Parents are their children's first teachers, and families are their first classes. Children are influenced by their families from the first day of birth until they grow up. It can be said that family is the cradle of children's growth, so school education and family education are inseparable. However, some parents don't know how to educate their children at home. Some parents don't know anything about family education, or have a little knowledge. Every time a parent-teacher meeting is held, many parents will say, "My children also ask teachers to take more care of them. We haven't studied for several years and don't know how to educate our children. " These are not only facts, but also show that many parents have incorrect educational concepts and rely too much on schools for education. They neglected the importance of family education. Therefore, the head teacher can use the opportunity of the parent-teacher conference to teach parents how to educate their children correctly and jointly shoulder the responsibility of cultivating a new generation, which is very necessary for the healthy growth of children. How to have a good parent-teacher conference? First of all, make clear the purpose of the parent-teacher conference. The purpose of parents' meeting is not only to let parents know about their children's academic achievements, but more importantly, to understand and master the process of children's psychological changes from schools and teachers, so that parents can truly enter their children's hearts and become their close elders and friends, so that school education and family education can be organically combined, and ultimately promote their healthy physical and mental growth. Many of our parents' meetings reflect to parents that their children have disciplinary problems, ideological problems, or poor learning, so that parents can educate and help their children. The result is that children are rebellious and parents don't know what to do. Over and over again, some parents take coercive measures and even beat and scold their children, and some parents take the attitude of giving up. This is also a misunderstanding in family education. Only by improving parents' family education literacy can children grow up healthily in school and family. The purpose of our parent-teacher conference is very clear, but the implementation process is very complicated, involving the handling of various relationships between schools, parents and students. After the parents' meeting, there are various phenomena of beating and cursing children, which seriously limit their activities. This does not mean that there is anything wrong with the PTA itself. The key is to see what form the school takes and how parents should deal with the information obtained from parent-teacher conferences. The situation of parents' abuse and control of children's activities after the parent-teacher conference shows that there are also problems in theoretical guidance and concrete practice of our family education, which is also an important factor for the parent-teacher conference to fail to achieve the expected goals. Schools should teach parents the scientific knowledge of family education through parent-teacher conferences and individual exchanges, so as to help parents improve the quality of family education and make family education a rational behavior. In the process of education, we find that family education is relatively weak in the whole education. Many parents don't know what their children really need. In fact, for children, parents' concern, emotional communication and ideological communication with them are the most important. Many parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They put all their hopes on schools and teachers, and only pay attention to the cultivation of children's intelligence, ignoring the development of children's non-intelligence factors. Someone has made a survey of successful people, and found that their success is not only excellent professionally, but also profound knowledge and extensive interests, which are closely related to their family education and growth environment. Non-intellectual factors such as will, personality, emotion and interest are very important, and the cultivation of these factors cannot be separated from parents and family education. Second, there are various forms of parent-teacher conferences. The basic procedures of many parent-teacher conferences are: the principal instills some principles for parents on how to educate their children; The head teacher introduces the students' basic learning situation to parents, guides parents how to coach their children, and puts forward suggestions and requirements; Distribute the ranking tables of students of the same class and even the whole school, and some even call them "Dragon and Tiger List" at the header of the ranking table, which means that the campus is a land of great leaps and bounds. It's obviously not appropriate for parent-teacher conferences to be held like this. After watching the Dragon and Tiger List, the parents of those students with low marks are under great psychological pressure and unbalanced psychology, which will inevitably be passed on to their children. Students with poor grades, in particular, are most afraid of holding parent-teacher conferences, because after each parent-teacher conference, they are bound to be scolded. At such a parent-teacher meeting, the exchange of information is also one-way, that is, the school transmits information to the parents of the children in one direction, and the parents only have the right to listen. No wonder some people say that parents become "tape recorders" at parent-teacher conferences. The fundamental reason for this one-way communication is that school leaders and teachers pretend to be educators, thinking that parents of children are ignorant in education, at least worse than teachers. The class teacher and subject teacher only know the students' learning situation at the parent-teacher conference, and know little or nothing about other aspects. At the same time, the teachers are still under the command of the "examination baton", so the "parents" of the school always seriously teach their children's parents how to improve their children's academic performance. Another reason is that parents of China students believe that teachers should never be offended, otherwise their children will enjoy "generous" treatment. Therefore, parents of China students have no status in parent-teacher conferences. The relationship between teachers and them is not equal. For them, once the child is in the charge of the teacher, he becomes a subordinate of the teacher and listens to the teacher's command at any time. Therefore, at many parent-teacher conferences, the atmosphere is always so serious, teachers keep a straight face, and it is difficult for parents of children to see smiles, as if they were trying students in absentia. At the meeting, the teachers counted the students' mistakes like judges. To this end, in the process of education, I also made some attempts. For example, the class teacher can give a special lecture on the problems that children are likely to encounter at a certain stage, and guide parents to educate their children correctly. For example, some parent-teacher conferences will be held to let parents who are successful in educating their children talk about how they educate their children at home. Or teachers, parents, students get together, experts report, students' homework and works show, round-table dialogue and discussion, etc. I once had a very successful parent-teacher conference. Before the parent-teacher meeting that day, I asked the whole class what they thought. I dare not tell my parents in person. If I need a teacher