What should parents do if their children are stingy?
First, the first step is to talk about virtue story in related fields.
The power of example is great, and it is also useful for stingy children. Parents can make up some stories about these aspects to tell their children, so that children can learn to share them under touching stories.
Second, the second step is to set a good example for children.
Parents' behavior has the most direct and lasting influence on children, and parents' primary task is to set an example for their children to learn and imitate. In daily life, parents should be generous to others first. If you are willing to lend things to your neighbors, you can take the initiative to offer delicious food to others, and you are willing to transfer your beloved items to others.
Third, the third step, starting with family members sharing.
The first step for children to change their meanness is to teach them to share. If children don't want to share with strangers, start with the closest family and let them share what they like with their families. Parents must pay attention to encouragement.
Fourth, the fourth step is to provide children with opportunities to practice sharing behavior.
Generous personality is formed in practical activities, so parents should try to provide some opportunities for their children to practice sharing behavior in their daily lives. If you buy all the sweets back, don't leave them for your children. Let your children hand out candy to family members and share it with them. When playing, guide the children to give their beloved building blocks and toys to them. In these exercises, parents should praise their children's generosity in time, let them get comfortable psychological experience and promote the further development of their generosity. In the process of communication between children and friends, parents can also guide their children to play with toys. In the process of exchanging toys repeatedly, children will gradually understand the necessity of reciprocity and the importance of mutual assistance. This is of great significance to the cultivation of children's generous character.
Fifth, the fifth step is to let children experience the happiness of giving and sharing.
Invite the baby's best friend to his parents, and let the baby try to give his favorite toys or food to his good friends. In this way, the relationship between children will be closer, and children will experience the joy of paying in this process.
Sixth, sixth step, encourage children to help those in difficulty in life.
In our life, we often meet some poor people and victims who need help. Parents should encourage their children to help each other. For example, give your toys or food to children from poor families, donate your lucky money to disaster areas or people who need money to treat diseases, and also ask children to help those in need to do something within their power to reduce their burden. After children repeatedly realize the pleasure of helping others, they will regard this pleasure as a strong spiritual need, thus learning to export and pursue, and finally forming a stable and generous character.
Seven, the child is stingy to friends, what should the mother do?
1. When a buddy wants to play with a baby's favorite toy, you should first ask and respect the baby's opinion, tell him that the buddy just wants to play and won't take it away, and the toy is still his. It is recommended that the baby play with the buddy.
2. If the baby can take the initiative to give his beloved toys to friends to play with, or agree with friends to play with his toys, you must give praise in time.
If the baby insists not to let his friends touch his toys, you still have to respect the baby's rights and don't have to force him to take them out.
Eight, stingy children's performance understanding:
1, haggle over every ounce, love to talk about conditions;
2. Poor self-sacrifice and dedication;
3. selfish;
4. Conservative thinking and lack of sympathy;
5. Poor adaptability;
6. Narrow-minded and jealous;
7. Hesitant, suspicious and indecisive.
Nine, parents should pay attention to when educating their children to be stingy:
1, don't force the child to play with toys, it will make him rebellious and hate that child. You'd better get involved and say, "Look, let's play a little train (or something) together. The baby is here and the little brother is there. I'll help you get rid of it. Now, connect it. "
2. Guide children to feel the feelings of others. You can say, "Baby, my little brother likes your toys very much. Let him play with them, and he will be happy, ok? " Mom will buy you another pickup truck you like tomorrow. "Parents often let their children experience other people's feelings, make them feel sympathetic and take the initiative to share happiness with other children.
3. Usually, you can create opportunities for your baby to play with other children and let him share his toys and books. It must have been difficult at first, and with more times, he was not only willing to show it to everyone, but also very happy.
4. Praise the baby in time when he has sharing behavior, let him know that this is a good behavior and regard sharing as a happy thing.
Parents should show generous attitude, and don't let children feel that you are reluctant to take out toys (mainly afraid to play with them). A child of this age is already very sensitive, and your attitude will give him a hint.
Expanding reading: a strategy to cultivate children's character.
Strategy 1: Be patient with children.
Only parents can understand how much patience is needed to treat children. When you carefully prepared a big meal, he didn't eat a bite; When he falls asleep, you have a lot of things to do, and he refuses to sleep anyway; When you are particularly sleepy at night, this little thing will keep crying ... you have to try your best to suppress your anger and treat the baby calmly. You have to do this, because on second thought, it's not his fault. But can you do it? Can I do it again and again? My strategy is to be as patient as I can and try to meet his reasonable requirements. Children are actually the shadows of their parents. How you treat him will also become a part of his character. You don't want your children to be impatient or even rude. After all, people's patience is limited, so I need to let him experience some patience and waiting, even if his request is reasonable. For example, if I am doing something and he wants me to accompany him, I will tell him that I am busy and I will accompany him after I finish one thing.
Strategy 2: Keep your word.
