In daily life, we often hear the phrase "convince people by reasoning", and think that only by reasoning with others can we be the most convincing and achieve the best results. When we reason with our children, we will find that the more we reason with our children, the more disobedient they are. We can use heuristic education to make children understand our point of view.

Correct guidance and demonstration

In family education, we should provide children with correct guidance and demonstration as much as possible. Children often imitate their parents' behavior and language, so we can use our own actions to influence children's behavior and let children learn correct values and behaviors in imitation.

Rational differences

Everyone has his own unique ideas and viewpoints and forms his own unique truth. In my daily life and work, I will stick to my own truth, which is the standard and basis of my action. The reason is different, and there is often a big difference between the two.

Communication difficulties

It is very difficult for people with different ideas to communicate with each other and can't convince each other. A direct result of this reality is that when reasoning with the other party, the other party will not agree at all, and their ideas cannot be integrated at all.

No one can convince anyone.

When they have different ideas and stick to their own principles, if both sides communicate, there will be situations where no one can convince the other side. This situation will lead to a more unfavorable consequence, that is, the feelings and mutual trust between them will be affected, which will lead to a worse relationship between them. After reasoning with the child, he will become more disobedient.