First, the examination of questions: According to the materials, the orientation of writing should be that students are educated and teaching is educators (parents or teachers or education experts). The content of the composition should be how our educators should educate our children (encouragement or criticism, discipline or communication, equality and so on). ), not what we should teach our children (frustration or patriotism or gratitude or responsibility or morality, etc. ) .2. Good topic: 1. Life needs applause. 2. Growth bears witness to the value of encouragement. 3. grow up with encouragement. Please cheer for me. 5. Thumb education, OK! 6. We need moderate discipline. 7. Communication makes every life bloom with infinite vitality. 8. The golden mean of education (you can't just praise or criticize). 9. You should criticize Nelson's positive discipline, which is a classic that has benefited millions of children, parents and teachers for life. 3. Typical case 1. Since the first edition of 198 was published, this book has become the "golden rule" for disciplining children. Active discipline is a way to discipline children without punishment or connivance ... Only in a cordial and firm atmosphere can children cultivate self-discipline awareness, sense of responsibility, spirit of cooperation and problem-solving ability, learn social skills and life skills that will benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results. How to make children acquire this ability with active discipline? Shi Tiesheng's mother encouraged her son to get out of the shadow of death. Teacher Mei Lanfang said that Mei Lanfang's eyes are dead fish, and they are not suitable for Peking Opera. Mei Lanfang refused to accept, raised pigeons and practiced, and eventually became everyone! 4. Luxun primary school is often late for class. The teacher was angry and criticized him. He carved the word "early" on his desk and will never be late again. 5. Mencius dropped out of school and his mother broke the loom ... 6. If Einstein liked to disassemble the alarm clock and the machine when he was a child, wouldn't it hurt him if his mother criticized him for not letting him disassemble things? Such a generation of great scientists was thus destroyed. It was really his mother who encouraged him. Einstein likes to ask why when he is studying. The teacher thinks he is naughty and won't let him learn, but Einstein's mother encourages him to ask more questions. His mother teaches him personally, and a generation of talented scientists is born. 4. The beginning of the reference (put the phenomenon on the desktop) 1. For a long time, it is generally believed that traditional education in China is not good at praising and encouraging children, which makes many children lack self-confidence and puzzles many education experts.

So, I don't know when, "uncritical education" has become a common way of education. Teachers are required to respect students and are not allowed to criticize or criticize children in disguise; Parents took this theory to the extreme. Children praise a little achievement, and even dare not criticize when they make mistakes, for fear of dispelling self-confidence, because "a big tree attracts the wind", making a small mistake when they are young is nothing.

However, now there is another extreme: children will not say anything. So, I think, education, please don't abandon criticism. 2. Perhaps, a teacher's eyes are an affirmation of your achievements; Perhaps, a burst of applause from the students is a heartfelt blessing to you; Perhaps, your parents' "Come on" makes you confident.

This is the encouragement of others and plays a vital role in our success. We need encouragement at any time, because it is an inexhaustible motive force for our progress. Mom never said I was inferior to others.

I read 1975, which I owe on Mother's Day. After Gates wrote a greeting card to his mother, it was a great inspiration. "Mom, you never said that I was inferior to others" caused me to ponder.

It can be said that I grew up with such encouragement. The words "not worse than others" seem ordinary, but they do contain the mother's love for her children and her infinite hope and encouragement for her children.

When I was born, my father was a soldier guarding the frontier of the motherland. I never dared to go out to play alone in my childhood because I didn't have my father around. After my mother found out, she began to exercise her courage and let me sleep alone. In order to help me regain my confidence, my mother used the word "man" to address me early. Every morning after getting up, my mother would say, "That man had a wonderful night as bravely as his father."

At school age, just in time for the successful launch of China Shenzhou-1 spacecraft. I envy spaceships that travel in space. After my mother knew it, she lost no time in saying, "You must learn to fly a spaceship first." When I knew that this skill could only be learned in the University of Aeronautics and Astronautics, I buried my dream of being admitted to this university when I grew up. Until now, whenever I get good grades in my studies, I feel that I have taken another step towards the University of Aeronautics and Astronautics. My mother always loses no time in saying, "Men are so nice!"

