In a short time, you can choose to communicate with him directly. If he really wants to attend, go ahead. Don't think about the result, but pay attention to participation. You can choose to accompany him by yourself, no matter what the result will be. Let children establish a correct attitude and pay attention to participation, regardless of the outcome.
If the child is young, you can tell him some related stories and impress him with them. The most important thing is to let him hear your sincerity and heartfelt wishes. Not everyone is born first, this is a process of accumulation. Educate him ideologically and let him know that ranking is not that important. The important thing is to work hard.
Self-confidence should be cultivated from an early age, and parents need not have a headache. Cultivate self-confidence, start slowly and never give up. Here are a few examples:
Material rewards, this is the most basic, many children have their own likes and aspirations, let him complete a task, what level can he get rewards, the more he participates, the more courageous he is and the more willing he is to do it, and his self-confidence will gradually improve.
Some children have little contact with people since childhood, and feel afraid or insecure about strangers and strange things. These are all normal things. At this time, parents should try to find his interests and help him to participate in outdoor activities, friends' parties and travel. Try to make him talk more.
Let children do adult things, let him realize that it is not easy to be a parent and grow up as soon as possible. Give him a chance to choose, let him choose as much as possible, help him analyze, and the final decision is still in his hands. Don't be too strict, let alone beat and scold. I feel afraid of being beaten by my mother since I was a child. Now sometimes when you stand on the podium, your voice will tremble.
Participate in large-scale activities, speech activities, composition competitions, math competitions and so on. These can help children not to be afraid of those external challenges.
Wait, there are many ways. Try to let children spread their ideas without control.