Sun Jing, a student road primary school in Jiaozuo Liberated Area, my child is in grade five this year. I live with my child every day and feel that I know him very well. However, with the growth of children's age, I find that children are more and more independent and like to hide their secrets. More importantly, his rebellious mentality is particularly serious. No matter what I say, he is always against me. In order to strengthen his relationship, I actively communicated with him, but he always ignored me. The communication between mother and son is becoming more and more difficult, and I am very upset and confused. I often think: As a teacher, I can teach my students well, but I can't guide my children well. What's the problem? One day, in a chat, a friend told me that a mother who was a primary school teacher could not correctly change the roles of teacher and mother, which led to the children's rebellious attitude towards him. Until now, the children have grown up and the mother and son can't get along well. This story deeply touched my heart. Yes, I am a teacher at school, but I am a mother at home, so I began to communicate with my fifth-grade children by writing an educational diary according to their characteristics. First of all, express your understanding of children in your diary. Soviet educator Suhomlinski once said: Education is understanding first. If you don't understand children, the process of their intellectual development, their thinking, interests, hobbies, talents, endowments and tendencies, you can't talk about education. Children need the care, understanding and trust of their parents; They need their parents to give them freedom, tolerate their mistakes and so on. Last semester, I found that children's writing was not standardized. In order to make the child write better, I let him take part in a calligraphy class to learn to write. At first, the children were very interested. Every Saturday and Sunday, they go to class happily, come home from school and consciously finish the homework assigned by the teacher. But after a long time, he seems to have lost interest in calligraphy, and began to study hard and unwilling to do his homework. I was angry and began to blame him, but the more I blamed him, the less he liked it and even quarreled with me. Later, I began to reflect on my educational methods and tried to think of my son from his standpoint. I think even an adult will encounter some things that make him impatient and unwilling to persist in his work and life, but aren't they all tolerant of himself? Why should we be so strict with children when they are impatient and don't insist? After all, he is only a fifth-grade child. All he wants is praise from his parents and tolerance for him. With this in mind, I began to try to tolerate and encourage my children. So I wrote in my diary: Mom knows that you are working hard now and understands your feelings, but I just want you to understand that it is not easy to do everything well. Sometimes my mother, like you, will be impatient with one thing and won't continue to insist, so now I won't force you to decide whether to practice calligraphy or not. Anyway, my mother thinks your handwriting has made great progress. If you still want to practice, let me. After reading what I wrote for him, the child felt much happier and understood my painstaking efforts, so he began to practice calligraphy seriously again. As parents, when things happen, we should consider the problem from the child's standpoint, put ourselves in the child's shoes and understand the child's feelings. When you do this, you will find that some seemingly incomprehensible behaviors and practices of children are actually understandable and inclusive, and these practices may contain some advantages and admirable aspects of children. Second, write down the topics that children are interested in in in the diary. We all know that when two people have the same hobbies and interests, they will have more common languages. Looking back on the conversation with children every day, apart from studying or studying, I either accuse them of doing something wrong and doing it inappropriately. I don't know much about things that children are very interested in. How can such parents and children be willing to communicate with you? Lu Qin, my bosom sister, said that if you want to get into a child's heart, you must rely on communication. Good communication enables us to establish good interpersonal relationships in our family. In order to communicate with our children, I began to pay attention to their hobbies and watch his favorite TV programs such as Approaching Science and Animal World with them. Read his favorite books such as Youth Digest and We Love Science with children, listen to his favorite songs such as Chrysanthemum Terrace and Direct Answer, and play video games with children. While watching, reading, listening and playing with my children, I lost no time in writing my own views and ideas in my diary and discussing them with him. I am interested because the topic I am talking about is related to his hobbies. With a common topic and my understanding and respect, the child talked to me more and was willing to tell me his thoughts. For example, one day my classmate brought his three-year-old child to repair my computer, and I asked him to look after my little sister. After others left, I said, son, you are really like a big brother today. Take good care of your sister. Who knows, he said with a smile, you don't know that I am patiently observing her. Actually, I'm bored to death. Although the child doesn't speak well, he speaks from the heart. I didn't criticize him. In the evening, I exchanged my views with him in my diary: I'm so glad that you can tell your mother what you really think today, son. What makes mom happier is that you can control your emotions and do things you don't want to do so well. It's really hard for you, so I feel like you've really grown up. My son read it and wrote to me: Mom, I am eleven years old and a man, which is a piece of cake for me. Children are also willing to tell me what happened in class. For example, a classmate was criticized by the teacher for not finishing his homework today, and a classmate made up a jingle today, which is very funny. Children often tell me brain teasers. In the process of growing up with children, I found that children are so sensible, so considerate and so humorous. I have also become amiable, humorous and broadened my horizons. More importantly, I really understand the inner needs of children. Gradually, the child's rebellious mentality disappeared, and the relationship between our mother and son became better and better day by day. Thirdly, I have encouraged children to keep educational diaries in their diaries for more than a year. However, because there are too many accusations against children's shortcomings and deficiencies in the diary, children are unwilling to read it, and the effect is not obvious. According to my lack of ideological understanding, I changed my attitude and changed the content of my diary from criticism to encouragement. Last summer vacation, the children enrolled in a military summer camp. As a school teacher, I can go with the students and take care of the children. But the child told me that he didn't want me to go, he wanted to exercise himself. I am both worried and happy. So I wrote in his diary before he left: son, after listening to your decision, I can't help but think of the story of the young eagle practicing flying. After hard training and wind and rain, the baby eagle finally grew into a vigorous eagle, which can fly freely in the blue sky. Your decision tells me that you have grown up and been brave. This is your first time to go out alone. I believe you can become an eagle after training! With my respect and encouragement, the child happily embarked on a journey. The night after attending the summer camp, he called me with tears and said, Mom, my chopsticks and spoons are gone. I asked the instructor, and the instructor asked me to find it myself, but I couldn't find it. How do I eat? Listening to the child's wronged cry, my heart felt like a needle prick, but I still smiled and said, ask your classmates again to see who saw it. I'm sure you will solve it. At noon on the third day, he told me happily: Mom, I found chopsticks and spoons, so don't worry. After this incident, I couldn't wait to write down my thoughts in my diary: son, you have taken another step, and you can solve the difficulties yourself. I am proud of you from the bottom of my heart. If you are allowed to go to summer camp with a tour group next summer, you will certainly do better. After the child came back, he excitedly told me the ups and downs of the summer camp and offered to participate in such activities more next time. When he saw what I wrote in my diary, he looked forward to the new summer vacation more happily. Because I grasped the psychological characteristics of fifth-grade children, paid attention to the correct transformation of the roles of teachers and mothers, and gave the children full understanding, respect and encouragement in my diary, and really regarded myself as their friends, so I could sincerely kneel down and communicate with them on an equal footing. Therefore, the children are cheerful, grow up and mature, and more happiness, joy and laughter pervade between us.