Meng Wenxiao. Confucius said, "No violation." Fan Chi, his son, told him: "Ask me about filial piety, and I said' no violation'." Fan Chi said, "What is it?" Confucius said, "People are born with courtesy; When you die, you will be buried and sacrificed. "

Confucius' education of his disciples is not only enlightening, but also pointing out the problems directly, and it will be different for different people and give different inspirations according to the different personalities asked. As a doctor of Lu, Meng is one of the "Three Huan". He is very powerful and gentle. When Meng asked about filial piety, Confucius only said "no violation".

Filial piety means "parents only worry about their own illness"

Meng asked about filial piety. Confucius said, "Parents only worry about their illness."

Meng was born in a noble family, arrogant and extravagant. Confucius believes that as a son, there are many unjust acts, which is the greatest unfilial. People's illness is beyond their subjective will, but what we can control is our thoughts, language and behavior, and we must never let our parents worry about things other than our illness.

3. Filial piety is "respect"

Ziyou asks filial piety. Confucius said, "Today's filial piety can be raised, while dogs and horses can be raised." Disrespect, why not? "

In view of the concept of filial piety in the society at that time, Confucius believed that "raising relatives" was an inevitable requirement of filial piety, but it was the minimum requirement after all. A higher level of filial piety should be that children "honor" their parents and "respect" their parents from the heart.

Filial piety is sincere and enjoyable.

Ask xiaoxia. Confucius said, "Color is difficult. If something happens, the disciple will handle it; There is wine and food, sir. I used to think I was very filial? "

Confucius once again put forward respect when answering Xia Zi's question about filial piety, that is, to let parents feel their children's heartfelt love, not only to solve the problem of food and clothing, but to cultivate and respect filial piety. Respect and form from the inside out, sincerity, dedication and respect from the inside out, and the external appearance must be pleasant and gentle.

Extended data:

Understanding of "Asking Filial Piety" in The Analects of Confucius

Looking at the "filial piety" in the Analects of Confucius, it is not difficult to find that "filial piety" has no fixed form and concept in Confucius' field of vision. Because the object of "filial piety" is different, the answer varies from person to person. Although Meng, Meng, Zi Youhe all raised the question of filial piety, their specific circumstances were different, and Confucius also gave different answers.

The core of Confucius' moral system is benevolence, which is not only the foundation of filial piety, but also the ultimate goal that filial piety should strive to achieve. The original meaning of filial piety is that children do good to their parents, but Confucius linked it with the highest principle of life "benevolence" and made it "the foundation of benevolence"

In his view, filial piety is the starting point of "benevolence". If everyone can be filial, then fewer people will make mistakes, social morality will be good and the world will return to benevolence.

References:

People's Network-Confucius said filial piety: filial piety should come from inner respect.