Sharing the methods and experiences of educating children will help children build self-confidence and self-esteem.
Our parents and friends often neglect to cultivate children's self-confidence and safeguard their self-esteem. For example, if you do everything for your child, the child will have no chance to do things, your self-esteem and self-confidence will not be established, and you can't build it at all. We should always encourage children to think independently and make decisions independently. Before we criticize children's mistakes, we must first praise their good aspects, so as to maintain their self-esteem and self-confidence. Even if the child does something wrong, praise his independent problem-solving behavior and then explain why he is wrong, which will help the child maintain self-esteem and cultivate self-confidence. Many criticisms can be turned into questions for children, and the effect will be more effective than criticism.
Seize the opportunity to educate children.
There are many opportunities to educate children, such as arranging children to do housework, borrowing things from neighbors, and letting children buy daily necessities themselves. Guide children to start from the small things around them, from easy to difficult, step by step, and children can grow up healthily. There are many opportunities for education. What's the point? Grasp? . Children's birthdays, Children's Day and the beginning of a new semester are all good opportunities to encourage children to overcome difficulties and take a new step. Children's mistakes, after exams, before participating in activities, etc. It is also a good educational opportunity. Making good use of these opportunities to educate children will achieve results that are difficult to achieve at ordinary times.
Cultivate children's ability to surpass themselves and develop themselves.
Modern society is a society full of competition and challenges. No one can rely on a little knowledge and skills, keep eating, keep learning, and keep surpassing themselves in order to achieve happiness and success in life. If parents want their children to become excellent talents, they should give them an insatiable enterprising ability. Parents can guide their children to know themselves correctly and rationally, analyze objectively and fairly, know their strengths and weaknesses, and then give full play to their strengths, overcome their weaknesses and constantly beat themselves. When children have made some achievements, they will be affirmed, put forward new goals, and inspire children to keep making progress. Over time, children can constantly surpass themselves.
Educating children requires a process.
When we see plants. Flowering? Is it natural to think of it? And the result? . In fact, it takes many steps from flowering to fruition, and so does education. In educating children, many parents lack patience and don't understand? Process? It is necessary and important to treat children's learning and mistakes, impatient and impatient. Ignoring the process of education is a manifestation of vanity and utility, and teachers and parents should avoid this kind of psychology! To educate children, we must understand that responsibility is more important than vanity! Honesty and diligence are the cornerstones of ultimate success.
The methods and experiences of educating children to share love should be appropriate and strict.
Mentors often exist? Polarization? . Love her to death or be cruel. Parents who love their children too much often do everything for their children, so that children can't learn to overcome difficulties with their own strength from an early age, don't do their own things, and take the help of others for granted. Some parents use it? Love? For some reasons, he is too strict with children, often scolding them and even hitting them. Such children are often obedient, but gradually lose self-esteem, self-confidence, courage and perseverance, as well as the desire to dare to tell the truth. What should be the ideal tutor? Good and strict love? Parents should say more encouraging words to their children, share happy times with them and give them more room for development. I believe that children must be the best.
Don't take the place of children's choices.
Parents in China often treat their children in one way? Don't worry? Psychology, many things are to help children. Help children dress since childhood, let children sleep with adults since childhood, help children go to school, check stationery books, and prevent children from doing housework. Even when I grow up, I have to find a job and get married. Under this arrangement, children's curiosity and psychology of trying are obliterated, and they become lazy, dependent, afraid of hardship and fatigue, indecisive and irresponsible. Let children do what they can as soon as possible. The key choice is to let the children choose by themselves, which can increase their sense of responsibility and self-confidence.
Understanding of multiple intelligences.
Howard Gadner, a psychologist and professor at Harvard University, put forward the theory of human multiple intelligences, which holds that people have at least seven intelligences independently, namely, speech? Language intelligence, music? Rhythm intelligence, logic? Mathematical intelligence, vision? Spatial intelligence, body? Sports intelligence, self-awareness? Introspective intelligence, communication? Exchange information, etc. These intelligences are intricately combined in different ways and degrees in different people, so that everyone's intelligence has unique performance and characteristics. Therefore, we should be soberly aware that intelligence is multifaceted and has different forms of expression, and the criteria for judging a person's intelligence and success should also be varied. Don't jump to conclusions about children. Teach children to be good at discovering their own strengths, and explore and develop them so that every child can succeed in the end.
Mistakes are as important as success.
Most parents always think? Isn't it good for children to make mistakes? But for children's growth, mistakes are as inevitable and meaningful as success. The process of children making mistakes is the process of children constantly trying, innovating and growing up. Because children are afraid of making mistakes, they dare not try anything, and grow up cautiously and with trepidation. This is the biggest failure. Mistakes are also a kind of beauty and a kind of success. When children make mistakes, parents must be calm. When this is a good thing and an opportunity for children to progress and grow, don't make a fuss, don't blame, and don't give children a chance to try and practice because they are afraid of making mistakes.
Learn to praise children.
Now everyone understands appreciation education, but praising children is also a science and an art, and only when it is used properly can the ideal effect be achieved. First of all, praise should be fair and reasonable, realistic, not exaggerated and not narrow-minded. If praise is inaccurate, children will have doubts and will not be motivated. If praise is wrong, children will think it is right and have a bad influence. Secondly, praise should be true. Only by sincerely praising can children respond positively. Absent-minded and perfunctory, children often feel that they are lying to him. Parents give sincere praise to their children's every progress, which will make them infected by sincerity and affection. I want to do better in the future? Determination and confidence. Third, praise should be timely, otherwise things will change. Without the atmosphere at that time, the role of praise will be reduced. There are many forms of praise: in addition to sincere language, there are admiring eyes and smiles, kind hugs, gentle touches, and so on. Children can't grow up overnight. Parents should always pay attention to their children's behaviors, often praise their advantages and progress, and let them fully feel their parents' trust and encouragement.
Teach children to appreciate others and not be self-centered.
Only children are often surrounded by others. They seldom consider others, let alone appreciate them. Naturally, there is no cooperation, which brings troubles to interpersonal relationships and is unfavorable to your future career. Parents should educate their children to appreciate others, so that children can treat themselves correctly and cooperate well with others. You can often invite other children to participate in activities with your own children and guide them to appreciate others. If we can educate our children to learn an advantage from everyone they meet at an early age, then our children will be excellent.
Children who grow up picky learn to be harsh; Children who grow up in hostility learn to fight;
Children who grow up laughing learn to be shy; Children who grow up in humiliation learn to feel guilty;
Children who grow up in tolerance learn to be patient; Encourage growing children to learn to be confident;
Children who grow up in praise learn to appreciate; Children who grow up in fairness learn integrity;
Support children to grow up and learn to trust; Children who grow up in recognition learn to love themselves.