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Barracuda is stupid.
Scientists did an experiment, putting a barracuda into a pool with many small fish. Whenever barracuda is hungry, it opens its mouth and swallows the small fish. After a while, the scientist covered the pike with a glass bottle. At first, the little fish swam around outside the bottle, and the pike greeted it, but it hit the bottle wall every time. Slowly, Parker's impact is getting smaller and smaller. Finally, it was completely desperate and gave up all efforts to hunt small fish.
At this time, the scientists took away the bottle that trapped it, and the smashed pike sank to the bottom of the pool, motionless. No matter how many small fish swim around it, or even around its mouth, it will never open its mouth again. Finally, poor Parker starved to death.
The bird in the cage is a barracuda, and it can't fly out of the cage anymore.
After listening to this story, you may say that this Parker is really stupid. Barracuda is not stupid. It is good at catching small fish. It is a normal fish that can live independently. However, after hitting the wall countless times, Parker began to doubt his fishing ability. Later, it was completely desperate and firmly believed that it was a stupid fish. This sense of incompetence finally killed it.
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The more you learn, the more stupid you become.
Katz, an American preschool educator, found a similar phenomenon in children, which he called "learned stupidity" or "learned helplessness". He said that in the process of learning, many children will gradually feel incompetent in learning for some reasons, thus losing self-confidence. In the eyes of others, they will feel "more and more stupid".
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So, how do children become "stupid"?
1, a game that can never be won (there is no concept of success)
If we let our children play a game, the difficulty of the game is beyond their existing understanding ability, but we didn't give him any explanation. As a result, children always don't know how to play, and every attempt fails, so their feelings will get worse and worse. No one else said that he would feel stupid.
If you rarely get the feeling of "winning" in your child's life. In the end, he may become a clumsy and timid child.
2. Premature knowledge transfer (meta-cognitive bias)
Some parents who are keen on so-called "intellectual development" actively train their children in reading, writing and arithmetic. Those academic knowledge does not conform to children's cognitive characteristics. Although children can learn by rote by parroting, they don't understand, so they often can't promote their intellectual development. On the contrary, it will bring great learning pressure to children, reduce their interest in learning and dampen their self-confidence.
3. Many negative hints (negative personality)
There is a fairy tale full of moral: there is a beautiful princess who was locked in a tower by a witch since she was a child, and she can only see witches every day. The witch says to her every day, "You are so ugly that everyone who sees you will be afraid." The princess believed the witch and was afraid of being laughed at by others. Until one day, a prince passed under the tower and saw the fairy-like beauty of the princess, which surprised him and saved her. The princess realized in the mirror that she was so beautiful.
In fact, many parents may inadvertently act as "witches".
Being submerged in so many negative hints all day, how can a child not really believe that he is really stupid? When children are convinced that they are stupid and have poor learning ability because of the above reasons, they will have a serious sense of inferiority and self-doubt, and the subconscious will have a "protective effect" and refuse new information to enter the memory bank to protect their master's beliefs. The result is really a silly child who can't learn anything