There are thirty-six strategies in ancient art of war. If you use clever plans, sometimes you can win the war without moving a single soldier.
There are 36 ways to raise children. You can easily raise a child without losing your temper.
Children are willful, how to help TA to converge her temper?
Children feel inferior, how to help TA build self-confidence?
Children are tired of learning, how to convince them?
How to mediate parent-child relationship when children are rebellious?
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Using the right method can not only help children learn good communication, but also teach them the correct way to solve problems.
There are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can't teach well.
0 1 Play weak tricks and let children be "adults"
Children's sense of responsibility should be cultivated from an early age. If you are always fearless in front of children, children will think that parents don't need to care. Therefore, parents may wish to pretend to be weak occasionally and ask their children for help. You will be surprised to find that their children have become sensible "little adults" and you can get a lot from their help.
02 Strengthening Plan-Changing Children from Inferiority to Self-confidence
"Reinforcement Law": When a person's behavior gets satisfactory results, this behavior will be repeated. Therefore, when the child is recognized, TA's self-confidence will be aroused, and his satisfactory behavior will be repeated until he gets rid of his inferiority complex and becomes a confident and progressive good boy.
Inducers help children overcome the quagmire of learning weariness one by one.
Almost every child is more or less tired of learning, which is understandable but can't be let go. This perineum hinders children's enthusiasm for learning, but compulsory learning is not a good way and will only deepen children's disgust. The smart way is to induce children's interest in learning and let them learn spontaneously.
Let the children have a little self-control.
Most of them are only children now, and they are taken care of by their families. But this will make the child develop wayward habits, which will lay a huge hidden danger for his later life. It is suggested that children may wish to try cold treatment when they are willful, which will make children automatically restrain their temper because they are not paid attention to.
05 frustration plan-give children a chance to experience failure.
"Adversity can produce talents, and children who grow up through setbacks and hardships are more competitive in survival." In order to enhance children's frustration tolerance, parents may wish to consciously create some moderate frustration feelings for their children. This kind of frustration education is of great benefit to enhancing children's psychological endurance.
Put down the plan and do your own thing.
Don't do everything for the children. Parents should try to let their children do it by themselves. They may not do it well the first time, but they will do it quickly and well in the future. Don't be an arranged parent, let go, create opportunities and platforms for children to do things, let children stand on their own feet, and parents will have less troubles.
07 connivance plan allows children to develop their potential in "naughty"
Some parents complain that their children are "too naughty" and "destructive" In fact, these children are often smart, curious and determined. Therefore, smart parents should try their best to "indulge" their children's naughty and destructive behaviors, take the opportunity to tap their potential and cultivate their interests. Maybe your child is another Edison.
08 punishment plan-let children face up to their mistakes
Educate children to have clear rewards and punishments, and reward them for doing well, but they must not tolerate mistakes, even small ones, so that children can face up to their mistakes. Correct it in time to avoid getting deeper and deeper in mistakes.
09 Refrigeration tables "pour cold water" on conceited children one by one.
Conceit is self-evaluation and arrogance, which is extremely unfavorable to children's growth. Therefore, once the signs of conceit are found, parents should use "cold storage" to pour some cold water in time, so that children can learn to evaluate rationally and know themselves correctly.
10 Pratt & Whitney program makes children feel the unconditional love of their parents.
Children may not be smart enough and may have many shortcomings, but as parents, you must never be biased, humiliated or disgusted with children. Be tolerant of children and have confidence.
1 1 model rice-parents should be their children's first teachers.
Parents are role models for children, and children are parents' mirrors. Parents' words and deeds will affect their children. Therefore, parents should be strict with themselves, set an example for their children with their correct words and deeds, and guide their children to grow up healthily.
12 encouragement plan-give children the power to make progress.
It is easy for children to lose confidence in themselves and give up their efforts because of difficulties. Therefore, parents should constantly encourage their children, give them the courage to advance and the confidence to win, and let them correct their shortcomings and make continuous progress under their parents' expectations.
13 Listen to the meter and carefully understand the child's feelings.
Every child has his own voice, so parents must listen patiently in order to truly understand his thoughts and feelings, and deal with the children's physical and psychological problems and changes in time. On this basis, we can have good parent-child communication and establish a harmonious parent-child relationship.
14 Reward a good plan-let the children make progress in praise.
Educating children, rewards are more effective than punishment. Reward more and use punishment appropriately. Replacing negative shortcomings with positive advantages can not only avoid hurting children, but also make better progress.
15 dial meter cleverly reminds children to consciously take the right path.
Parents who preach and do everything for their children are the ones that children dislike the most. Smart parents will only give their children some guidance and help them solve problems when they encounter problems or make mistakes. In this way, the children understand the truth and the parents have achieved the educational goal.
16 virtual rice makes children feel "I am great" one by one.
"With the feeling of genius, you will become a genius; With the feeling of being a hero, you will become a hero. When a child finds the feeling of being a good child, he will become a good child. " Create a kind of "I am great" self-feeling for children by virtual means, and he will gradually "stick".
17 Let children learn more from their mistakes.
Children will inevitably make some mistakes and mistakes. Some are unintentional, and some are intentional. If the nature of children's mistakes is not very serious, then parents may wish to give tolerance and understanding, so that children will not only correct their mistakes more seriously in guilt and self-blame, but also form a good tolerant attitude.
