I didn't expect to use picture books to guide children at ordinary times, which made me gain a child who encountered problems, bravely faced them and took the initiative to find a solution.

A few days ago, my 6-year-old daughter experienced a thing that "no parents answered after school". With her wit, she overcame her fear and bravely went home alone for the first time.

Because of the shift, I remembered my daughter's school time and didn't pick up the children on time. After school, my daughter didn't find her mother and was very scared. Faced with this problem, she has two choices. First, she went back to the school waiting room and waited for her parents to pick her up. Second, go home alone.

But she remembered the picture books she had read and how Jules, a pupil, overcame his fear and bravely went home alone for the first time after school. So, she thought, her home is not far from school, and her classmates live in the same building, so she decided to try to go home alone. Finally, she succeeded and got home safely.

This incident is actually a frustration education I gave her unintentionally. From the moment my daughter was born into this world, like all parents, I have a wish for her: I hope her life will be smooth sailing.

But as the children grow up day by day, this belief of "smooth sailing" is gradually shaken. When she first entered kindergarten, she was lively and cheerful, but she was seriously anxious and separated. She refuses to walk into the kindergarten gate every morning. Several strong boys always bully her, but she doesn't know how to protect herself. She often comes back from school crying.

This made me realize that she must learn how to face setbacks early. What makes me happy is that, because she has been educated in setbacks since childhood, she can basically face difficulties and setbacks bravely and take the initiative to find ways to solve problems. Just like the fact that no parents came to pick her up after school a few days ago, she can face it bravely and find a solution.

Today's children, in the eyes of many parents, are super treasures. They are not only afraid of being transformed in their mouths, but also afraid of losing them in their hands, and they are unwilling to let their children suffer a little setback.

I am also a mother. I have no objection to loving children. But I think it is ok for children to experience some setbacks in the process of growing up, eat a little bitter and bend a little. Because these experiences are the nourishment for children's growth and are of great benefit to children's growth.

So, how to carry out "frustration education"?

Recently, I was reading Wu Ganlin's new book "If you can teach, children will be conscious", which is very enlightening. In the book, Wu Ganlin shared three adversity quotient training methods for his child Wu Mutian, the author of the best-selling book Mind Your Own Business and Fly. I think these three methods are very practical and it is not difficult for parents to learn. Now I will share them with my parents so that everyone can learn.

First, the earlier frustration education is carried out, the better.

From my daughter's experience, we can see that the earlier frustration education is carried out, the better. Let children know from an early age that they are not the center of the world. No one except his parents will be obedient and responsive to him, and things in life may not be as he wishes.

In this way, children have such awareness since childhood, and they will not feel panic when they encounter setbacks, nor will they be unable to bear any pressure. On the contrary, these setbacks give children opportunities to temper and make them stronger and braver.

Second, carry out frustration education from daily life.

Some parents have a misconception that only when something big happens can they educate their children about setbacks. In fact, frustration education doesn't have to wait until something big happens, and it can be carried out anytime and anywhere in daily life.

For example, children do not do well in the exam; Being criticized by teachers at school; Always being bullied in kindergarten or something. If children can solve these small problems, gain the courage to overcome setbacks in these small things, and understand the true meaning of life, they can draw inferences from others in the future and calmly deal with other setbacks that may be encountered in the future.

Third: Parents should guide their children correctly when they encounter setbacks.

Parents are the first teachers of the children. When children encounter setbacks, the correct guidance of parents is very important. For example, when a child fails, don't just lightly comfort "Never mind, try again next time". Instead, tell him the correct solution, help the child analyze the reasons for the failure and the direction of improvement in the future, so that the child can quickly find confidence from the failure.

I once listened to Professor Li Meijin's lecture, and she said that frustration training is an important content in character cultivation. 3~6 years old is a crucial period for children's character cultivation. It is the most ideal thing to use this stage to educate children about setbacks and improve their adversity quotient.

I think the best way to raise adversity quotient, a 3-6-year-old child, is to tell children stories. Because children at this stage love to listen to stories, there is widespread pan-psychology. Parents use anthropomorphic picture books to let him know how to deal with difficulties, which is easier for children to accept.

My child has read many picture books to cultivate adversity quotient, and two sets of picture books have the greatest influence and help on her. One of them is "being a strong self". This is a set of crooked rabbit adversity quotient education series picture books, which is specially aimed at adversity quotient education in the critical period of character cultivation for 3-6 years old.

This is my daughter's first set of adversity quotient training picture books, which can help children easily overcome the small setbacks in kindergarten. A set of 20 picture books only needs 69 yuan, which is very cost-effective. Parents in need can click on the link below to place an order.

When encountering difficulties, my daughter often encourages herself with stories about crooked rabbits. This picture book really helped her a lot.

The other set is 12 Children's adversity quotient Training Picture Book, which covers the problems encountered in children's learning attitude, frustration education and emotional management during their growth. This set of picture books is characterized by replacing preaching with stories, tapping the inner motivation of children's growth and cultivating their adversity quotient.

Through this set of picture books, my children naturally learned to face up to adjust their emotions, overcome fears, face setbacks, learn to look at things with an open mind, find the confidence and strength to grow up, and become braver and more confident. This set of picture books has a total of 12 volumes, only 49.9 yuan. Parents in need can click on the link below to place an order.

Let children learn to grow up in adversity, and let them solve problems with a positive attitude no matter what difficulties and setbacks they encounter in their later lives.