You may think: the child is still young, and it doesn't matter if you cheat him occasionally. In fact, this is not good, unless you want to be cheated by him in the future. I won't lie to children. I also deliberately want him to know that dad won't lie to him, and dad keeps his word. This is very important, on the one hand, you can gain his trust; On the other hand, it can also establish the prestige of dad's words and prevent him from making trouble without reason because of luck. Take a small example: at first, I dressed Lele and told him to put things down first. He always refuses in tears. Maybe he thought I'd take this thing away. After getting dressed several times, I immediately returned the things to him. Since then, he has safely put them down or given them to me.
Strategy 3: Be consistent.
Try to be consistent and avoid confusion in children's thinking and judgment. If you allow your child to do this today, and then tell him that he can't do it tomorrow for no reason, it will cause chaos. You may forget your inconsistency, but children will never forget it. Over time, you will find it difficult to carry out your orders. Is the child willful? Actually, you are one of the reasons.
Strategy 4: Don't impose your wishes on your children.
Every child has his own joys and sorrows. Even parents have no right to ask them to do everything according to your wishes, even if you do it for his own good. For example, if you think it's time for him to go to bed, you must let him eat a bowl of rice, or you must let him put down his toys and do what you want him to do ... The imposed result will only be counterproductive. Let children act according to their own wishes. Children are not only happy and optimistic, but also develop an independent character.
Strategy 5: Ignore the unreasonable demands of children.
When a child makes unreasonable demands, or you can't meet reasonable demands, if he cries endlessly, should you satisfy him to the maximum extent? On the contrary. You can never meet the unreasonable demands of your children, and you can't compromise once. Otherwise, it will only make the same unhappiness happen again and again. When you say "no" or "can't do it", children often don't give up immediately. He will look at you and continue to test whether you really won't let him do it. At this time, you should resolutely walk over, take the child away and let him do other things; Instead of continuing to sit there and say "no" repeatedly, continue to compete with children. Son, you can tell from your firm attitude that you really can't.
Strategy 6: Give children a little power appropriately.
Sometimes, a child will be interested in something, and if you don't let him do it, he will stubbornly do it. At this time, you may wish to give your child a little choice. There are two rows of floor-to-ceiling bookcases at home, and Lele is very interested in the contents. He had to open the bookshelf again and again and dig out the books inside. I don't want him to get into the habit of rummaging around, nor do I want to stifle his curiosity. What should we do? On the one hand, I told him that it was not good to turn over the books. On the other hand, if he really wanted to open them, I suggested to him: Well, let's get something and close the bookcase when we have it. He always does it happily. Now, he will not only open the bookcase to choose one thing, but also close the cupboard door; Moreover, after finishing things, he will open the cupboard door and put things back.
Strategy 7: Let children take a little responsibility.
You may jump when you see this subtitle. What responsibility do you put on such a young child? In fact, children's sense of responsibility should be cultivated from an early age. children
Children should be responsible for their actions and establish a sense of responsibility. Lele often throws many toys all over the floor. I'll ask him to tidy up his toys with me, or guide him to tidy up himself. What I asked him to pick up, I asked him to get up after falling. I told him to do his best.
Strategy 8: Let children know how others feel.
It is difficult for a person who doesn't understand the feelings of others to be considerate. Although there are too many hardships and disappointments in the adult world, you may not want your children to know too early. But it is good for children to understand their parents' feelings and hardships. So, I will let Lele know that I am really tired and I want to sleep. I hope he can play by himself and leave me alone. I will let Lele know that I am really angry with his bad behavior; I will let him know that I am tired of holding him and let him go by himself; I will let him know that it will be painful to hit others. If you want to hit others, try hitting yourself first. I'll let him know that my parents will be wrong. It's my fault. I will take the initiative to say sorry to him; I will let him know that it is impossible for a person not to get sick. When he is sick, he must be strong and bear the discomfort caused by the disease, instead of endlessly torturing adults ... The child's character is cultivated in the dribs and drabs of daily life. As a father, I hope I can make more efforts to explore and make my child a popular person and a person with high emotional intelligence.
Ways to cultivate children's good character
The child's bad temper, willfulness and disobedience will make the baby have a headache, so how to cultivate the child to have a good personality?
One is the harmony between husband and wife.
In many families, disharmony between husband and wife will lead to frequent quarrels, even family breakdown, which will hurt children's effective mind and have a great influence on the formation and development of children's personality. Therefore, when parents quarrel, don't vent their anger on their children. After a long time, they will be exposed, and their character and temper will become bad.
The second is to provide the baby with the opportunity and right to make decisions.
Let children know how to use their own decision-making power from an early age, learn to be independent, don't always control their every move, and actively encourage them to do what they can.
The third is to let children have more contact with children of the same age.
Children of the same age can learn happy interpersonal communication by playing together often, so that babies can have simple right and wrong concepts and moral judgments, and their self-control ability will be gradually enhanced.
The fourth is to cultivate children's broad interests.
Usually pay attention to children, see what they are interested in, and then provide them with various choices. I have a wide range of interests and naturally have a happy personality.
The fifth is to let children learn to face setbacks.
