Many people don't like to compare with others, especially children. But competition is also a part of growth. Sociologist Hilary Levy Friedman gave parents five pieces of advice to teach their children to face winning and losing gracefully.

Friedman pointed out in his book "Play Win: Raising Children in a Competitive Culture" that children over 6 years old will naturally notice who runs fastest and who is the best in math. This is not a bad thing.

"Today, children can compete in many fields," she said. "Don't take it as a comparison. Think of it as an opportunity for children to explore their own expertise. This helps them build their self-esteem. 」

Appropriate competitive spirit can help children challenge themselves. However, how can we educate children not to be arrogant when they win, not to lose their temper when they lose, and not to show off when they win? Friedman said: "It's not difficult at all! She gave her parents the following five suggestions:

1. Let children learn to compete early.

Don't be afraid to let the children take part in the competition. Friedman said: "Most children can learn to compete according to the rules of the game before the first grade of primary school. There is one main advantage of letting children participate in the competition early: winning or losing also requires practice. After practice, children will gradually understand that winning or losing has nothing to do with individuals.

2. Encourage children to appreciate their opponents.

The best way to cultivate sportsmanship is to pay equal attention to both teaching and learning. "Parents can show their children good manners, such as praising other children:' He defended well! And praised teamwork: "the child helped John up when he fell." Dad thinks he did a good job! Children will imitate their parents' words and deeds.