It is with this self-confidence that I have grown from a child who is afraid to go out to play alone to a middle school student who has many good friends and is making continuous progress in his studies.

As the saying goes, "good children are boastful." Gates' mother never said that her children were worse than others. This is definitely not conniving at her children, but she knows that children really need this kind of "encouragement". Only in the child's mind exists "I can do it! I can learn things I didn't know or understand before. " Children will have the courage to accept challenges and dare to fight for their ideals and goals.

Like Gates, people all over the country believe that scientists in China are no worse than others, and that scientists in China have created many "Made in China", even the manned flight of Shenzhou.

The ancients said: "Everything is easy to stand first, and it must be broken first!" This process needs courage, and courage comes from cultivation and encouragement in the process of growth.

"Never say that you are inferior to others" makes me understand that it is normal to encounter problems that you don't understand and can't learn, which is the meaning of students' "living" for learning.

"Never say that I am inferior to others" is like a gas station, which inspires me to forge ahead to the next goal.

I grew up from a naive child to a middle school student who can understand "x+y=9", thanks to my mother's never saying "men are worse than others" for many years. Really! Education, please don't abandon criticism. For a long time, it is generally believed that traditional education in China is not good at praising and encouraging children, which makes many children lack self-confidence. Many education experts call for learning to encourage children!

So, I don't know when, "uncritical education" has become a common way of education. Teachers are required to respect students and are not allowed to criticize or criticize children in disguise; Parents took this theory to the extreme. Children praise a little achievement, and even dare not criticize when they make mistakes, for fear of dispelling self-confidence, because "a big tree attracts the wind", making a small mistake when they are young is nothing.

However, now there is another extreme: children will not say anything.

The child didn't say anything.

"Nowadays, children are less and less afraid to criticize." An old class teacher who has struggled in the front line of education for more than ten years said with emotion that she introduced two cases to the author:

1. In class, the teacher found that one student kept spraying water on another student with a sprinkler. The teacher was very angry and criticized the student and wanted to confiscate his sprinkler. However, something unexpected happened to the teacher. This classmate walked to his seat without saying a word, picked up his sprinkler and threw it on the ground, and then walked out of the classroom without looking back, which was even bigger than the teacher's temper ...

Second, a girl didn't finish her homework. Her class teacher made a few simple criticisms. I didn't expect the girl to run away from school at noon. In the afternoon, the head teacher and school leaders accompanied their parents to look for her everywhere.

"I can't stand setbacks. This is a common problem of children now. The younger they are, the more prominent this problem is. " Teacher Zhang Guiwei, who has been engaged in psychological counseling for middle school students for a long time, said with emotion.

"Lack of criticism is the main reason for this problem," Mr. Zhang continued to analyze. "At present, the only child has excellent living conditions, strong personality, willfulness and poor psychological endurance. Many parents are obedient to their children and like to do everything instead. If a child wants something, parents must do it at once. The consequence of this lack of criticism is that many students can't stand setbacks and failures. "

Education without criticism is incomplete.

"Education without criticism is an incomplete education." Professor Wang Meifang, Ph.D. in Education of Shandong Normal University, said: "Appreciation and criticism are like the wings of a bird. Every student has something to appreciate, and naturally there is something to criticize. Correct appreciation can give students great encouragement; Appropriate criticism will also promote students' progress. Children who have not experienced setbacks "will become fragile and abnormal." Therefore, there are forbidden areas in their lives, and mistakes will be punished, so that children know that some rules are unshakable and some mistakes have to bear the consequences themselves. "

Professor Wang then cited several examples, such as compensation for destroying public and private property, not being able to finish homework on time and take part in extracurricular activities like others, not coming back seriously on duty, being absent from class for no reason, and being late for class must be reflected and corrected. Only by making students responsible for their words and deeds can they distinguish right from wrong. If you blindly "appreciate" and dare not criticize or punish, it will only distort students' understanding and be irresponsible to them.

Pay attention to the way of criticism

Generally speaking, when children succeed or make mistakes, it is precisely the best time for education, which requires great wisdom and should be good at grasping the opportunity of education. Experts believe that the criticism that children can accept should have the following two characteristics. First, be full of love. The art of education is the art of love. As one of the means of education, punishment is completely different from corporal punishment and mental punishment. If a teacher wants to punish a student with poor exam results, because this student's exam results greatly drag down the average grade of the class and affect the teacher's personal performance, then no matter what educational means the teacher takes, it is wrong.