18 exhortation plan-let children know their mistakes and start over.
Children are children, and there will be all kinds of problems and mistakes. Some mistakes are tolerable and some are not. Children must be criticized reasonably and effectively to ensure that similar mistakes will not be made again. Even generous parents can't let this reasonable discipline be absent.
19 edification plan-give children a good life influence
Family is the first class for children, and the influence of family education is far-reaching and enormous. Therefore, if parents can tell stories in family life to cultivate their children's healthy hobbies and interests, as well as their children's interests and conduct in Zhi Tao, they can make their children grow up healthily.
20 grooming plan-let children change from opposition to cooperation.
The success of Dayu's water control lies in "dredging" rather than "blocking", and parents can also get inspiration from it. Too much autocracy in education will only lead to children's rebellion and "against you", but if you adopt a wise and open guidance strategy, children will be willing to cooperate with you happily.
2 1 Zunzi plan brings children closer to their parents.
The contradiction between parents and children is often because parents don't respect their children enough, which makes them feel afraid and dissatisfied, thus pulling them away. Try to respect children, and you will become the most popular parent.
Point-to-point communication with children.
The premise of good communication with children is equality, and they are his good friends. Only in this way will he be willing to tell you the truth and his parents can help them solve all kinds of problems in time. If you always put on airs and arbitrarily ask your children to obey themselves, then the door of communication between parents and children will slowly close.
23 attack and defense plan-give the child a "vaccination" first.
The best defense is attack, and so is educating children. Instead of disciplining and getting angry after a child has a problem, it is better to lay a "vaccination" in advance to improve the child's "immunity" and let the child take fewer detours and make fewer mistakes.
Training and frugality help children overcome arrogance.
Today's children are all "little emperors" and "little princesses" at home. As soon as it rains, they form the habit of being extravagant and extravagant, spending money lavishly and not caring about things. This habit is extremely unfavorable to the healthy growth of children. Therefore, parents should confidently educate their children to be frugal and help them develop the habit of frugality. This is the true love for him.
25 Peer Teaching Plan-Teaching children well through participation
If parents can participate in their children's lives and spend more time with their children, they can not only enhance the parent-child relationship, but also inspire their children. At the same time, they can learn more about their children, which is very important for developing their potential and cultivating talents.
Don't let small problems become big problems.
In life, children sometimes have some minor problems, such as bullying, rudeness and laziness. We should pay attention to them at this time. Although the problem is small, it should be strictly controlled to prevent procrastination, otherwise the small problem will become a big problem. Don't tolerate children's small mistakes. Strict management is also a sign of love.
Persuade the peace plan to let children and teachers tolerate each other.
There will also be some friction and misunderstanding between teachers and students. At this time, parents should play the role of "peacemakers" to help both sides eliminate contradictions and misunderstandings and understand and tolerate each other. Let the children still respect the teacher, and the teacher will continue to care for the children.
Let children learn self-control with reasonable rules.
Children's self-control ability is poor, and parents' preaching of "don't do this" and "don't do that" is easy to get bored. At this time, parents can establish a set of effective behavior rules for their children as the basis for their children to judge their own behavior, thus restraining their own behavior.
Don't put too much pressure on children.
In life, there are more and more children with psychological barriers. Child psychologists point out that excessive pressure is an important reason for children's psychological problems, and it is imperative to reduce the burden on children. In order to make children grow up healthily, parents should not put too much pressure on their children.
30 motivational factors motivate children to love learning.
Teach children to find the right way. When persuasion and preaching are ineffective, parents may wish to try this incentive plan. Use the child's aggressive, rebellious and even jealous psychology to deliberately stimulate the child, so that the child will change from not loving learning to active learning.
3 1 acceptance scheme-let children like and accept themselves.
If children can't fully understand themselves and see their strengths, there will be many problems. Such as inferiority complex, jealousy, etc. Therefore, parents should let their children see their own advantages, let them like themselves, and let them face life with confidence.
Use patience-gently correct children's "out of line" behavior
Children often make some "outrageous" behaviors that parents can't tolerate, and "stormy" education will only make children go to extremes. Therefore, parents can only "be patient" and suppress their anger. Understand and tolerate children more, and guide them on this basis, so as to lead to the right path.
33 Revelations —— Cultivating Children's Personality of Bold Exploration
In life, it is often those who dare to explore and be fearless that can achieve outstanding achievements and happiness. Therefore, for the sake of children's future, parents should not overprotect or overemphasize the cultivation of "obedient" children, but should give them more opportunities to exercise and encourage them to be brave children.
34 probation instrument-touching children's hearts with true feelings
Educating children can't just preach, scold and persuade, sometimes they must have feelings, so as to shake their hearts and achieve the best effect of education. However, to influence children, we must be sincere, otherwise the effect will be greatly reduced.
35 Equality Plan-Cultivate Children with an Open Mind
Only children are "little suns" and are used to being self-centered. But this personality is extremely unfavorable to interpersonal communication. Therefore, in life, parents should pay attention not to give their children special status, cultivate their spirit of sharing and cooperation, and gradually cultivate an open-minded child.
36 bitter grinding plan-cultivate children's will and perseverance
Children face a highly competitive society, and many children lack the courage to overcome difficulties because of their comfortable life. Therefore, smart parents should let their children go through more hardships to cultivate their indomitable will and perseverance, so that they can win in the future competition.