In fact, at first, the word pattern was used to describe the layout of the whole room, but gradually, people gave a new explanation to the pattern from the philosophical point of view, and the pattern refers to people's tolerance and mind. The specific explanation is everyone's cognitive range of things. To be more specific, it is people's world outlook, outlook on life and values. The formation of these three views determines a person's character and destiny.
What determines the size of a person's pattern? Everyone is different, some people have a big pattern, and some people don't. So, what affects a person's pattern?
First, does a person have a broad vision?
Say? Why not go to Wan Li Road to study thousands of books? In fact, this sentence also has some truth. Because no matter how many books you read, books just enter your mind and are not really seen and felt by you.
On the contrary, you have seen a bigger world and more things, and your vision is naturally different. This is also why, there are always people on the Internet who say that children from rich families are more temperamental. In fact, this is also because they have learned a lot from primary school and seen a lot. And how much a person has seen has a great influence on his world outlook.
Second, the influence of family background and surrounding environment.
Is there such a saying? Children of dragons, chickens and mice can make holes? Although it seems discriminatory, family background and its surrounding environment do play a decisive role in a person's pattern.
If the people around you are short-sighted, then in the process of growing up, people will be influenced by the ideas of some people around them, and their horizons will naturally not be much higher. Or in such an environment, people can't help but go with the flow. If you don't cater to the ideas of people around you, they will feel that there is something wrong with them.
Third, people's IQ.
IQ affects the pattern, which sounds incredible, but it is reasonable. Because if a person's IQ is not enough to make him think about higher-level things, then the pattern of this person is naturally not much better. The so-called pattern is also accompanied by constant thinking, slowly changing from small to large.
Fourth, human adversity quotient.
Adversity quotient refers to everyone's ability to face difficulties and setbacks. This also has a great influence on a person's pattern, because if you don't have enough ability to face setbacks, once you encounter any difficulties, it is easy for you to start giving up and complaining.
Such people, even if their IQ is higher, the pattern can't be smaller. On the contrary, the stronger the ability to cope with setbacks, such people can find their own direction even in difficulties.
The pattern of children affects their character. Maybe many parents don't realize the importance of pattern size to their children when they see it here. In fact, the size of patterns has a great influence on children's character building.
Children with small patterns will be selfish and petty.
As mentioned above, children with small patterns are narrow-minded and narrow-minded, and it is easy to form a selfish character. Because they have never seen anything better, they will have a strong possessive desire for what they have, and even begin to be complacent when they get a little success.
And such a child, adversity quotient, naturally will not be too high. In the face of setbacks, it is easy to feel frustrated and unable to successfully get out of the predicament.
Children with big patterns are confident.
Contrary to the above, children with large patterns will not be complacent because of a little achievement, nor will they be proud because others are not as good as themselves.
Children with a big pattern have always been full of confidence in themselves, have a strong sense of expectation for the future, and are willing to work hard for the future they want. In the face of difficulties, such children also have a never-say-die spirit, stronger toughness and more endurance.
This model affects all aspects of children. It is actually very helpful for parents to learn the pattern of cultivating their children.
In terms of learning,
Children's pattern is bigger, their interest in learning will be stronger, and their enthusiasm for autonomous learning will be higher. And unlike many children who cram for exam-oriented education, children with big patterns have their own goals and more learning directions.
We all know that knowledge is endless, and it is certainly more beneficial for children to learn more. Whether this knowledge is useful or useless to parents, knowledge alone can change a child's temperament.
As far as life is concerned,
Children with large patterns are also more likely to make friends, because children with large patterns will not be jealous or discriminate against others because they encounter a little setback or achieve a little success. Such children are kind and gentle, and treat people more sincerely. I believe many people are more willing to get along with such people.
At work,
Children with large patterns will tend to be stable and rational when they grow up. At work, such people will be more cautious about future planning, more careful about their work, and naturally more likely to succeed.
How to make children have a big pattern? Since the pattern is so important to children, how should parents cultivate their children to have a bigger pattern?
1, show the children more about the world.
The best way to shape children's correct world outlook and broaden their horizons is to let them see the world more, instead of memorizing the knowledge in the book, so that they can feel the scenes described in the book and see more things. Don't be trapped in a small world like a frog in a well. If you make some achievements, you will feel great.
2, often discuss problems with children, rather than blindly instilling.
Many parents always like to tell their children when educating them. Is that what you did? Or? You should do this? But the way of education is actually not very good.
When educating their children, parents should not blindly instill what they think is right into their children, but should discuss with them so that they can dare to speak and express their ideas. In fact, this is also cultivating their independent thinking ability.
3. Replace blind praise with special encouragement.
When many parents praise their children, they just say? Be smart. 、? Are you great? However, this kind of praise is actually unintentional. Parents can give their children special encouragement, such as? Son, is your painting very creative? 、? Son, are you good at playing the piano? . Children are often praised in this way, not blindly arrogant, but also knowing which part they are good at.
4. Lead by example
Since it is necessary to cultivate the pattern of children, the pattern of parents themselves cannot be too small. Therefore, before educating children, parents should improve themselves and broaden their horizons, so that children can be influenced by their parents in the process of growing up, broaden their horizons and have a bigger pattern.
It's also good for parents. Many times, the world outlook of parents and children is not unified enough, which is prone to family conflicts. If both sides can't convince each other, such a conflict will be more intense.
The word "parents need to keep pace with the times" has been mentioned more and more frequently in recent years, but it may sound too high, so many parents do not put the word "pattern" into their own educational ideas and methods when educating their children.
But for children, model education is very important, and I hope every parent can understand it. It is not only a correct educational method, but also a correct educational concept. The times are progressing, and so is education.
Therefore, parents should not be limited to the previous education mode, and education should also progress with the change of time, not to mention that family education is so important for a person's growth. Parents should not be too relaxed. It is said that raising a child 100 years old, worrying about 99 years. For parents, educating children is not only to make children grow up, but also to make families grow up.
For many parents, it used to be taken for granted in childhood, but now it seems impossible to educate their children in the same way. Parents' thoughts must be improved first, and children's education can be improved. Therefore, this is not only to educate children, but also to educate parents. In order to successfully educate children, parents need to work hard to improve their own models.