraint of children's desires and curiosity does not allow them to have anything that their peers have.

No matter what kind, I instill in my children almost every day: the family is very poor and will soon be unable to open the pot. You can't spend money indiscriminately. It is almost impossible for a child to grow up in such a family atmosphere without psychological shadow, and its harm is not realized by short-sighted parents. Generally speaking, children raised in excessive poverty will have these characteristics:

1 Insecurity: Always instill in children that there is no food at home, and children will definitely have a sense of fear and crisis. Over time, they will form an insecure character, and even in their later love and marriage, it is difficult to feel safe.

Money is supreme: because my parents Qian Qian said that when I grow up, I will think that money is the most important thing in the world, even above family, love and friendship. You can sell everything for money.

3 easy to feel inferior and lack self-confidence: in any case, we are going to step into society. In society, we lack self-confidence, and even follow Nuo Nuo and dare not try it easily. This is a relatively unfavorable character in society.

4 alienate and even hate parents: they will complain and complain about their harsh treatment, and it is difficult to communicate with their parents.

Seeing so many dangers, the problem comes. How to correctly cultivate children's view of money?

First of all, for example, when I was a child, it was difficult at home for a while, but the children didn't understand this. When they see something interesting and delicious, they will clamor for it, or even seriously overspend their pocket money to invite their classmates to dinner. My parents talked to me seriously about the current situation at home, and I realized that I couldn't spend money like this. Therefore, if the family really encounters an economic crisis, there is no need to tell the children frankly. The children will understand and will spend the crisis with their parents. There is no need to chase the children every day and say that the family is poor.

Secondly, if you simply want to prevent children from developing bad habits, you should also pay attention to the scale and not double standards. It is necessary to moderately satisfy children's desire to buy, so that children do not spend money indiscriminately, but they should also save and spend money correctly.

Finally, "no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education." Since you choose to raise children, you have to take responsibility. Even if the material does not reach the level of wealth, it can be made up spiritually. Parents have love, family harmony, and give their children the best education they can, so the children who grow up will be "rich".

"A good childhood cures a lifetime, and a bad childhood takes a lifetime to heal." Don't let children bear the shadow of life because of excessive poverty, and try not to be too entangled because of childhood poverty. This is what we can do now.