Children are parents' mirrors. If children have strong self-esteem, then parents are generally people with strong self-esteem. Parents will not only assimilate their children, but also often ask them to do so. Therefore, to cultivate children's healthy self-esteem and prevent self-esteem from being too strong, parents should first correct themselves, face life with a peaceful attitude, face children and set a good example for them.
2. Grasp the best educational opportunities for children with high self-esteem.
Children with high self-esteem will pay more attention to their own performance and other people's evaluation, and react more strongly to behaviors that hurt self-esteem. Therefore, parents should treat it calmly, pay attention to the occasion, and adopt individual guidance and positive education methods. For example, if a child makes trouble at the dinner table, parents can use the opportunity of the child going to the toilet to tell him what to do, instead of educating him in front of everyone; When visiting other people's homes, parents can praise their children's behaviors (such as actively washing their hands) and ask their children to correct their behavior of not putting away their toys in time when they are praised, so that children will accept it more easily. Education can only get twice the result with half the effort if we make the best use of the situation and find the right time for education.
3. Cultivate a correct view of winning and losing in the education of children with strong self-esteem.
Parents should instill a correct concept of winning or losing in their children and let them know not to judge heroes by success or failure. Let children know that don't just focus on the results, the process is also very important, as long as you work hard, failure is not shameful. Moreover, all kinds of difficulties, setbacks and failures in life are ubiquitous and inevitable, just like the changes of the four seasons, storms and lightning, they are all natural phenomena. Let children remember that failure is the mother of success. In this way, gradually help children to regard setbacks and failures as a road to success, as an opportunity to exercise their will, as an opportunity to learn lessons, accumulate experience and move towards success.
4. The education of children with strong self-esteem helps to analyze the reasons for failure.
Some children will be self-deprecating and depressed after failure. For such children, parents must help them analyze the causes of failure and make correct attribution. For example, some failures are because it is really too difficult for children to solve, and the result of such failures is doomed. In this case, children should know whether there is a gap between their ability and the need to solve problems and whether they need to seek help before doing things; Some failures are caused by objective factors, so such failures are not real failures. With the maturity of time and conditions, children will naturally succeed.