You can encourage your children to do something hard. If he fails, you should provide support, give him proper help and let him finish it smoothly. In this way, children can experience the joy of success through hard work. Turning failure into success can cultivate children's self-confidence and self-esteem.
Sixth, children should be reasonable when they do something wrong.
You can't let a child make a mistake and ignore it, but you will be beaten and punished. What parents need first is to be calm. Before criticizing a child, ask the reason in person and praise him if he does it right. If you do something wrong, you can find out what the child did well in the past and praise him. If it is not enough, criticize him and let him know that parents will not only pay attention to their children's mistakes, but also keep their children's advantages in mind.
How to cultivate children's good character?
First, how to cultivate children's character
Personality plays a vital role in a person's life development. It is said that personality determines fate. It's also very reasonable. People's personality has been developed and perfected since the fetal period. The expert's research confirmed this point. Personality is an important part of children's psychological development. Therefore, the cultivation of children's personality development should start from prenatal education. Therefore, parents still have to do something in place.
1, mom sets an example.
According to the research, the reason why pregnant women can influence the fetal character in the fetal stage is because the mental state, mood, behavior and consciousness of pregnant women can cause abnormal hormone secretion in the body. For example, pregnant women are depressed and lack of vitality, and their children will be wronged and cry for a long time after birth. When I grow up, my feelings are very fragile and depressed. Pregnant women should be able to correctly treat the troubles caused by pregnancy reaction and overcome the pain in the third trimester of pregnancy and childbirth actively and strongly.
It is natural for the fetus to accept the influence of its mother. In order to make the fetus have self-esteem and self-improvement after birth, dare to struggle with difficulties. After the fetus is 6 months old, educate the children to turn their feelings into emotions. At this time, the feeling of the fetus is closely related to the mother. Therefore, in the process of pregnancy, we should always pay attention to being a good teacher of the fetus and shaping the beautiful character of the fetus.
2. Consciously carry out mental stimulation
Conscious mental stimulation, it is important for the husband to operate. In fact, it is the hilarious farce that the husband plays with his wife, which makes her mood fluctuate for an instant, so that this fluctuation affects the fetus and makes him exercise. A husband can buy beautiful clothes for his baby and a souvenir for his wife when his wife is unprepared, and put it quietly at the bedside. When his wife finds out, she will get an unexpected surprise.
When you can feel the fetal movement, the fetus is sometimes quiet and sometimes kicks around. At this time, the wife often makes all kinds of guesses, and then the husband can discuss the topic with his wife. For example, guess whether it's a man or a woman. In labor, the husband should help and encourage his wife to overcome the tension during childbirth and firmly believe that childbirth is smooth. These beneficial stimuli will lay the foundation for the strong and confident character of the fetus in the future.
Living environment is an important factor of fetal character. The mother's uterus should be regarded as the first environment for the child. Everything a child can feel here will directly affect the formation of his later personality. In order to shape children's character, mothers should consciously do some spiritual stimulation during this period. Of course, not only in the fetal stage, but also in the period after the child is born, the environment is still the main factor affecting the child's personality. Parents should also control the environment.
Second, four misunderstandings in educating children
1, always trying to take care of the children
Respecting the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which also leads many parents to put on a dignified posture when educating their children, in an attempt to control their children and let them act according to their own wishes. But the result of control often leads to confrontation. Experts say that if parents just ask their children blindly without considering their requirements, once the children fail to meet the requirements, parents will be very angry and angry. Such behavior demonstration will also make the child learn and become an obstacle to his character.
2. Don't look at children's bad habits
"Children's bad habits or behaviors often contain good factors." Experts believe that children's behavior problems are not good or bad for parents, only acceptable and unacceptable. Worrying too much about children's bad habits or behaviors, such as letting children go with the flow and ignoring children, may strengthen children's bad habits.
So, how should parents face their children's bad habits? Du Yu said that parents should be good at discovering the good factors behind their children's bad behaviors, and make good use of these good factors to make their children have more possibilities, experience all kinds of success and self-confidence, and make some so-called bad habits or bad behaviors invisible.
Step 3 "put a hat on your child"
Many parents label their children as "liars" after discovering that they are lying. In fact, when parents think about it carefully, they will find that not only children can lie, but also adults often tell some white lies. Therefore, parents should realize that children's lying does not mean that their morality is not good, but that their strategies to meet their own needs may be inappropriate. If parents don't realize this, they will arbitrarily label their children, which will cause their rebellious psychology and make it easier to strengthen their behavior.
"Children's plasticity is very strong, and the effect of' wearing a hat' for children and' wearing a hat' for adults will be very different. Parents can't ask their children like adults, but they should respect their children like adults. " Experts said.
4, like to talk big.
Many parents always preach, regardless of their children's current mood, state and attention, such education is often futile and even runs counter to parents' wishes.
Experts suggest that parents can properly integrate education into the details of life, and teach their children's parents the truth they have experienced in life anytime, anywhere, with people, with things and at random. This kind of education will become natural and more effective.