Is it really useless for children to talk back?
From the perspective of educating children, children who obey their parents will be better trained, will not conflict with their parents, and get along very comfortably and happily. However, in terms of ability, such children are much worse than those who talk back.
1. Improve expression ability
First of all, we need to change that children speak not to irritate others, but to express their ideas, hoping that others will know their thoughts and hope that they can be understood and respected by others. Expression itself is closely related. Thinking. Children can't live without it. They need to think and organize their language and express their ideas accurately.
For example, if a child wants to buy a dress he likes, and after being rejected by his mother, he wants to achieve his goal, he will find out various reasons and convince his mother with them. Pay attention to words, intonation, etc. As time goes by, children's language expression ability will reach a new level.
2. Respect your feelings.
The child talked back because he felt that others made him uncomfortable. For example, if you ask your child to do his homework immediately after school, he will ask, "Why? At the end of the day, I am very tired. Can't I rest? " Children will respect their feelings and ideas and will not change because of parents' interference or external influence. Such children have stronger self-esteem and a better sense of self-acceptance.
3. Better solving ability
Time to go home. You urged the child to leave the playground, but the child was still not satisfied. He will refuse your request.
"No, I'm not finished!"
"It's late, I must go home!"
"No, can I call 10 minutes?"
Talking back is not a bad thing for children, but it must be managed. Only by following these two principles can punishment be effective.
In this way, most parents will obey their children and then play 10 minutes. It can be seen that the purpose of children talking back is to solve problems. In the process of speaking, children can constantly improve their problem-solving ability.
What measures should parents take to deal with their children's back talk?
1. Avoid nagging
Many children often talk back from their parents' nagging.
When parents talk too much, children often feel annoyed and have rebellious psychology, which leads to children talking back.
2. Pay attention to children
Because children are 5 or 6 years old, they are particularly eager to get recognition and respect from their parents. Mom and dad must know how to talk back. Ask children more things and give them the right to choose.
For example, go out to play and ask for children's opinions; Buy toys for children, let them choose by themselves, and so on, so that children can feel your trust in him.
This kind of care makes children feel respected, listened to and valued, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious and the echo will be much less.
3. Remind children to change their way of speaking
Although the answer is not a bad thing, some children will say something radical when they talk back, which is absolutely wrong. We need to guide children to express different opinions in the right way. This is what parents need to do when children "answer".
For example, you can say, "I don't like it when you say that, but you can calmly convince me with your reasons."
Encourage children to express their ideas, whether they are angry or sad, but only when they speak well can parents listen carefully and then turn the dialogue into an effective dialogue.
Let children know that parents attach great importance to their feelings and ideas. They have the right to discuss different views, but they must pay attention to their manners and attitudes.