How to deal with disobedient employees? Communicate first. If not, stop. If he is brilliant, you can continue to endure.
How to deal with disobedient employees? Personally, there are problems in system and management. First look at whether your assessment system and management system are perfect; Secondly, formulate perfect and flexible management regulations; Third, clarify the interest relationship; Fourth, communicate with employees more, but be careful not to fall into a ditch; Fifth, care for employees from life and work; Sixth, give employees full trust, employ people without doubt, and provide employees with room for development (or ability or promotion or reward); Remember, you are a manager, not an executor. You talk, they do specific things, and don't do everything yourself. They need the feeling of being needed. You should make them feel that you need them. At the same time, be sure to let them know that they also need this job! Because they need to live. Let's just say so much.
What about disobedient men? From his point of view, you should understand that the way you think about problems now is based on yourself.
When you understand it from his point of view, you will know that what you said is not a problem.
Do you know what husband and wife are? In fact, it is mutual understanding. Married life is not as simple as imagined. How to treat it is a matter of mentality.
"What would you think if you were him?"
The other is communication, tell him your thoughts, such as these words, why don't you show them to him? This requires the efforts of both sides.
What should I do in the face of disobedient children? Many parents are distressed because their children are disobedient and ask for help everywhere. In fact, it is very simple to make children obey, but the focus of parents is wrong. Our focus should be on being a parent whose children are willing to listen to me, and then how can we achieve "children are willing to listen to us". In fact, this is not a difficult thing. When we pay attention to ourselves instead of children, if we can do the following, children will naturally listen to us:
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Don't make a promise to your child just to be perfunctory, such as buying toys or going out. Once you promise your child, you must keep it in mind and do it. Even if you can't do it under special circumstances, you should sincerely apologize to your child.
Parents should have principles and clear rules. Permission means permission, and disapproval means firmness. For example, if you buy a toy for your child, you agreed to buy one in advance, but if the child buys one in the mall and wants a second one, he must resolutely refuse. Don't be angry, just refuse. However, it is up to the children to decide what toys to buy. No matter how poor and inappropriate the toy they want to buy is, parents can't interfere. Everything must be decided by children themselves, so that children can learn how to make the right choice from their mistakes.
2. Give children the love they can feel.
Many parents don't hesitate to spend high prices to enroll their children in various cram schools, extra-long classes, family tutoring and so on. They mistakenly believe that paying for their children is the true love for them, and even many parents do their best for their children at any cost, but in exchange, their children don't understand, accept or even resist.
This is because parents don't give their children what they want. They don't know and don't want to take the time to understand what their children really want. The child's idea is simple, "If my mother can play with me, I will be very happy!" " "In this case, the child just can't feel it. If he doesn't feel that" love "is forced, the child will resist or alienate.
Step 3 convince children
We say that we believe and can do it, and our suggestions are necessary, valuable and feasible. If we can teach and help children what they can't do and what they don't know and understand, they will believe us. On the contrary, children will not believe us. For example, when we teach our children to be honest, we are actually "honest ≠ telling the truth". If someone invites us to dinner, we don't want to go, but we will politely say, "I'm not free today, I'll make an appointment later." This is not "telling the truth", but it does not mean that we are dishonest. We may think that children are too young and need so much, but children are very sensitive and serious. These are all in the eyes, and they are suspicious when they conflict. For another example, we ask our children to study hard and make continuous progress. If we are in a state of muddling along in our own life, we have no power in this sentence, because the child believes that he sees far more than he hears.
As long as parents can keep their word in front of their children and make them feel that their parents keep their word, they can convince them. If they can feel the love and care of their parents on this basis, their children have no reason not to listen to us! Many times, children don't like to listen to what their parents say, but parents insist on letting them listen, so there will be more and more conflicts between parents and children, just look at the families with bad parent-child relationship around them!
What about disobedient employees? There are three types of employees. One kind: people who are uneasy about the status quo, what we often call "pushy people"; Second, according to the present situation, we call it "honest employees". Three types: people who don't care, we call them "loafers".
1, a kind of employees are not satisfied with the status quo, and always want to pay attention to something to attract others' attention and prove their existence. Many of them are what we call "rationalization suggestions". We should pay special attention to this kind of personnel, who will become the third kind of loafers.
