Hello, first of all, we should think about the specific situation of "disobedience" Is the content of his disobedience the needs of parents or the needs of children themselves? Because the cognitive ability of three-year-old children is still in the process of development, many requirements of parents may go against the nature of children and meet the needs of parents. For example, children must sit up straight when eating, but they can't bend over. In this example, the children's bending over to eat does not affect their own meals, nor does it violate social order or rules. Therefore, it is the demand of parents, not children, to ask their children to sit up and eat straight. Second, we should also consider that children's development is not perfect, and their cognition, language and sports are not perfect. Children may not be able to understand their parents' requirements or their bodies are not enough to meet their parents' requirements. For example, the reason why a child can't sit up straight is not that he is disobedient, but that it is difficult for the child to sit up straight because of insufficient back muscle tension. Therefore, parents need to exercise their children's muscle tension instead of thinking that their children are disobedient; Third, the child is often disobedient, or it may be that he wants to get the attention of his parents by disobedience, or that he is avoiding doing what his parents ask.

After analyzing the reasons for children's disobedience, parents can make adjustments according to the actual situation. 1. Children's good behavior habits can be obtained through imitation, so parents should first do a good job of example education, so that children can acquire good behavior habits in a subtle way; 2. Parents should learn to accept their children, or communicate with their children if their requirements are not their own. When their children meet their parents' expectations, parents need to encourage and reward them in time. You can use the formula of "behavior+quality", such as "Wow, you have finished. . . You see, you are a capable baby. " 3. Give children room for growth and development, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude.

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