Based on this principle, many parents advocate frustration education for children, and even artificially create setbacks, deliberately let children fail and deliberately set traps for them.

Maybe we all misunderstood the frustration education. The so-called frustration education is to let parents guide their children to face the hardships and setbacks in life correctly. The key point is to cultivate children's attitude towards setbacks, rather than artificially creating setbacks.

So what is the impact of human setbacks?

It is a wonderful thing to hit a child's self-confidence. No one is born with confidence. Self-confidence is to gain a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence through a successful thing in peacetime.

If parents deliberately create setbacks, then children's self-confidence will be hit, and they will feel that they are useless and a loser.

So how should parents guide their children correctly?

0 1, there is no need to deliberately create setbacks. Nine times out of ten, the more you grow up, the more you understand this sentence. Although the child is still young and has little experience, he will understand the meaning of this sentence as the child grows older.

Then parents don't need to create additional setbacks, but only need to guide their children how to treat failure correctly when they fail.

For example, a child is good at playing chess and wins every time he plays with other friends. If he loses occasionally, he will be very sad and even cry. Then you can take the opportunity to tell your children that not everyone will win forever.

02, entertaining is actually a natural thing. When you meet flowers, you can tell your children how flowers grow. When you meet the wind, you can tell your child how the wind is formed.

For example, Chen Meiling, the superman's mother who sent her three sons to Stanford University, asked a question when she was cooking. She doesn't know this question, but she will turn off the fire, cook later and take the children to find the answer first.

Therefore, education does not need to be deliberate, but can be realized through some small scenes in life, so that children can learn to grow up in such an environment.

03. Learn to let go. Actually, there is no need to deliberately create setbacks. When parents are willing to let go, children will grow up slowly and become stronger inside.

Many times parents are reluctant to let go, so children will become fragile inside. When parents are willing to let go and let their children try and bear, children will grow up and become strong inside.

Most parents like to arrange everything for their children, willing to spare their children pain and independence, which will make them vulnerable, while those parents who are willing to let go will make their children strong.