At first glance, the time is quite long, but the time allocated to the "skills" that need to be mastered is actually very limited. I believe every parent has a profound experience in this respect.
Generally speaking, I think knowledge and skills are based on quality. If you deviate from the quality, no matter how many skills you have mastered and how much knowledge you have learned, you will have no roots and no water, and you will eventually get nothing. I think there are three qualities that are the most important, key and core in children's growth.
The first quality: a healthy body. A healthy body will bring a lot of energy and make a person full of vitality. In an increasingly competitive society, this is actually a very advantageous ability!
A healthy body must first have good living habits, and then you can enjoy the happiness brought by exercise. In a civilized and affluent society, sports is not only a part of fashionable life, but also represents a person's quality of life, and it is also a kind of fun that everyone should have. It can be said that in the future society, a person who loves sports is a person with taste and interest.
The second quality: sound psychology and correct outlook on life. A person has established the concept of life, and no matter what career he does, it is easy to succeed. A person has found his own way of life, and it is easy to live happily under any circumstances.
The six most important abilities of children.
The first ability: self-awareness. If you know yourself clearly, you will find the key to life. Simply put, it is to let children know their own personality, interests, advantages and disadvantages, and know what kind of person they want to be, what they want to do and what kind of life they want to live. When children find themselves, they will put forward new requirements for themselves and have the ability of independent thinking and self-learning. These two skills can help children realize their self-worth step by step.
The second ability: the ability to love. This is the guarantee of communication, emotional and psychological health. Many parents in China think that "love" is needless to say and cannot be cultivated. Therefore, everyone loves others in their own way. If the other person doesn't feel anything, he will feel wronged. If you are depressed for a long time, there will be fierce emotional conflicts.
Our parents paid an extraordinary price, even self-sacrifice, but did not say "I love you" to their children; What is more sad is that our children have received a lot of love beyond reason, but they still can't feel love.
Love can actually be very simple.
Parents accompany their children to chat, read books and play games; Listen to your child and tell him how you feel about him. Hug the child and let him feel the kindness of physical contact; Take the children out for a walk, say hello to the uncle downstairs and say "hello"; Invite classmates and friends to play at home and encourage children to discover the advantages of friends; Let children know strange friends by themselves and give them time and space to play independently; Let the child know that no matter what the child does, parents will always love him. ....
These don't need money; These are all education of love. After receiving the education of love, children will feel and accept the goodwill from others, treat the world with tolerance and make their lives better.
The third ability: the ability to exercise. Exercise is the forging from body and mind to character.
If learning is the way to improve children's growth center wisdom, then exercise is the way to shape a healthy body and character. In fact, the greatest value that sports can bring to children is physical health and character cultivation.
What is contained in sports is the ability to resist pressure, persistence, fair competition, self-confidence, eagerness to win, unity and cooperation, and growth.
Parents should regard sports as a part of family life and play, not as a part of study and examination. You don't have to ask children to master it so quickly, you have to be patient. The key is to protect their interest in sports and cultivate their habit of active sports.
Let children enjoy and love sports by themselves.
The fourth ability: the ability to live. Life is complete with life. Without the ability to live, we will ignore the cognition of beauty and restrict the improvement of learning. Knowledge in many fields comes from life. Learning in the fields of science, technology, art and culture will be greatly limited if there is no accumulation and experience from life.
We will find that many children who study art and architecture can only draw sketches and recite art history, and even the colors of their clothes are not well matched. When they study abroad, they find that their comprehensive quality lags far behind others. And many of these qualities in life begin from childhood. People who can only do problems and exams and don't understand life will be severely restricted in their careers.
The fifth ability: time management. At the same time, win efficiency.
Many adults will have this problem. This ability, which seems to require no special study and training, is actually very important to everyone. Why some people can run thousands of enterprises and still have time to study and travel; And some people run a small company, but they are too busy to have a holiday. They can only sleep for four or five hours every day, and there will always be endless things to deal with.
I believe that most parents have a headache for their children's "muddling along". Eating slowly, dressing slowly, brushing your teeth slowly, sleeping slowly and doing your homework slowly, every seemingly simple thing takes a long time to complete, which often makes parents very angry. Even more exasperating, I have to do the same thing again every day!
People who know how to use time will have more time than others. In fact, the time has not changed much, just a reasonable plan. In terms of methods, it is a good way to let children participate in making the timetable themselves. Children make their own decisions and the degree of completion is naturally higher. And parents can be well-founded when reminding, without taking an anonymous fire.
Of course, the purpose of doing this is nothing more than helping children form habits. Moreover, according to practical experience, most children still abide by it well in the initial stage. Once the time is long, they often forget and return to the state of muddling along every day.
So parents should also help their children psychologically. For example, when a child has a homework that must be completed, but refuses to do it all the time, you can analyze the reasons for refusing to do it with your child. Then help the child to finish as soon as possible, so that the child can feel a sense of relief and accomplishment. This kind of experience can be repeated, and many experiences will help children really develop good habits.
The sixth ability: wealth management. A good outlook on wealth is the guarantee of happiness.
Our concept of children's wealth has always been vague. Maybe some parents are not very clear about their wealth view. But from the long-term trend, the correct concept of wealth should be cultivated from an early age. At least the following four points need to be made clear to the children.
First, parents' wealth does not naturally belong to their children. Nowadays, many young people will complain that their families are not rich enough and do not give themselves enough support. However, it should be clear that family wealth does not naturally belong to children. Like Buffett, Gates and others, they have donated most of their wealth, and their children are willing to be ordinary people who struggle for themselves and have their own lives.
Second, use your own ability to earn your own wealth. Consumption wealth can't extract personal value at all. So, you see those who spend money but don't make money are far less happy than those who are self-sufficient. In other words, it is difficult to make money, and no one will spend money.
Third, wealth is not evil, but the withdrawal of personal value. The process of wealth accumulation is the extraction of a person's value and ability. In the past, we always asked our children to study hard and not think about making money. As a result, many children get doctoral degrees, but they can only get very low wages. Why not encourage children to exchange their abilities for more wealth? An honest, knowledgeable, courageous and creative person can completely obtain corresponding wealth by virtue of his own ability.
Fourth, managing wealth well is the foundation of happiness. Wealth itself cannot directly bring happiness, but wealth can give us the freedom to choose our lifestyle.
The accumulation of wealth depends not only on our own efforts, but also on each other's financial management. You can let children try to manage a sum of money from an early age, so that children can gradually establish an understanding of the value of things when they consume. The same ice cream, why some one yuan, some dozens of yuan? Which is more valuable, buying a toy or playing skating? ..... These ideas are the basis of establishing the concept of money.