1, give full play to the advantages of two children. On the premise of treating the two children equally, parents can give full play to their advantages and guide the boss to take care of their younger brothers and sisters, which can play an exemplary role for the boss, enhance the friendship between the two children and let them grow together.

2. Parents should be alone. Being alone is very important. Whether it is Dabao or Bauer, parents should spend time alone with their children, so that every child can experience the opportunity to be alone with their parents, and let the children know that mom and dad not only love another child, but also care about you.

3. Grasp the dynamic balance. The flow of love should flow to Dabao, but it doesn't mean that parents should be partial to Dabao and ignore Bauer. In the face of specific things, parents should uphold a fair and just heart and help their children solve problems that they can't solve. When helping two children to adjust their contradictions, there is no need to pursue absolute fairness, because absolute fairness is impossible, and it is enough to achieve a relative fairness and dynamic fairness.

4. Don't ignore Dawa's psychological needs. In a two-child family, some parents put almost all their energy on Erwa because she is young, which is wrong. Parents must not ignore the psychological needs of the boss. In order to avoid the feeling of being left out because of the arrival of the second child, parents should consciously explain to the boss that the newborn is a little baby and needs more care from parents in daily life, but both parents love it very much.

Don't get too involved in their relationship. In a two-child family, in the face of children's quarrels and contradictions, parents sometimes need to learn to "stand by and watch". Children have unique ways and rules of communication, and there are some barriers between their world and that of adults. Parents are always involved and make rules for them with their own principles and methods. Children don't necessarily agree with them, and they lose the opportunity to make their own rules.

6. Guide two children to take care of each other. In the process of taking care of his younger brother or sister, Dawa can increase his talents and cultivate the excellent quality of helping others. Erwa can learn to love herself and others by experiencing the affection and love between people under the care of her brother or sister.