Second, it varies from person to person. The way of disciplinary education that can be accepted by children must be a way that can be aimed at the reality of students and enter their hearts. For example, it is also a mistake. Impatient children can be punished with puzzles, children who lack affection can write a letter to their families, and children who don't like sports can be punished with running. Does modern education need "discipline education"? At present, primary and secondary education generally advocates "appreciation education", especially since the implementation of the new curriculum reform. "Appreciation education" is an encouraging evaluation, which is to promote students' development, raise the sails of self-confidence for students, and let students constantly gain successful experiences, constantly surpass themselves and keep moving forward. But too much excessive, false, empty and single praise will lose its incentive function. We all know that the core of curriculum reform is "people-oriented". Simply put, it is to treat students as people. Students are human beings and living individuals. They have their own dignity, differences, personalities, souls, needs for success and development. We should not only pay attention to students' all-round development, but also their individual development; We should not only impart knowledge and skills, but also cultivate interests, emotions, attitudes and values, and pay more attention to the process; We should not only pay attention to them today, but also base ourselves on the students who live happily in the future society. From this perspective, how important "appreciation education" is! Based on 20 years of educational experience, the author thinks that no matter whether students are right or not, they always praise or acquiesce, and dare not give some "punishment". The children trained by this kind of encouraging education is certainly a good way of education, but it is not a complete education, and the positive role of "punishment" in education can not be ignored. In other words, while implementing "appreciation education", we should also properly implement "disciplinary education". The "punishment" mentioned here is not punishment, corporal punishment or corporal punishment in disguised form, let alone injury, psychological abuse, discrimination or insult. Teachers' disciplinary right is a compulsory educational right endowed by teachers' professional status and a professional need for teachers to maintain normal education and teaching order. It is aimed at children's violation of norms. Of course, we are firmly opposed to corporal punishment and corporal punishment in disguised form. There are countless shocking examples in this regard! It is also unacceptable in the current educational theory and practice. 1. Punishment is a double-edged sword and a dangerous and difficult educational skill. Blindly "appreciating" may be a gentle killer, and blindly "punishing" may be cold-blooded killer. A school is like a talent factory. Its products must be put into the social market and must be tested and selected by the society. Society is full of competition and challenges, and talents must have creative ability and excellent psychological quality. The deviation and defect of students' behavior is not to clear the fog in front of them, but to promote the formation of students' bad habits and behaviors. This is actually harming them for life! There is a story that a son's only request before being executed is to see his mother for the last time. The son saw his mother and said, "I'm leaving you." Let me have the last sip of milk. " I don't want my son to bite off his mother's nipple and say, "I hate you!" " Why didn't you hit me when I committed a crime! "We advocate learning more advanced teaching and management methods, advocating' strict teachers make excellent students', and opposing the rude education method of' golden hoops make talents'! Its scientific method is as follows: 1. Strictly qualified. Ideological and political education should have high standards; Cultural and scientific knowledge should be strict; Learning motivation must be correct; Strengthen the cultivation of learning interest; Self-study ability is firmly formed; Must form the habit of lifelong learning; The concept of new curriculum reform is fully implemented; Completely correct bad habits; Right and wrong, good and evil, beauty, ugliness, loyalty and filial piety must be clearly distinguished. 2. Strict and moderate. Very familiar with students' physical and mental development characteristics, personality characteristics, family background, knowledge level, endurance, and strict requirements for appropriate interests. There is absolutely no simple and rude behavior that harms students' physical and mental health. 3, strict and unchanged. Everything is precious and constant, and it will last for ten years, and it will never be exposed to the cold and anticlimactic style. 