to tell my parents, I can tell them first. As a result, the whole class handed me a note. I conveyed the contents of these notes to my parents at the parent-teacher meeting. Many parents are shocked to see their children's ideas: they never knew their children had such ideas. After the meeting, the students also reported that their parents understood them better. The purpose of parent-teacher conference is to unify school education and family education on the basis of communication, prevent educational differences and reduce the blindness of children's thoughts and behaviors. Now many schools have realized these problems at parent-teacher conferences, and actively explore and innovate the mode and content of parent-teacher conferences. For example, some schools set up parent committees, as an important educational force of the school, and often inform the parent committees about the school situation, and ask the members of the parent committees to help analyze and jointly find solutions to the problems; There are also some schools that offer parent schools and various educational lectures for parents, such as how parents talk to adolescent children and how to cultivate their sense of social responsibility. Facts have proved that these are extremely beneficial attempts. In foreign countries, the atmosphere and form of parent-teacher conferences are different from those in China. The parent-teacher conference in Germany is actually a meeting for parents, teachers and students to exchange feelings. During the meeting, no one made a report, no one talked about topics such as exams or grades, and no one compared students' grades with each other. They believe that children are not good or bad, but each student's interests and specialties are different. The responsibility of schools and parents is to seriously discover and cultivate children's potential and expertise. Schools, parents and students will discuss students' interests and hobbies, and what kind of jobs students are willing and suitable to do when they grow up. This is the theme of the parent-teacher conference. This kind of parent-teacher meeting has a relaxed and active atmosphere. In Japan, there are various forms of parent-teacher conferences, including special seminars, extracurricular knowledge exchange and temporary parent-teacher conferences. 1, family occupation class. Family occupation category is an objective index of family education. Because parents have different occupations, family education and family life will be affected to varying degrees, forming different family environment, family learning conditions and learning atmosphere; There are differences in educational awareness and methods of parents in different occupational categories. Parents' professional ethics and professionalism have a certain influence on their children. 2. Parents' educational level. The educational level of parents is one of the most important factors that affect their children's academic performance and behavior. Parents with high education level can actively guide their children's learning, and parents with medium education level can also play a better role in their children's ideological education and academic performance. For parents with primary school education, they often have to let themselves go because they are unable to guide them. In reality, we find that the education level and moral level of parents of students are highly related to the moral outlook of students. 3. The financial situation of the family. If the family is poor and the living standard is lower than the level of food and clothing, it will be impossible to provide normal learning conditions for children, which will seriously affect their education and physical and mental development. On the contrary, too rich family conditions may also become a disadvantage for children to learn. For example, gathering people to eat and drink, going in and out of game dance halls, etc. 4. The natural structure of the family. Children from families with normal structures can generally develop healthily. Here's a look at the abnormal family. First, divorced families, second, defective families, and third, adopted families. These abnormal families may cause mental burden to children's study and growth, and also are the main reasons for juvenile delinquency. Second, give parents scientific guidance, 1, and guide parents to "trust their children". Children are a new force. To believe in children is to believe in yourself. Every parent should have confidence in their children. 2. Guide parents to "appreciate children". In family life, children are in choices since childhood, and they have their own choices almost every day. Children are the object of education. Don't treat children as pets, and don't deprive them of their rights. Appreciate everything the child has paid, appreciate the little progress the child has made, and even learn to appreciate the failure of the child, so that the child feels that his parents will always be his backing. 3. Guide parents to be more peaceful and less harsh, and treat their children's growth with a normal heart. Both parents want their children to be successful. But in the vast world, there are still many ordinary people. If parents ignore objective factors and blindly demand and invest, the result may be higher expectations and greater disappointment. Parents should not put too much pressure on their children's growth. 4. Guide parents to follow the law of children's growth, and don't encourage them. When parents choose education for their children, they should also choose education suitable for their children's age, that is, don't cross the maximum pressure that children can bear at that age. The newspaper once reported that a girl could play the piano at the age of five, then went to dance classes and foreign language classes, published articles in the first grade, wrote 10,000-word martial arts novels in the fourth grade, and wrote 7,000-word romance novels at the first night. Is this kind of education normal? Is this the education they should receive at their age? This kind of education to develop children's potential prematurely won some extraordinary talents for a while, but parents didn't realize that they might be sacrificing their children's life happiness. Once the child can't meet your requirements, not only will you be disappointed, but the child may also lose interest in learning. 5. Guide parents to help their children establish a sense of thrift. "It is difficult to think about a porridge and a meal, and it is difficult to think about it." When life is getting better every day, we should know that the correct world outlook, outlook on life and morality are established through such concrete and subtle events. Not only that, parents should also let their children understand the hard work and hard life through various channels, and never let their children develop the bad habit of being extravagant. This is the true love for children. 6. Guide parents to actively guide their children in the process of their growth. We can't blindly raise the requirements and increase the burden, but we can't let ourselves go. In fact, children's ability to distinguish between right and wrong and self-judgment is not enough. In addition, this society is complex, so it is inseparable from the guidance of parents and teachers. Paying attention to family education is the necessity of modern education, and it is also the key to the success or failure of implementing quality education in schools. As a school, it has the obligation and ability to give timely and appropriate guidance to family education. In order to achieve the common goal, we must "think wholeheartedly and work wholeheartedly", so that our education will have benefits and hope.