First, the current problems in children's family education
Parents' educational expectations are too high.
Today's children are mostly only children or second children, and a child embodies the hopes of generations. Influenced by traditional ideas, parents' mentality of "expecting children to succeed and women to succeed" is extremely prominent. Many parents regard their children as their private property and design their future for them from the moment they are born. They want their children to grow up according to their own development path, and seldom consider their physical and mental characteristics, age characteristics, hobbies, original foundation, natural wealth and other actual conditions. Due to the lack of correct educational concepts and knowledge, some parents show great blindness in family education. For example, blind investment, blind teaching, blind requirements, blind comparison, blind giving up, and so on. The blindness of family education often leads to the opposite result, which not only wastes energy and financial resources for many families, but also greatly dampens children's interest. How to be considered Jackie Chan and Cheng Feng, there is no exact standard. As the saying goes, 360 lines, each line is the best. If it is necessary to rigidly stipulate what knowledge children must learn and what indicators they must achieve, these high and unrealistic requirements, like the tight hoop on their heads, will cause great pressure on their bodies and minds. Under this pressure, some children even have a strong rebellious mentality. These are all children's resistance to their parents' "high expectations". I'm afraid this kind of ending is just the opposite of parents' good wishes for their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. If these parents can hold correct and reasonable expectations for their children, I believe that children can also become parents' dragons and phoenixes.
(B) the content of family education is shrinking.
At present, many parents have a one-sided understanding of their children's family education. They equate children's family education with intellectual education, and regard literacy, reciting poems, calculation, pinyin and learning foreign languages as the main courses of children's education. They mistakenly believe that children will have everything in the future with knowledge, ignoring the cultivation of non-intellectual factors such as children's morality, will, interest and personality. Practice has proved that non-intellectual factors have an extremely important influence on the success of a person's future career. Paying too much attention to intellectual education and neglecting the cultivation of non-intellectual factors will not only affect the formation of children's good moral character and healthy personality, but also hinder the all-round and harmonious development of children's body, intelligence, morality and beauty, and even lead to the lack of children's personality, which will have a negative impact on children's life.
(C) improper methods of parent education
Under the influence of incorrect educational concepts, parents' educational methods and means tend to go to extremes. One is overindulgence. John ross Mond, an American family psychologist, believes that parents' care is a vitamin for children's growth. In real life, we often encounter such things: teenagers can't wash handkerchiefs and socks, junior high school students are at a loss when the water boils, college students can't take care of themselves, and they want to bring their mothers to school ..... All these phenomena happen because parents spoil and pamper their children from childhood, excessive care and unprincipled arrangements deprive them of the opportunity to establish independent consciousness and exercise their self-reliance ability. Second, it is too strict. Many parents ask too much of their children and impose too many restrictions. They think that "a dutiful son is born under the stick" and "no one can beat or scold". In this case, stubborn children often show a strong sense of resistance, have a rebellious attitude towards their parents, and become grumpy and rude; Children with weak personality will have fear, show deception and lying, cope with the punishment and reprimand of their parents, become hypocritical and lose their innocence.
Second, suggestions for improving children's family education
(A) establish a correct view of parent-child and family education.
Parents should learn to respect young children. Parents can't regard their children as their attachments or private property, but expect their children to realize their unfulfilled wishes and ideals and make up for the shortcomings in life. Children are independent, conscious and thoughtful individuals and should be respected and treated equally by their parents. Respect for children is the deepest love of parents.
Parents nowadays should pay attention to their children. Children's development is natural, phased and regular. What parents should do is to follow this law and gradually guide their children to develop in an all-round way physically, intellectually, morally and aesthetically on the basis of respecting their interests and personalities. However, what many parents consider most is what their children will look like tomorrow. Many parents who are too worried and impatient do not hesitate to spend a lot of managers and financial resources to fill their children's time with interest classes in order to sacrifice their children's today for the so-called "better tomorrow." In fact, this practice is very unwise. The growth of children depends on today first. If children's today is sacrificed for tomorrow, the consequences can only be as Rousseau, a French educator, said: "Some fruits will be premature, not full, not sweet, and will soon rot." Therefore, caring for children is not the "satisfaction" of dressing children beyond their means, nor is it oppressing children with all kinds of so-called knowledge and ability training. But according to the law of their physical and mental development, we should give them scientific guidance, give them full respect and freedom, let them enjoy happiness in their natural growth, and form independent will quality and sound personality in their daily life.
(2) study hard and constantly improve their cultural literacy.
Early childhood education is mainly the task of kindergartens. Parents are actually children's first teachers, and family education plays a vital role in children's growth. Parents should strengthen ideological and moral cultivation, learn professional knowledge of preschool education, strengthen communication with kindergarten teachers, and form a strong educational combination between family and kindergarten, so that children can be edified and cultivated in all directions and through multiple channels. Relevant research has proved that the quality of children's family education is related to the quality of parents and their education level. Nowadays, children have a strong thirst for knowledge and a wide range of interests. Parents need to combine the needs of family education practice, constantly learn new knowledge and update their knowledge structure in various ways, so that family education can meet the requirements of the times intellectually.
(c) Improve educational methods and properly solve specific problems in the process of children's growth.
Parents are bound to encounter various problems in the process of educating their children. To solve these problems properly, parents must educate their children scientifically and reasonably.
Many parents think that their level of cultural knowledge is poor, and some even give up their right to family education without knowing a few words. It is enough to equate the responsibilities of parents with those of nannies, and only be responsible for the daily needs of children such as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Early childhood education is mainly the task of kindergartens. In fact, parents are children's first teachers, and family education plays a vital role in children's growth. Parents should strengthen ideological and moral cultivation, learn professional knowledge of preschool education, strengthen communication with kindergarten teachers, and form a strong educational combination between family and kindergarten, so that children can be edified and cultivated in all directions and through multiple channels. Relevant research has proved that the quality of children's family education is related to the quality of parents and their education level. Nowadays, children have a strong thirst for knowledge and a wide range of interests. Parents need to combine the needs of family education practice, constantly learn new knowledge and update their knowledge structure in various ways, so that family education can meet the requirements of the times intellectually.