4, strict and square. Combining hardness with softness, high standards and strict requirements, without any concession, will carry out "strictness" to the end, which is justice; Take the best way that students can accept and have an effect, "Good rain knows the season, and it happens in spring; "sneak into the night with the wind, and the education that moistens things silently is the highest realm! This is Rou. Discipline needs respect and trust, and needs to be full of love. Punishment must take into account the opponent's endurance, personal dignity, psychological quality and personality characteristics. The more punishment, the more respect, the more love. Punishment is sometimes to make children experience pain, and this decision is sometimes painful. If there is a laid-off woman who has gone through all the hardships and set up a company. After learning that she was terminally ill, she was afraid that her disappointing son would destroy the family business she had worked so hard to create, and ruthlessly drove her son out of the house without giving him a penny, so that he could not go home for a year. My son went out to work, picked up junk and slept on the street. He experienced a lot of human sufferings, not only accumulated a certain amount of wealth, but also understood the essence of life and the hardships of starting a business and staying in business! My son came home a year later, and his mother had passed away, leaving him a affectionate letter. After reading the letter, my son realized his mother's pains. He remembered his mother's entrustment and became a famous entrepreneur with a year's wandering experience. Punishment is to make children responsible for their actions. The core of education is to cultivate healthy and perfect personality; The core of personality is self-confidence, and the formation period of self-confidence is around 10 years old. Once self-confidence is formed, I am most afraid that others will think that I am a bad child, a stupid child and an unlovable child. At present, most of them are only-child families. Too much doting and connivance is killing children's self-confidence! In particular, single-parent families, intergenerational education and "mother-in-law phenomenon" are the lack of perfect education. A Japanese businessman invested in China. His son accidentally broke his neighbor's bike while playing. The neighbor disagreed, but the son took the initiative to tell his father. The father ordered his son to pay compensation, and the neighbor pitied his cuteness and rewarded him with a box of snacks. The father was surprised and said to his neighbor with great dissatisfaction, "didn't this harm my son?" "? How can he gain a foothold in society in the future! "Discipline education is a child's psychological needs. When a child makes a mistake, he is prepared to receive disciplinary education, which is a psychological need and a desire to take responsibility for his own behavior mistakes in order to achieve psychological balance. Children don't like preaching, abuse or corporal punishment. We should design appropriate educational scenes according to their personalities and the nature of their mistakes, and integrate punishment into specific educational activities. This time is a good opportunity for education. Proper "handling" will make them understand the truth and make them unforgettable and unforgettable! For example, American President Ronald Reagan accidentally broke his neighbor's window while playing football in the garden when he was a child. His master asked him to pay 12.5 points, and went home to ask his parents to give him money for compensation. His father lent him 65,438+02.5 cents and asked him to find his own money to pay him back a year later. Little Reagan sold newspapers, picked up waste paper, washed dishes to earn money and gave it back to his father. In this way, he developed a good sense of responsibility from an early age and later became the president of a country. Disciplinary education must be "reasonable and legal" and "reasonable", and it should be designed from the perspective of being responsible for children and being conducive to their growth. "Legitimacy" means that children's right to privacy and custody must be respected and guaranteed while education and punishment are being implemented. If a teacher's personal performance is affected by his children's poor test scores, then whatever disciplinary measures the teacher takes is wrong and dangerous; It is unreasonable and illegal to punish parents, make public appearances and post critical letters. These are not allowed. Both "appreciation education" and "punishment education" are unforgettable growth experiences for children. You know, children grow up through experience, not through preaching. Foreign family education pays special attention to experiential education. No matter how rich the family is, it will also let the children experience in the big society, earn money to support themselves and exercise their independent survival ability. Japan's Yamato nation is also an excellent nation, right? This is inseparable from their "militarism" education. Of course, I am not affirming and imitating here, but explaining the necessary significance of "discipline education". Praise, criticism, rewards and punishments are all eighteen martial arts in education, and the weapon of "disciplinary education" should be added to the "martial arts secrets" of education, which are indispensable. Society needs comprehensive management, and education should also be comprehensively implemented. Incomplete education is very unfavorable to children's growth. Facts have proved that as long as parents, teachers, and society arrange and tolerate children more, children's good behavior habits, ideology and morality, personality strength, ability level, self-confidence, responsibility, and psychological endurance will deteriorate. Talents in the future society should be people with strict and complete education! Therefore, education without "punishment" is incomplete education, weak education, fragile education and irresponsible education. The perfect combination of "appreciation education" and "punishment education" is the whole meaning of education!