My son spilled a little milk at breakfast the next day. According to the rules of the family, you will be punished for spilling something, and you can only eat bread and salt. My son likes drinking milk very much, and the pastor's whole family likes him very much. The milk he gave him was specially prepared with the best snacks. My son blushed a little, hesitated for a while, and finally stopped drinking. I pretended not to see it. When the priest's family saw this, they lost their temper and repeatedly asked him to drink milk, but his son just wouldn't drink it. Due to the repeated persuasion of the pastor's family, Little Witt finally said, "Because I spilled milk, I can't drink any more." The pastor's family repeatedly persuaded: "It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter at all. Drink, drink. " Pretend not to see it while eating snacks. My son just doesn't drink it, so the pastor who loves Little Witt too much speculated that it must be because I scolded my son and attacked me. At this time, I asked my son to go out and explain the reason to the priest's family. After listening, they said, "Your education is too strict for a 6-year-old child, because a little mistake restricts him from drinking or eating what he likes." "No, my son didn't drink it because his education was strictly afraid of me, but because he realized from his heart that it was a discipline to restrain himself." I explained. But the pastor's family still didn't believe me, so I had to say, "In this case, I'll leave this room. If you call my son and persuade him to drink, he will definitely not drink." With that, I walked away. At this time, they called my son in and enthusiastically advised him to drink milk and eat snacks, but to no avail. Then they changed new milk and brought new snacks to lie to my son and said, "We won't tell your father, let's eat." But the son still refused to eat, repeatedly saying, "Even if dad can't see, God can see, and I can't do anything lying." They added, "Since we are going for a walk in XX, you will eat nothing and starve to death on the way." The son replied, "It doesn't matter." There was no other way, so they called me in, and my son truthfully reported the situation to me with tears of excitement. After listening calmly, I said to him, "son, you have punished your conscience enough." Because I am going for a walk soon, in order to live up to everyone's wishes, I ate milk and snacks, and then we can set off. " My son listened to my words and drank the milk happily. The priest's family was puzzled by the self-control of a 6-year-old child. After listening to my story, people may think that my education is too strict, just like a priest's house. Yes, my education is very strict in a sense. Generally speaking, strict education is very painful for children, but my education is not. I think the reason why children will be severely educated is because the educational methods were improper. Education for children, like laying bricks, must lay a good foundation. As long as you grasp it from an early age, you won't feel any pain. I tried my best to do this in the process of education. I have always implemented a principle in educating children, that is, distinguish right from wrong, be consistent, and if it doesn't work, it won't work. Sometimes agreeing, sometimes disagreeing, will bring pain to children. We will never lack what we have never got. What is not allowed is not allowed from the beginning, so there is no child's pain. According to this truth, I have been strict since 1 year old. I never thought that "I can relax when I was a child and be stricter when I grow up". Yes, this is a common practice of parents all over the world, so children can't help but feel pain. Their "forbidden laws" are inconsistent, capricious and inconsistent. Sometimes you can't, sometimes you can, so it is not credible to unconsciously spread the parents' "forbidden law" in children's minds, and it is difficult to educate children. Therefore, I think that in order to educate children well, parents must agree on the quality of things, and uncertainty is the biggest taboo in educating children. Secondly, parents should agree, and I have always been concerned about this. When I teach Wit intellectual education and physical education class, I often get my wife's cooperation first. The so-called loving mother in strict father, if it means that parents disagree or temper justice with mercy, is by no means a good idea.