1. Understand and accept children.
A series of physical and mental changes of children are beyond their control. At this time, parents' understanding and acceptance are especially needed. Never see some changes in your child, or shout and panic when you find his abnormal behavior, let alone scold and accuse him. Otherwise, it will only aggravate children's rebellious psychology and increase the gap with their parents.
2. Parents change their handling methods.
Change the tone, wording, attitude and behavior when speaking. The past practice has proved to be ineffective, so no matter how you change it, you will have a better chance of success than repeating the past method. Don't think that children are "obedient" as soon as they change. He will use countless temptations to see if his parents insist.
3. Give children the respect and trust they deserve.
Emotion itself is not a problem, what really needs to be dealt with is the thing or process that leads to emotion. As adults, if parents can jump out of this strange circle of authority in front of their children, it is wise to be equal friends with their children in the long run. Equality between friends will make communication between them smoother, so there will be no disagreement with children about "obedient".
4. Parents should improve their influence.
The influence of parents comes from: 1, knowledge, 2, the power of example. Therefore, parents should keep learning, improve their knowledge accumulation and convince their children through profound knowledge. In addition, they should lead by example, match words with deeds, pay attention to their own cultivation, establish their own prestige and become role models for their children. Parents should be calm and amiable when communicating with their children.
5. Moderate tolerance.
Adolescent children are rebellious, don't fight hard, don't argue with their children, think that their arms can't always be twisted on their thighs, be moderately patient, and let the children pass first, because this is the only way in his life.
6. Praise more and criticize less.
An educator once said that good children love to brag. Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind.
7. Leave an independent space for your child.
Sometimes it is completely reasonable for children to focus on what they are interested in and ignore what their parents say. Parents should give their children more space. In this way, children will have time or courage to do what they like, and if they can get timely praise, it will also be good for their future development.
8. When correcting children's shortcomings, we must pay attention to maturity and choose the best place and time.
Adolescent children are sensitive, and inappropriate ways, places and opportunities make them embarrassed and lose face, so it is difficult to accept their parents' opinions.
Reminder: If you are obedient, you will use your brain less, which is easy for children to have dependent personality, which is very unfavorable for children's intellectual development, autonomy and creativity. Therefore, the best way is not to ask the child to obey, but to help the child understand and feel what he should do and get a lot of fun from it.
Due to their own limitations, people will take more or less detours in different periods of life. Especially in adolescence, due to the lack of thinking and knowledge, it is easier to take detours. If a person takes fewer detours or does not take detours in adolescence, it shows that his life lacks a lot of experience. Because the more you do, the more setbacks you encounter and the more problems you face, and this experience will become a kind of wealth in life.