On may 2 1 day, a mother issued an emergency po warning, "please stay away from this family if you have children", indicating that you don't want other children to encounter the same situation. The incident took place in China and Shanghai Qibao Vanke West Fri Bookstore, with words and monitoring pictures supporting each other. According to the juvenile law, indecent scenes have been deleted, but some netizens alleged that if this happened in the United States, the police would immediately arrest the boy and thoroughly investigate his guardian.

Parental justifying a fault is more harmful to children.

In the corner of the bookstore, a 10-year-old boy dressed in blue abducted a 5-year-old girl to the men's room. According to the complaint of the mother of a 5-year-old girl, the boy actually took off the girl's * * and touched it at will (for more exaggerated behavior, please see the statement below). The girl's mother found the boy's parents, asked for an explanation and apologized seriously, but the other parents had a bad attitude and even said, "Your child is voluntary." When protecting children becomes right or wrong, children's bad habits may never be changed!

Sex education needs to be seriously incorporated into family education.

The girl's mother was very angry, but pointed out in the article, "My child is only five years old. You wronged my child of your own free will. How did you become a parent? What's wrong with you from Shanghai? " I am very indignant at the boy's parents' refusal to apologize. Parents take their children out, and the children accidentally offend others and do impolite things, but parents feel indifferent. "Nothing, just children playing." A conniving attitude will make children not know the boundaries between people, which is the most basic truth of being a man: respect.

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Especially this time, it is related to the physical safety of children, so it is urgent to carry out sex education in advance. According to the unilateral statement, we still can't know the boy's motivation, but if the boy's mother really pretends to be a Shanghainese and thinks that others are voluntary, then we can see that at the moment when it happened, parents ignored it with the mentality of "boys don't suffer", which shows the lack of the concept of sex education. It is not only girls who suffer, but boys may also be violated.

Five-year-old girls may not know physical autonomy; Ten-year-old boys may be exposed to inappropriate information.

A five-year-old child is about to go to kindergarten, and a ten-year-old boy is an ordinary little brother to her, but no matter he is five or ten years old, every child should learn how to protect himself and how not to infringe on others' physical autonomy. According to news reports, fortunately, the girl told her mother what happened. If parents don't pay attention to it today and children don't say anything, this girl may be violated in the future. Boys may also think that this behavior is harmless!

In the past, many experts and artists called on parents to meet their children as early as possible to protect their health. For example, the female artist Sui Tang once said that it was not too early to know about sex education when she became a mother. Even when my daughter is two or three years old, she will take her to see picture books related to sex education and establish basic concepts.

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Not only children, but also adults who need guidance most?

Back to the bookstore incident, if you are the boy's parents, how should you guide his behavior? In addition to being alert to us, if you encounter cross-border situations, you should ask for help immediately; It is equally important to establish the boundaries between children and their own bodies, and even many adults have to correct their own cognition. At the bottom of the Twitter message area, even some netizens did not care: "I feel that you sanctimonious people, just because two children are curious about the opposite sex, you are online here! Alas! 」

If adults think it's important to keep physical boundaries, they will naturally do what they say in their daily lives. Whether it is words and deeds or words and deeds, children will see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. But if adults always avoid talking and perfunctory, children may get inappropriate information from other channels; To make matters worse, parents usually lack courtesy and respect when interacting with others, so children may imitate, and curiosity may make them do bad things to others.