For children aged three or four, the first method of family education is to encourage them to do something. Don't blame the child blindly because he didn't insist on finishing it, but show affirmation and appreciation for every effort made by the child.
The second is to punish children for a short time. For three-year-old children, don't let them go through a long punishment period, but in order to avoid the serious development of the situation, it is also good to let the children suffer less setbacks, but the time should be short. After the punishment, try to let the children's attention shift to other things.
Third, help your baby behave well by playing games. For example, children should be prepared before meals, wash their hands and put away their small tableware, and don't touch things when washing their hands.
Also, the typical sacrifice of a four-year-old baby is that he will pay more attention to the game. When children are having fun, it is especially difficult to let them go or stop. Because four-year-old babies have a strong sense of autonomy, they know what they want, so if parents force them to stop, they will get a stronger way to complain. Sometimes in order to meet their own needs, children will hide the truth to achieve their goals, but they don't know that this is the wrong behavior.
The second method of family education for three or four-year-old children should be to love children reasonably. Don't be too strict and don't be coquettish.
When educating their children, parents should educate their children with correct and reasonable love, not too harsh, not to beat and scold their children; You can't be proud of your children. These two extreme ways are not conducive to the growth of children. When educating children, we should point out their mistakes in time and let them correct them. For example, if a child hits someone, parents can't say, "My child is really energetic!" This is a sign of misleading and conniving children. Many grandparents have this situation. If the child is wrong, he is wrong.
Parents should have a good attitude when educating their children.
Parents should maintain a good attitude when educating their children, mainly because they are contented and have "high standards and low requirements" for their children. After all, it is a child. For a child, even a little progress is good. For example, it is difficult for him to tidy his room. If a child can fold several clothes, parents should encourage him, but be specific, such as "your folded clothes are really good, keep working hard", and don't say "you are really great" in general.
Guide children to behave well by playing games.
Children like role-playing. If children don't eat well, parents can guide them to eat by playing games. For example, take the children's bowls and chopsticks, let the children put them neatly, and then the parents put the tableware in turn, let the children arrange the performance, and the children will cooperate very much. But it's time to eat, and the children can't play endlessly. Parents can talk it over with their children and play games after dinner.
The time to punish children should be short.
When a child makes a mistake, the punishment time for the child at this stage should not be too long, otherwise it will lead to some negative effects. For example, the child always throws peels and scraps of paper on the floor. In order to punish the child, parents should let him sweep the floor and pay attention to cleaning for a few minutes. Don't take too long, otherwise children will feel insecure and lack understanding of their parents.
Treat children's lies and deception calmly.
It is normal for children aged 3 or 4 to lie. Parents should deal with it calmly, don't lose their temper, or feel incredible. Parents might as well tell their children some stories, such as the classic story of the wolf coming, to let them know the disadvantages of lying. Through story education, children are greatly touched. When telling a story, be emotional and make it easy for children to understand.
Parents should pay attention to the crying problem of children of this age.
3, 4-year-old baby's crying is often purposeful, such as missing mom, eating a snack, going somewhere to play, and so on. Parents should pay attention not to pay too much attention when their children are crying, and don't have obvious different reactions from usual. Otherwise, children will cry more and more, and they will never stop until they reach their goals.
On the contrary, if parents pretend to be okay and go about their own business, children will get bored when they cry for a while, then stop crying slowly, and then rarely pretend to cry to meet their own needs.
Family education methods for children aged three or four 3 1. Don't do everything.
There is a big difference between two or three-year-old children and babies. Their psychological development is at a big turning point, and children begin to change from passive position to active position. If parents still give priority to control and arrangement, but it does not conform to the age characteristics of children, it will inevitably cause children's resistance. Parents should emancipate themselves from arranging everything instead of everything, give their children the initiative and give full play to their enthusiasm. Two-year-old children like to eat with their own spoons, but they can't bring the rice to their mouths, which leads to rice being scattered everywhere. Parents often worry about this phenomenon and forcibly take the spoon away. To this end, the child cried and was unwilling. At this time, parents can prepare two spoons and parents can take one. Parents can demonstrate and explain, remind and inspire, and send meals to their children's mouths. This can not only satisfy the child's self-help psychology, but also prevent the child from going hungry. It can also promote the healthy development of children's body and intelligence and cultivate children's good habits.
Second, let children do more.
The famous educator Suhomlinski said: "Children's wisdom is at your fingertips". To let two or three-year-old children quickly learn to use electrical appliances correctly and coordinate their whole body movements, only children can do it themselves, and children don't have to be afraid of too many restrictions if they can't do it well. Parents should consciously guide their children to do things, and they can ask them to do something to take care of themselves. For example, teach children to undress, put on shoes, and pack toys. Let parents not only save time, but also satisfy their children's wishes and let them experience the happiness of success. As long as the child is willing to do it, whether it is done well or not is secondary. Mainly to cultivate children's willingness to learn and practice and the independence of action. For a child, as long as it is not dangerous, let him touch what he can and do what he can, which is necessary for his personality development.
Third, be extremely patient and don't rush for success.
Everything is in its infancy, and it needs patient cultivation and care to promote the development of things according to the objective law of their development. It is counterproductive to rush for success. Therefore, parents should patiently understand their children's language when they are two or three years old, teach their children to develop movements and master simple rules of behavior in a language that children can understand. Two or three-year-old children like to do things, but they can't do them well. If parents are eager for success, want to do it instead of their children, or keep urging their children to do it quickly, the result will only make them cry. Parents should not blame their children, let alone forbid them. We should see that this is a child's ability to explore, learn and understand himself. If we blindly attack their exploration activities, his thirst for knowledge will vanish, and make them doubt their own abilities and stifle their budding self-confidence, which is the biggest obstacle to future learning activities.
Fourth, take the method of temporary concessions.
This is an effective way for two or three-year-old children to stick to their own opinions and not act according to their parents' correct opinions. You can avoid making your child really stubborn and willful. When the parents' consciousness is invalid in a short time; Or parents are eager to complete their tasks, and when there is no more persuasion for a while, they can use this method, or they can take advantage of the characteristics that children's attention is easy to shift, and use other things to attract their children away, first solve the problem temporarily, and then find the right time to carry out reasoning education. Don't yell at the child loudly, but pay attention to guiding the child in a low voice. In this way, children will feel equal to their parents and will not have rebellious psychology. Children's self-esteem will not be frustrated, and the intimacy between parents and children will also be enhanced.
Five, lead by example, lead by example.
Parents set an example and set a good example for their children, which is very important for their education. Makarenko, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, emphasized to his parents: "Don't think that education is only carried out when you talk to children, teach them lessons and command them. You educate your children all the time, even if you are not there. How you dress, how you talk to others, how you talk about others, how you are happy or worried, how you treat friends and enemies, how you laugh and how you read newspapers are all of great significance to young children. Parents' temperament, behavior and morality have a direct impact on children, which is a kind of infiltration education. Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children, and two or three-year-old children have begun to appear a higher level of delayed imitation than direct imitation. They "see in their eyes and remember in their hearts" what their parents say and do. At a certain time, you will show what you have seen and heard. So parents should guide their children to learn and imitate positive people. The power of example is infinite! Lead by example, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, which is an important educational principle that has been proved to be effective by practice.