2. Second-class employees are really good employees in execution, but it is difficult to control and dig out some "ideas" from them. They just don't think much about how much work to do today and how much money to fight for, which is also indispensable for processing and manufacturing enterprises.
3, three types of employees, no matter how ranked, are always in the last few, their own nature is not bad, perhaps IQ is innate, characterized by average performance in all aspects. Whether employees listen or not is directly related to the supervisor. The management thinking of the supervisor directly affects whether your employees are obedient or not. Disobedient people have their own special ideas, and obedient people have their own weaknesses. Whether a supervisor wants a pool of living water or a pool of stagnant water depends on the boss's educational mentality, whether he grows up with him or suppresses it for a long time. This is also a controversial topic in enterprise human resource management. Everyone has different views, and wise people also have different views on "disobedient employees".
What should disobedient children do? Let's not talk about sermons. It's all over the sky Why is it ineffective and lacks effective means to cooperate?
1, ho
Step 2 fight
Children need to shout and fight. This is a necessary means of parenting.
I have read countless parenting books about how stupid it is to hit children. Don't feel really stupid when you act, but look at the problem critically/
How to shout and how to fight is the real learning.
What about students who are very disobedient? Psychologist Kohlberg divides the development of moral judgment into three levels and six stages through a large number of tests.
(1) predetermined system level; This is below normal. Judging the quality of behavior mainly depends on the consequences of behavior on oneself.
The first stage: the tendency to punish or obey. It is good to obey the actions of powerful people without punishment.
The second stage: naive hedonism. Any behavior that can meet personal needs is the right behavior.
(2) User-defined grade: This is the normal grade. Judging the quality of behavior mainly depends on whether the behavior can meet the expectations of society.
The third stage: the tendency of good children. Any behavior that can win others' approval or maintain good relations with others is a moral behavior.
The fourth stage: leaning towards authority. Any behavior that respects authority and maintains social order is a moral behavior.
(3) Post-custom level: this is an abnormal level. Mainly according to their own moral standards to judge the quality of behavior.
The fifth stage: the obligation of mutual consent and the law of democratic consent. Consider moral behavior according to mandatory laws jointly formulated. Only by observing the moral code can we respect the rights of others and gain the respect and self-esteem of others and society.
The sixth stage: tend to universal moral principles. Morality is regarded as the decision of conscience. That is to act according to one's own moral standards. Observe moral principles to avoid self-condemnation.
With the accumulation of students' knowledge, the deepening of their understanding and the development of their thinking, their moral judgment level will develop to the level of custom and post-custom, and gradually they will have their own relatively independent moral judgment standards, and this external performance is often "disobedience." Whether there is a relatively independent moral judgment standard. It will be how much knowledge a student has and how deep he knows. A mirror of the development degree of thinking is one of the yardsticks for a student to move towards a "mature personality". If a student lacks personality and has no opinion on anything, how much creativity he can have (creativity needs to be different) and how much he can achieve in life. Therefore, we look at how a student is, not whether he is "obedient", but whether his (her) inner judgment standard is correct.
Another reason for students' disobedience is the existence of "generation gap", which reflects the conflict between old and new cultures. Different generations, as teenagers, lived in different cultural environments, received different cultural education, formed different moral concepts, and were branded with different times. It is common to have different views on the same thing, but it is hard to say whether it must be a teacher or a student. As a teacher, don't put yourself in the position of a saint to correct students' mistakes first, otherwise conflicts will be more frequent. We feel uncomfortable about some things, but this is not necessarily bad. Because for new events (even beautiful), before you get used to them, you will feel uncomfortable because of temporary discomfort. Therefore, when there is an unpleasant contradiction between teachers and students, teachers should turn themselves in, perhaps because of their own mistakes, and should not blame them at will.
Improper conflicts should be avoided as far as possible, otherwise it will hinder future education. Therefore, teachers must constantly socialize, update their culture, update their concepts and enhance their democratic consciousness, so as not to lag behind the trend of social development, so that students can have a more "close" cultural background, learn more about students and effectively analyze the reasons for students' behavior, and disobedience will naturally be greatly reduced.
What should a deputy leader do in the face of a qualified disobedient employee? Business is business. Although his qualifications are rare, what's the use of him who doesn't listen to you? It is better to find someone who has no qualifications but listens to you.
Besides, the qualifications are already there.