When parents disagree, children come out of the psychological state of self-care and choose the one that is beneficial to them. Over time, it will cast a child's "dual personality", one in front of his father and the other in front of his mother.

2. It is not conducive to the shaping of parents' prestige and authority.

Parents doubt each other's views on culture and education in front of their children, especially in the case of disputes or even negation between the two sides, children will doubt their parents, thus reducing their prestige and authority and endangering the actual effect of culture and education.

3. It is not conducive to the generation of children's correct moral concepts.

Children's right and wrong discrimination norms are gradually produced in the growth stage, and most of them come from parents. If parents don't agree, children will be at a loss and their moral concepts will become more and more blurred.

4. It is not conducive to the shaping of children's own control ability

When a child's personal behavior is unanimously affirmed or denied by his parents, he will understand whether he is appropriate and distinguish whether this behavior should be terminated or corrected again; However, if parents' suggestions are inconsistent, children will not know what they should do, and they will not be able to correct their wrong practices purposefully.

5. Not conducive to children's physical and mental health

When parents' self-cultivation consciousness is inconsistent, it is very easy to have disputes or even disputes with each other, which makes the atmosphere at home more and more anxious and causes psychological trauma to children. In the future, children will become more and more cautious, fearing that their parents will have disputes because of their mistakes.

Second, what should parents do? 1. Improve the relationship between husband and wife first

Only by clarifying the feelings of husband and wife can we clarify other connections, the family will be happy, and the children's cultural education will be thawed.

Don't scold each other in front of the children.

When the children arrive at the scene, they should try to reduce the face contradiction between them, and then look for appropriate opportunities to express their opinions or suggestions through calm and in-depth discussions and communicate frankly with each other.

3. Learn to "seek great harmony"

Husband and wife often communicate, even before the birth of the child, they should think and communicate some questions, such as: what kind of child to shape? How should differences be resolved? Husband and wife also need to reach a consensus that they will never quarrel when there is a problem.

4. Educate children to be logical.

In order to better prevent children from causing "chaos", parents must not "change culture and education", which will make children at a loss and weaken the authority of parents' cultural education.