Sometimes it is better to "stand by" and engage in preschool education. This is the first time to attend a small class this year. After a few months, I deeply feel that children in small classes are so dependent on teachers, such as tying their shoelaces and buttoning their buttons. Especially after waking up from a nap every day, there are always a large group of children around me, and I can help them do these things. To be honest, sometimes I really feel a little annoyed. But when I saw the children's pleading faces and heard their childish words: "Teacher, can you help me get dressed?" "Teacher, my shoelaces can't be tied?" "Teacher, help me …", I really couldn't bear not to help. But when I think deeply, the child's self-care ability is already very poor. How can children's self-care ability be improved if they are indulged in this way? What shall we do? This question has been bothering me for a long time. One day, when I was taking my children to outdoor activities, I accidentally twisted my arm and couldn't move for a while. After taking a nap, the children still surrounded me as usual and asked me to help with this and that, but several children saw my injured arm and got dressed sensibly. After a while, several children who always told me to get dressed actually put them on. Their clothes were buckled wrong and their shoes were put on backwards, but they wore them themselves after all. It suddenly occurred to me that they didn't want to do these things, but they didn't. So, why don't I take this opportunity to let him do his own thing? So, I said to the children, "Children, the teacher accidentally hurt his arm, and the doctor said it would take a long time to get well." The teacher seems unable to help you get dressed these days. Why don't you dress yourself, tie your shoelaces and button up? " The vast majority of children agreed, but there were still a few children sitting on the bed with clothes and saying nothing. I knew that they really couldn't wear it themselves, so I asked the capable children to help me, and told them to go home and let their mothers teach them, practice more, get dressed and tie their shoelaces as soon as possible. After a while, all the children finally got dressed and tied their shoelaces. Button up. Looking at a red face, I feel relieved. After this little thing, the problem that has been bothering me for a long time has finally been solved, and I have some new ideas on how to improve my child's self-care ability. Sometimes, "standing by" and forcing children to do it by themselves is a good way of education.