We must first make it clear that the relationship between husband and wife is greater than that between parents and children in a family. In family education, this is a basic principle, and experienced psychological counselors often emphasize this point. In other words, a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and a stable parent-child relationship will not be greatly affected, but will affect the healthy growth of children. In the process of psychological counseling, we often meet such families. It is often that children have psychological problems, and parents bring their children to do psychotherapy. Children do have bad symptoms, but at this time children are often passive, and parents seem to be more anxious than children, but the cognitive level still stays on the children's problems.

By understanding the relevant information, we will find that behind the children's problems is the family problem, that is, the relationship between husband and wife has gone wrong, which leads the children to maintain the bad relationship between husband and wife by sacrificing themselves, and even face the disintegration of the marriage relationship. In other words, children always use such a small situation to attract their parents' attention, thus inadvertently alleviating the contradiction between husband and wife. The counselor's explanation is that the child is too sensible and particularly distressed by innocent children. Of course, this is a child's subconscious behavior. Ta did this because she didn't want to be separated from her parents. He is afraid of losing his parents' love. He was trying to save his family, so something happened to Ta. It is no exaggeration to say that a moth puts out a fire. Of course, this is only the superficial phenomenon we see, and we need to answer it with professional psychological knowledge.

On the other hand, parents love their children. When something happens to a child, parents will be nervous and the focus will naturally be on the child. The child looks normal at this time, the family will be calm for a while, and everyone will be happy once. However, after a period of time, children will have bad emotions, parents will fall into self-blame again, and the focus will return to children. The child looks normal again, and the family can maintain peace for a period of time. This kind of situation will happen again and again, which will make parents have a headache, but they still don't know where the problem lies.

When encountering such problems, you need to find a professional psychological counselor for family therapy. Professional psychological counselors will help them find the crux of the problem and guide couples to realize that bad relationship between husband and wife affects their children's emotions. More seriously, this is the real reason for children's psychological problems. This is by no means groundless and alarmist. When the family atmosphere is in a state of tension for a long time, children will feel insecure. Children's fear comes from the scene of their parents quarreling constantly, and they will think that they are not good enough. So their parents will quarrel or even separate, and they will often blame themselves. Children will become sensitive and then turn into flattering personality characteristics, which is very unfavorable for their growth.