What this means here is that children must be given some room to grow up. Whether educating children to be adults or going to school, parents should not arrange their time to be full. Children may not follow stylized things, and may even break them. This is the case in study and life. We must give them some freedom. Pushing too hard or too regularly will only make them feel bored and produce some rebellious psychology, which will affect their growth and study.
Encourage him to go out to exercise more.
Nowadays, many students prefer to stay at home rather than go out. They prefer to play mobile phones rather than have too much contact with the outside world, which makes it easy for children to get various diseases at home. Parents must not let their children stay at home often, and encourage them to go out to exercise more, so as to ensure their physical health and psychological comfort. Especially for students at an important stage of study, their study pressure is very great. At this time, it is necessary to go out for a walk and exercise more, which can not only relieve stress, but also enhance immunity, so as not to get sick and fall off the chain at a critical moment.
Step 3 listen attentively
Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Don't be a "deaf-mute" parent, be sure to hear the child's voice, see the child's mood and communicate with the child, especially in learning, listen carefully to the child's thoughts, and don't always let the child learn this and that according to his own wishes.
4. Give up perfectionism
We all expect our children to show their best and everything is perfect, which will weaken their self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. This perfectionism is usually reflected in the requirements for children's academic performance. If a child doesn't do well in the exam, he is required to do well in it. If children do well in the exam, they are expected to do better. In fact, for children's learning, we must not be too demanding and perfect. We should see the level of our children, instead of asking them to do something that they may not be able to do at all.
5. Give him a stage to perform.
As mentioned above, we must give our children some room to grow up and explore their talents. In this scene of life, you can't stipulate what role your children must play, but give them a stage to perform, whether it is wonderful or not, and give them a chance to perform.
Principles to be followed in educating children
1, fish tank rule
The tropical goldfish in the fish tank is three inches long, and no matter how long it is kept, it won't grow up. However, if you put this goldfish in the pool, the original three-inch goldfish can grow to a foot in two months.
The same goes for children's education. Children need free space to grow up. Parental protection is like a fish tank. Children will never grow into big fish in their parents' fish tanks. If children want to grow up healthily and vigorously, they must be given free space to move around, instead of sticking to the "fish tank" provided by a small parent. With the progress of society and the growth of knowledge, parents should restrain their thoughts and impulses and give their children room to grow freely.
2, the law of wolf nature
Wolves are the most curious animals in the world. They don't take anything for granted, but tend to learn and experience by themselves. The charm and novelty of nature always amazes wolves. Wolves are always interested in the surrounding environment, so they can constantly look for food in the environment and understand the dangers, so as to survive effectively.
Therefore, to cultivate children's super learning ability, we must cultivate children's curiosity about the world, let him observe life carefully and use interest as his learning teacher. Such a child will be a bright star in his future life, constantly having new ideas and new inspirations for his work.
3. South wind effect
The north wind and the south wind bet on who is better, and they decide who can take off the coat of pedestrians. No matter how fierce the north wind is, pedestrians just wrap their clothes tighter and tighter; The south wind blows only gently, so people open their coats.
The south wind effect tells people that tolerance is a more powerful force than punishment. The same is true of educating children. Criticizing the parents of children blindly will eventually find that children are increasingly not listening to themselves. Every child can make mistakes. Parents should tolerate their children's shortcomings, deal with various problems in daily life objectively, rationally and scientifically, and at the same time do their own training work from their own perspective, so as to better educate their children.
Misunderstandings that should be avoided in educating children
1, asking too much of children.
It is a common problem for many parents to ask too much of their children. The tutor expert of NLP (Body-Mind Language Programming) College in Guilin believes that it is impossible for parents to achieve 100% by themselves, and it is also difficult for children to achieve 100%. It is required of children to get full marks in every subject.
Experts say that many parents want their children to put mental arithmetic first, painting first and piano first, which is very unrealistic. If the demands on children are too high, children will find it difficult to achieve and their self-confidence will be easily hit. Parents should try their best to discover the advantages of their children and help them build confidence. Everything only requires children to do their best, not necessarily to do their best. This is the best education for children.
Don't spoil your children.
For the healthy growth of children, parents should give their children full love, but excessive love has become doting, doting and laissez-faire, which is harmful to their health. So, what are the manifestations of doting?
2. 1. Parents are obedient to their children, responsive, unprincipled and demanding.
2.2, arrange everything for children, over-care, don't let children do what they can or should do.
2.3. The material life provided for children is too superior, even beyond the normal economic ability of families.
2.4, don't give children the opportunity to contact difficulties and difficult environment, don't let children suffer a little injustice.
3. Don't set an example.
"What kind of parents, what kind of children." This is the consensus of the education sector. However, it is difficult for many parents to realize this. Experts say that children are the spiritual products of parents, and all the problems of children 13 years old can be found in parents. Therefore, parents should change themselves, not their children. Set a good example for children and pass on positive energy.
I always want to control my children.
Respecting the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which also leads many parents to put on a dignified posture when educating their children, in an attempt to control their children and let them act according to their own wishes. But the result of control often leads to confrontation. Experts say that if parents just ask their children blindly without considering their requirements, once the children fail to meet the requirements, parents will be very angry and angry. Such a behavior demonstration will also make the child learn and become an obstacle to his character.