gender consciousness
For boys, same-sex fathers should help him establish a correct gender consciousness from a very young age: don't let his family dress him in fancy clothes; Tell the baby that he is a boy and should pee standing up. Don't always think that he can take a bath with his mother.
Every child has a follow-up period at about one year old. He will follow his mother like a chicken, even if it is to go to the toilet. At this time, his father should come forward to stop the boy's behavior. First of all, he should find something that interests him to attract his attention. When the child grows up, you can tell him, "Mom is a girl. Boys can't go to the toilet with girls, but you can stand at the door to protect your mother and prevent bad guys from coming in. " In this way, children will feel strong and generally won't ask you the somewhat difficult question "Why can't boys go to the toilet with girls?". .
conscientiousness
The child is still young, but the father can't condone his waywardness and shirking just because he is young. On the contrary, after helping him realize that he is a boy, the second step for fathers is to cultivate the boy's sense of responsibility. As mentioned above, you can take advantage of every opportunity to say "Mom is doing things in there and can't be seen by others" when the child is inconvenient to stay with her mother. Will the baby stand guard outside the door to protect his mother? "
The cultivation of sense of responsibility also includes making the child responsible for all the consequences of his actions, making him keep his word and so on. In the education of children, fathers generally like to use extensive management, which determines that they can tolerate some setbacks and lessons for their children without harm. As long as the follow-up is in place, it is actually a very good way of education different from that of mothers.
brave
Parents are always worried that their children will be hurt in one way or another, and this anxiety will inevitably limit their freedom of movement. Over time, we will find that boys nowadays are more and more fragrant, less and less courageous and less and less manly. It would be much better if fathers paid more attention to the cultivation of boys' courage.
For example, when you go tumbling, don't nag after you like your mother and say, "Be careful!" Ten thousand times. . Fathers can give full play to their advantages of quick response and great strength, and let their children play as freely as possible. It is believed that most children's playground facilities are safe and reasonable enough, and their own ability is enough to cope with the possibility of long-distance protection.
Away from violence
The boy's parents are always worried about one thing. If the child shows enough courage, they begin to worry that he will become fond of using violence. In fact, as long as the correct guidance, this situation can be avoided. And in this respect, dad is responsible! Because dad is the first idol of a boy's personality development, no matter whether he worships you or resists you, his son's personality orientation when he grows up is more or less influenced by his father.
Therefore, in order to keep his son away from violence, the father himself must first never use violence and not instill the concept of "fighting violence with violence" in his children. In this respect, the power of example is far greater than words. Secondly, let children know that violence is not courage. You should tell your child that the father doesn't use violence to fight back at someone, not because of cowardice, but because violence can't really solve the problem, so that the child can foresee the possible serious consequences of using violence.
Third, you should tell your children some correct ways to solve the problem. Boys generally don't like to use feminine methods such as "telling the teacher". You can teach your children some "man-to-man ways", such as staring at each other with your eyes, or persuading each other with just words. Let your children believe that only by civilized means can contradictions be truly and perfectly solved.
orientate
As many people know, men's sense of direction is naturally much stronger than that of women, so in order for your son to live up to this natural advantage, for he will not get lost when he is young, and for him to lead his wife and children in the right direction when he grows up, you need to cultivate his sense of direction from now on.
There is nothing wrong with entertainment at any time. You should take advantage of every available opportunity: when enjoying the cool on the balcony, walking in the park or going sightseeing, you can teach your son to distinguish things, not by the formula of "going up north and down south, left west and right east", but by the orientation of the sun, stars, plants and, if necessary, a compass.
soccer
Isn't there a classic saying, "Football, let women go away!" Although the attraction of women's football in our country far exceeds that of men's football, most parents are still unwilling to practice with their baby daughters. For boys, playing ball is a matter of course, and watching ball is an obligation. Even if a woman claims to like football, she is mostly just a "fake fan". Once her obsessed star retired, she lost interest in the stadium. Men, on the other hand, regard football as a war and a fight. He likes to study strategy and tactics and appreciate technology rather than stars. Aggressive nature determines that men are natural fans, so from the birth of your son, you have a "ball friend".
I don't have to worry about staying up late to watch the ball at night, and I don't have to struggle to grab the right of the TV remote control. Even many sports newspapers seem to get a bargain for no reason, because the utilization rate has soared 100%. Cultivate a small fan, and your family's voting result in this regard will always be fixed at 2: 1, what's more, it is not difficult, because the son is a male animal and he is a natural fan.