In the process of growing up, children are rebellious in psychology and behavior. This is a relatively mature and independent performance.
Parents' educational ideas and concepts are backward.
Nowadays, most parents usually ignore and give up their children's family education and growth education. Therefore, parents have little educational experience and usually do not pay attention to their children's behavior in a very special period, which is the main objective reason for this tragedy.
What's more frightening is that you can't tell education from learning.
Exchange some personal experiences, hoping to help parents and friends.
Renew ideas and concepts. Learn more coping experiences, and at least learn from the news and accidents around you.
Just to say one thing, learning and education are not the same thing.
Usually, too many parents regard learning as growth before education. Think that learning is everything.
Study is poor, you can work hard and make progress slowly. But for rebellious children, once they are ignored and have problems, they may delay for a long time or even miss the whole study period.
Communicate with teachers more to understand students' living conditions.
The main reason is that teachers are experienced and have many ways to deal with the thoughts and behaviors of children of different ages.
Children show special psychology and behavior such as rebellion and impatience. If they can't handle it themselves, they should ask teachers and their relatives and friends for help.
Most children, there will be no casualties in the accident. However, if you don't handle it properly or in time, the child and you have been "revolting". In this case, you should find relatives and friends who are close to your children to help solve it. Never let go.
Respect children's thinking and behavior.
What is respect? It is very simple, that is, moral identity, and then slowly communicate. If it is not particularly urgent, the best way is to treat it coldly first, and then suddenly "attack" after the child has cooled down. This effect is relatively better.
Otherwise, children's rebellious mentality is more serious. Over time, they often betray their parents, which is even more troublesome.
Pay attention to communication methods.
It is forbidden to use criticism, simple and rude beating and cursing, and cold reception. It is necessary to look at the "poor performance" and "poor thinking" in the process of children's growth.
Emergency needs to be calm and ask for help in many ways.
In this case, in fact, we can all see that parents are inexperienced, ignoring the existence of children's anger, and even less respecting the existence of children's thoughts and behaviors.
If parents "care about their children's behaviors and ideas", in most cases, children will find that "all tricks are useless" and gradually "die down".
When the child's rebellious behavior is very strong, parents must respect the child's "small thoughts" and "small behaviors" no matter how they deal with it, otherwise the child will take stupid behaviors such as "diving" and "jumping off a building" in order to show that he knows his own strength.
In other words, children's excessive behavior is actually partly due to parents' inexperience and being forced out!
More importantly, parents have no experience, did not anticipate their children's stupid behavior, and let their daughters solve it without asking more people for help, otherwise the tragedy may not happen.
The world of children is different from that of adults, so parents must accumulate more exchanges and experiences with them.
Respect, respect children's thoughts and behaviors in the world, otherwise no amount of communication and education will add fuel to the fire!