Educate children well and make them obey. 14: 1. Parents are the most important and irreplaceable educators in a child's life. 0-6 years old is a critical period for the formation of children's quality and good habits. The first two years of a child's life is a crucial period for establishing a strong emotional bond with his parents, and it is the basis for children's future psychological growth and building a relationship of trust and love with others. All the knowledge about life, 50% is learned in the first year of life, and 25% is learned in the second year of life. The knowledge of life here mainly refers to the ability of love and the development of emotion. 2. If you want to change your child's behavior, parents must first change themselves. Educating children is the process of educating yourself. Children's bad behavior is often taught directly from the environment or parents. Education by example is the most reliable way to cultivate children's moral behavior. Cultivating children's spiritual quality is far more important than intellectual development. Spirit is a tree and thought is a fruit. Spirit is a lamp, and thought is light. Human intelligence is a reflection of spiritual quality. If we only pay attention to the cultivation of skills (such as various early intellectual development interest classes) and ignore the cultivation of children's spiritual quality, we can only put the cart before the horse. When children grow up, their personality will be flawed and their moral development will be hindered. 4, reasonable control of children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and cannot be done. Control must have authority: when children may make mistakes, we must have authority when we want to control them. Let your children know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward. Restricting children beneficially can cultivate their discipline. Of course, the control of children must be responsible. And tell your child the reason for your request. Consistency with the child's father: Parents have the same control over the child, so that the child can establish a unified standard of behavior. Even if you don't agree with dad's control, you'd better discuss it with him when the child is not present in the future. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents. Don't over-punish: don't abuse children physically and psychologically. The best way to manage a child is to reward him for his good behavior. Parents should actively teach their children basic values and behaviors by actively encouraging them to establish good self-worth. Let children grow up in society. Of course, in this respect, example is better than words, and we can be good examples for children. It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Therefore, we can't let our children do what we don't want to do, and we can't do one thing by ourselves and let our children do another. Only by setting an example and paying attention to the cultivation of children's values and etiquette can we educate the next generation with noble morality. People with high self-worth have three "abilities": I have the ability; I can associate with people around me; I can contribute to the happiness of others anytime and anywhere. Believe that you have the potential to learn and grow, and cultivate qualities such as courage, faith, self-confidence and trust in life and others. On the contrary, low self-worth is a negative understanding of yourself, and destructive emotions such as self-blame, humiliation, anger and hatred will accompany you all your life. 6. Accept and confirm children's emotions (especially negative ones). When parents deny their children's feelings, children feel that they cannot be understood. Only when the child's emotions are accepted, his feelings are comfortable, and his behavior is good, because the child lives in a world of feelings. Listening to children's voices, experienced parents suggest that it is a very valuable way to understand children's feelings through conversation. No matter how big or small your child's problem is, try to find time to listen to what he says right away, instead of letting your child wait until you are free. Talking with children provides us with an opportunity to understand and teach children. Listening to the child's conversation immediately will help win the trust of the child, so that the child will be willing to tell us everything. It is also important for us to know what children are thinking. Therefore, when the child talks to us, we should talk to him as soon as possible. In this way, the child will not be disappointed, he can feel how important he is to us, and he will tell us more about his heart. 7. Establish clear family rules and hold regular family meetings. Children need to know where the boundaries are, what to do and what not to do. Without rules, children feel insecure. There are no more than five or six family rules. To meet the specific needs of families, they must be stated in affirmative sentences and posted. If you violate the family rules, you should make clear the corresponding punishment measures. Once established, we must resolutely implement it, and adjust and repair the family rules every once in a while. Hold regular family meetings to let the whole family share the process of life development, promote democracy, respect each other and enjoy the atmosphere of love. 8. Give children a certain range of choices. As children grow up, it is very important to give them more and more freedom and power to control their own lives. We should consciously demand ourselves; Even restraining yourself from doing anything is for the children's ideas and giving them some freedom. Giving children some freedom shows that we trust and respect children, and children will respect and love us more. Giving children a certain range of choices can avoid nervousness and provide them with practical opportunities to make decisions. For example, "It's time for bed. Do you want to hear yesterday's story or is it new? " "Do you want to wear a pink coat or a blue T-shirt today? (If the children don't choose either, parents may ask, "Shall I help you choose, or do you choose yourself?" It is a daily behavior to make choices and let children be the masters, which is very important for developing children's self-worth. 9. Games are children's main activities. Children learn through games. Children need to interact with their peers, adults and the environment through contact with concrete and simulated things related to life. Games let children relax and cultivate a focused work attitude. Before the age of 5, don't start practicing symbols such as letters and numbers too early, which will limit children's thinking, because children's minds are not mature enough to understand abstract concepts. 10. Tell children what to do, instead of the condescending attitude of traditional educators, always telling children "Don't hit people, don't eat on the sofa" and so on. This negative tone will only lead to attention and focus on negative behavior; And children still don't know what good behavior is and what to do. The positive statement is to use virtue to modify children's behavior, such as "you forgot to get along with others" or "we eat at the table! 1 1. Take time to get along with your children alone every day and do something of mutual interest. Every child needs to get enough attention from his parents. Every day after work, take some time to participate in children's games. It is necessary to provide children with various experiences and expose them to various things as much as possible. As children's listeners, supporters and spiritual companions, parents should respect their children's feelings when they encounter setbacks and accompany them with detachment and sympathy. 12, don't forget to leave some rest time for yourself. Take the initiative to find some time and put the children aside for the time being. This is to create a better psychological environment for children. Raising children does not mean that we have to give up our personal needs and communication between husband and wife. Harmony between husband and wife is very important for family stability. In addition, we need some free time to do what we like, away from the tedious housework and work. Have a sense of humor and don't regret your little mistakes. Only by adjusting your mood, relaxing and being good at rest can you work better. 13, let the father of the child play a role. Psychologists' research shows that fathers are very important for children's growth. Dad is not only a supervisor, but also an active participant. As a group, parents will get better results by discussing educational principles, playing games and talking with their children. Let people around you help you and make your life easier. 14. Parents who enjoy the happiness brought by their children deeply feel the happiness brought by their children's growth. Because children make our life great, make us more understanding and make our life full of hope. Therefore, we should not complain about our hard work, but try to find and enjoy the happiness that children bring us. I wish you good luck, good health and happiness (* _ *) and happy growth of your children (* _ *).